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 zaibeisongmingcirenhezhude《tashaxing》zhong，youliangjuhuashizheiyangxiede：“dangnianbukenjiachunfeng，wuyuanwuguquebeiqiufengwusha。”zheishoushiyuanbenshiguanyuhehuadeshengmingzhouqi，danshirenqueyinyuledalingweihunnvxingdekankeshenghuo，chengweileyijumingyan。xiangqinweishenmebunengtuotaijiu？

nianjijiaodadeshengnv，wulunzainageshidai，douchengweirenmenreqieguanzhudequnti。

 zairenmendechuantongyishizhong，30suiyihoumeiyoujiehundenvrenshitazijidecuo。youxierenshenzhizhijiezhizetashiyigemeiyourenxiangyaodenvren，zheikeyishuojinianzhangdeweihunnvxingdailailejidadepianjian。

 raner，meigerendouyouzijidexuanzequan，buxuyaogenjubierendeyishilaiguihuaziji。ruguonibunengduizijideshenghuofuze，zheibushihencanrenma？

 duiyunianlingjiaodadeweihunnvxing，tamenkeyiyouzijidexuanze。weishenmetamenbixuyongnianlinglaixianzhitamen？tamenyekeyigensuizijidexin，guotamenxiangyaodeshenghuo。

 chengran，tamenyijingguoleshihunnianling，zaihunyinzhongmeiyoutaiduodeyoushi，danzheibingbuyiweizhetamenshicuode，gengbunengshuotamenshibunengjiehundenvren。

zhengrupengyouxiaoqiansuoshuo：meiyoujiehundenianling，zhiyoujiehundeaiqing，ruguomeiyouyudaoduideren，weishenmeyidingyaojiangjiujiehun？

xiaoqianjinnian37sui，benkebiye，zaishenzhengongzuo，yuexin2wan。

tandaohunyin，xiaoqiantanyan，tabingbujuedenvrendaolenianlingjiuyaojiehun，tayouzijidexuanzehezhuiqiu，meiyourennengqiangpota。

 shenbianhenduorendouzhiyita，30duosuihaimeijiehun，shibushijiehunle？xiaoqiandangchangfanjibieren：wobushibunengjiehun，ershibuxiangjiehun。

shenzhiyourenbuhuaihaoyidiwen：“danshenzheimejiu，nandaobuxuyaonanrenma？”

xiaoqianzhiyan：“woburenweidanshenyoushenmebuhao，ruguoheyigedizhiliangdenanrenshenghuozaiyiqi，neitongkude。”

 shishishang，henduorenduidalingnvxingdouyouyidingdepianjian，yaomerenweitamenaoman，yaomepipingtamendeyangaoshoudi，qishizheishibugongpingde。

 qishihenduoxiangxiaoqianzheiyangdedalingnvxingdouyouhengaodesuzhi。tamenyouzijidexiangfa，youzijidexiangfa，duli，younengli，youzugoudeshenghuoxinxin。

 ruguoyonghunyinlaipanduantamen，ziranshibugongpingde，tamenbushibunengjiehun，ershitamenmeiyouyudaozhidezunjingdenanren，buyuanyijiehun。

zaijianchizuozijidelushang，tamenbuduandichengweigenghaodeziji，nandaoyoucuoma？

 xiaoqiancengzaiyicijuhuishangshuo，cong27suiyilai，tayizhizaixiangqin，dantameiyouzhaodaoyigegaozhiliangdenanren。tayeyoudiancankui。raner，taburenweizheishitadecuo，dannanrendetiaojianzhendebunengmanzutadeyaoqiu。

shishishang，xiaoqianzaizeoushifeichangjinshen，taxiangjiadenanrenbixuyuexin3wan，zhishidati，nenggouzunzhongnvxing。

xiaoqianjieshishuo，zijiyuexin2wanzuoyou，zirannanrendeshourubunengdiyuta，fouzeshuangfangdoubupei，nanrenyehuijuedemeimianzi。

 weileshiweilaidehunyindadaopingheng，tabixuzaijingjishangjiancha，zainanrendenenglihezerenshangjiancha，ruguonanrenbugouhao，tahuijuedehenlei。

 zaitakanlai，lianggerenburuhunyindiantanghou，bicidouyoulianghaodejichu，youhenqiangdenengli，sanguandadaoyidingchengdudeqihe，guanxicainenggengjiaronghe。

tongguozheizhongfangshi，lianggerenzaijiaoliu、yanjie、sixiang、shenghuohegongzuoshangdounengzuodaoshijunlidi，zheiyangdezuhegengjiawanmei。

yushi，xiaoqianhezhiqiantanlesanniandenanyoufenshouhou，zaiyemeiyoutanguolianai，fanerrangzijibiandegenghao。

 henanpengyoufenshoudeshihou，xiaoqiangangman27sui，shinianhoutajiudanshenle。raner，tabingbugandaogudu，ershibasuoyoudeshijiandouhuazaitishengzijishang，ganjuehenchongshi。

duonianlai，tayeyudaoleyixieyouxiudenanren，danlitaxinzhongdeqiwanghaiyouyidingdechaju，zuizhongfangqiletanlianai。

zaitongshimenyanzhong，xiaoqianshiyiweijingzhidulidenvxing，shenghuodehenhao，zoudaonalidounengchengweiyidaomeilidefengjingxian。

buguo，xiaoqianhuidaohunanlaojiashi，quebeijiarenmaleyidun，fumugengshiduitabuman，haiyangyanbujiehunjiubiehuilai。

