相亲5年失败男人为何不娶，相亲为什么不能拖太久

 yourenwen：“shengnvzhendemeiyoushichangma？”xiamianyouyiwanduotiaopinglun，zongyuedulianggaodaqianwan，yinqilerenmenduishengnvderelietaolun。xiangqinweishenmebunengtuotaijiu？

congnanrendehuidalaikan，tamenyanzhongdedalingshengnvzaoyishiqulezeoudeyoushi，meiyouzibenkeyizizhuxuanze。

 zheishiyigelingrenxinsuideshishi。zongguanshenghuozhongdelizi，sihunianlingjiaodadeshengnvzhendeyuelaiyuenanjiehun，jihuzhaobudaoheshidejiehunduixiang。

yourenshuo，dalingnvxingzhisuoyizhaobudaoduixiang，shiyinweitamentaiguoxiongxinbobo，renbuchuxianshi，zheikenengyouyidingdedaoli。

 xuduoshengnvdouyoujiehunxinli。dangtamennianqingdeshihou，tamenduinanhaihentiaoti。tamenzongshirenweitamennengzhaodaogenghaode。yinci，suizheshijiandetuiyi，tamenyijingcuoguolejiehunnianling。

 30suiyihou，neixienianlingjiaodadeweihunnvxingjinruxiangqinshichang，jinglilexiangqinshibaidexili，zhujianyishidaozijishiqulezeoudeyoushi，biandebushouhuanying。

yinci，xuduonianzhangdeshengnv，douweinianqingshideaoman，fuchuletongkudedaijia。

 jidezaimengzhuchidexinxiangqindahuishang，wokandaoleyiwei42suidenvjiabin，tademingzijiaoxiaoyan。zheiweishiyeyouchengdedulinvxing，youzhelianghaodejiazhi、enadeshencaihekeaideqizhi，kanchengjueduiyouzhideshengnv。

buguo，zhengshizheiyangyiweizaishenghuozhongbeirenzhuipengdeyouzhinvxing，quebeiquanchangguanzhongguandiao，zaichangdenanjiabindoumeiyourenxuanzeta。

zuihou，xiaoyanzhinenganrantuichang，lianyipangdemengyeweicigandaowanxi。

孟还心疼地安慰说：

 “zaiwokanlai，42suizheigenianlingmeiyouwenti，ruguoyouwenti，zhishijintiandenanshengtainianqingle！”xiangqinweishenmebunengtuotaijiu？

huoxu，zaixianshidezeoumianqian，shengnvdeyiqieyoudian，zhongjiuhaishibuzhinianling。

duiyujuedaduoshushengnvlaishuo，zeouzuidadezhangaibushishujinanren，ershishujinianling。

 gongsiyouyiweitongshixiaomeng(huaming)，41sui，gongsigaoguan，yuexin3wan，nvqiangrenpiaoliangyouqizhi。hexiaoyanyiyang，tayejingliletongyangdexiangqinshibai。

 jingguowuniandexiangqin，xiaomengmeiyouchenggong，bushiyinweitabuhao，ershiyinweigenbenmeiyouheshidepipeiduixiang，putongnanrenwufadadaotadezeoubiaozhun。

xiangqinshi，xiaomengcengxianghongnianggongbuzijidezeoubiaozhun：yaoqiunanrenyuexin5wan，youshangjinxin，zhishidati，zunzhongnvxing。

raner，hongniangtanyanquanta：“burushidangjiangdibiaozhun，nizheigenianlingbuliuxing。”

xiaomengziranbutongyi，tarenweizijishigaozhiliangdenvren，weishenmeyaojiangdibiaozhunlaiyinghenanrenni？

jiuzheiyang，xiaomengshizhongjianchizijidebiaozhun，yiciyouyicidizouzaixiangqindelushang，yiciyouyicidijinglishibaidailaidedaji。

 xiaomengcengjingpingdandiduimeirenshuo，tazhiqianjiaodelianggenanpengyoutiaojiandoubucuo，qizhongyigeyuexin3wanduo，lingyigeyuexinzhiyou1wanduo，danshijiajinghenhao。

raner，xiaomenghelianggenanyouyinweixinggebuheerfenshou，houlaiyizhidanshen。

xiaomengshuo，tadezeoubiaozhunbingbugao，yinweitayaojiadenanren，zongbunengbiqiannanyoucha。

 suowei“renwanggaochuzou，shuiwangdichuliu。”xiaomengjuede，tayihoudehunyin，ruguodiyuxianzaideshenghuozhiliang，neiweishenmehaiyaojiehunni？