xiaoqianyehenweiqu，mianduibierendezhize，takeyiwudongyuzhong，danmianduifumu，tahaishibunenghushitamendeyijian。

 yinci，xiaoqianzuizhongbeipozoushanglexiangqinzhilu。tameiniandouhuijinxingduocixiangqin，danhaowuliwaidimeiyouchenggong。tabumingbaiweishenmezhaobudaogaozhiliangdenanren？

liru，xiaoqianshuo，youyicixiangqin，tayudaoleyigenanren，yikaishiduitayinxianghenhao，kexiliaolebudaosanfenzhongjiushiwangle。

nanrenyishanglaijiuwenta：“sanshiduosuidenihainengshenghaizima？”

yishunjian，xiaoqianjiuyoulelikaidexiangfa。tarenweizheigenanrenzhendebuzunzhongnvren。nvrenshishengyudegongjuma？

xianran，zheigenanrendedananzizhuyihenqiang，buzhidejiaowang。

suoyi，xiaoqianhuidaotashenbian：“nvrenzainiyanlishishenghaizima？”

nanrentingle，shuo：“kannizhangdehenpiaoliang，yiqiantanguolianai，haishiyigewanzhengdenvren？”

 zheijuhuayichulai，xiaoqianjiuzhijiefoudinglezheigenanren，zaiyebuxianghetaxiangqinle。suiranyigenanrennianshouru30duowan，jiajingbucuo，danshitadesuzhizhendehencha，wanquanwushinvren。

xiaoqiansuihoushuo：“womenbuheshi，duibuqi。”

shuowan，xiaoqianjiuzoule，yilushangtadouhenwuyu，xianzaiyouxienanrenzhendehenqiguai，tazhendeshangbuqi。

 leisiyuzheizhongxiangqin，xiaoqianjinglilehenduoci，meicitadouxiangdaren。danshi，tabijingshiyigeshouguolianghaojiaoyudenvren，buhuineimebuhege。

 jiuzheiyang，xiaoqianyijingxiangqinshinianle，haimeiyouzhaodaoheshidenanren，rengranguozhejingzhidedanshenshenghuo。tajuedegaozhiliangdenanrentaishaole，tadexinhenlei，tabuxiangzaizhetengle。

 zhengshiyinweixiaoqianjingliletaiduo，yeyuelaiyuekandaolexianshi，tayexiangqingchule，yuqijiangdizhiliangdehunyin，burugaozhiliangdedanshen。

xiaoqianxianzaidehunyinguanshi：meiyoujiehundenianling，zhiyoujiehundeaiqing。

tashuo，wuluntaduodanianji，tadouxuyaozhaoyigezhenzhengduidenanren，jueduibuhuiweiquzijijiehun。

 jiarumeiyouyudaoduideren，meiyouheshideaiqing，tazhendebuhuibaibaijiajiyigebuzhidedenanren。xiangqinweishenmebunengtuotaijiu？

yinci，xiaoqianxianzaidetaidushi，yudaoaiqingjiujia，yubudaoyebuyaoqiu，fanzhengtayigerenyenenghuodehenhao。

 shenghuozhong，kenenghuiyouhenduoxiangxiaoqianzheiyangdedalingnvxing，tamenjuedehunyinbushishenghuodebixuan，jiehunshengziyebushinvrendemingyun。

 tamenzhuiqiuxinzhongsuoqidaideai，suoyitamenzongshinulirangzijibiandegenghao，zhishiweileyouyitiandangtamenyudaozhenzhenggaozhiliangdenanrenshi，tamenyouzibenxianghupipei。

 zhengyinweiruci，jintiandeshengnvdaduobiandegengjiayouxiu。dangtamenyouzibenhexinxinxuanzezijideshenghuoshi，renmenbuyinggaimangmudizeguaitamen，shima？

zai《dushennvren》zhong，yishuxiedao：“yigehaoren，woweishenmeyaozuobierendechaqu？”

 duiyunianjijiaodadeshengnvlaishuo，weishenmebunengchengweigenghaodeziji，weishenmeyidingyaozuobierendechaqu？tamenyeshidulidegeti，buxuyaoyilaibieren。

ruguoyigenvren，zhendebiandeduli，tamengenzhezijidexinzou，shibushicuole？

worenwei，renmenbuyinggaimangmudiduitamenkeke，zhishaoyaojiyuyixielijie，yixiekuanrong。

meigerendouyouzijideshenghuofangshi，meiyouduicuodejueduiyiyi，jiyuyixiezunzhong，yexuhuigenghexie。

 meigerenlaidaozheigeshijiedoubushiweilehuochengbierendefanban。zhiyaotamennenganzhaozijideyiyuanshenghuo，guozijixihuandeshenghuo，jiuzhidezunzhong。

duiyunianlingjiaodadeshengnv，tamenyouzijidehunyinxuanze，yexuyaodedaozunzhong，bushima？

 xiangqinweishenmebunengtuotaijiu？zhengru《shengrenweiwang》suoshuo：“zhenzhengdexingfushinenggouwuyuanwuhuidijiehun。tabuyinggaiweifumujiehun。tabuyinggaizaiwaimiantingdaorenheliuyanfeiyu。ruguotatingdetaiduo，taxiangjiehun。tayinggaixianghetaxihuanderenjiehun，angshoutingxiong，feichangjianqiang，kewangshengli。”