 shishishang，zaixianshizhong，yinggaiyouhenduonvxingyouzheiyangdexiangfa。zaixuduogaozhiliangdeshengnvkanlai，tamenyougenghaodetiaojian，jiashangyiqiandenanpengyoutiaojianhenhao，ziranjujuejiangdibiaozhun。

jiarujiehun，jiuyiweizhejiangdixianzaideshenghuozhiliang，shenzhidaotienanren，tamenningyuandanshen，yebuyuanjiangjiu。

 xiaomenghoulaishuo，tabuyidingyaojiajibaiwanfuweng，danshiyuexin5wanyijingshidixianle，ruguobunengmanzuzheigeyaoqiu，tazhendebunengweiquziji。

shishishang，meirenbuzhiyicitixingxiaomeng，ruguoyizhijianchizheiyangdebiaozhun，kongpahennanyuheshideduixiangxiangpipei。

weici，xiaomengyeyouyuleyixia，shifouzhendeyinggaijiangdizeoubiaozhun？

yiqian，tatiaobieren，xianzaitaliantiaodejihuidoushaole，tajuedehenbeidonghewunai。

xiaomengduocixiang：shengnvzhendemeiyoushichangma？mingmingzijishigeyouzhidenvren，zhangdepiaoliang，weishenmemeiyounanrenjiehunni？

jiaruyaotajieshouxianshi，jiangdibiaozhunjiajinanren，tazuobudao。

xianglaixiangqu，xiaomengjuedehaishiyaogenzhezijidexinzou，weici，taxuanze：ruguomeiyougaozhiliangdenanren，jiuyongyuanbuhuijiangjiu！

zai《yuanzhuopai》zhongsuoshuodeyiduanhua，tebiexianshi：

 “zaifenmianfangmian，40suiyishangdenvxingjibenshangshikunnande，dannanxingjishizai50suihuo60suiyekeyishenghaizi。yinci，dangnvxingzaixiangqinshichangyouzhudongquanshi，tamenyijingcuoguoleshiduonian，jianglaihuibiandeyuelaiyuekunnan。”

buxingdeshi，zhenzhengnenglijiezheigedaolideweihunnvxing，zhendebuduo。

shenghuozhong，xuduodalingshengnv，douhuibaozhezheiyangdetaiduduidaizeou：

 tamenrenweizijishigaozhiliangde，youtimiandegongzuo，gaoyuexin，jingzhidewaibiao，dulidenengli，youpinweideshenghuodengdeng，suoyouzheixiezaitamenkanlaifeichangzhongyaodeyoushi，zaiyuehuishichang，jihuhuibeinanrenhushi。

为什么呢？

yinweinanrenzaixuanzejiehunduixiangshi，wangwangzhikanzhongnvrenzuizhongyaodeyidian，neijiushinianqing、haoshengyu。

 zhanzainanrenmianqian，dangyigegaozhiliangdelaoshengnv，heyigeyiwusuoyoudenianqingnvhai，tamenjihuhaobuyouyudixuanzeyigenianqingnvhai。

zheishizeouzuicixindexianshi。

shengnvbingfeimeiyoushichang，zhishinanrendexuanzecuowei，nannvzeoudemudebutong，jieguoziranbutong。

shenghuozhong，henduoxiangxiaomenghexiaoyanzheiyangdeyouzhishengnv，bingbushibuhao，ershitamenyikaishijiugujicuolezeou。

 tamenmeiyouzaishihunnianlingjiehun。dangtamen30duosuishenzhi40duosuideshihou，tamentianzhendirenweizijiyoumianzi、fangzihenengli，suoyitamenbixuhenrongyizhaodaobanlv。danxianshishi，tamenyouxuduowaibuyoushi，dantamenshiqulenanrenzuikanzhongdeqingchunheshengyuziben。

yinci，xuyaotixingweihunnvxingdeshi：

 dangnichuyuzuijianianlingshi，nibixurangzijizhaodaoyigebanlv，buyaobanidehunyintuodao30suiyihou。ruguokeyi，zuihaozai30suizhiqianjiehun。

nianling，shinvrendezhongshang，nvrendedoukounianhua，gufangzishangnengyouduoshaonian？

buyaodengdaochengweinianzhangdeshengnv，zaizaixiangqinshichangshang，jingliyiciyouyicidecuozheheshibai。

neizhongshenghuo，bushinvrenxiangkandaode，xiwangdalingshengnvnengyouxiesikao。

 xiangqinweishenmebunengtuotaijiu？shenghuozhong，youhenduoshiqingyaozaishidangdeshihouquzuo，cuoguolejiuzaiyehuibulaile。shenghuoshizheiyang，hunyinyeshizheiyang。