挽回中如何降低矛盾点

 zailianqingzhongshibushiniyouyiduanshijianchangchanghenanpengyouchaojia?bizhelingyifangchengrencuowu，ranglingyifanglaihongzheni?keshizhihoudajiayebuzhengchaole，youyuchanshengfenqideneishihoulingyifangbenzhimeidafu，jinjindiaotoujiuzou。zaizhihou，nichengshoubuletadejiatinglengbaoli，bazishenweimandexintaibaofachuqu，jieguotajiuyanzhetashuofenli，zheizhongshiqingjinichanshengguoma?ruhewanhuihunyin? qingganwanhui zenmeban?

 zaizheixieguanlianzhong，dajiachangchangzhengchaoyouyudajiazhongjiandefenqidianguoduole，bukeyibaozhenghuxiangqianjiu，yinciyichaozaichao。buduanzhengchao，buduanjilingyifanggongzuoyali，ranglingyifangdeganqingchaoguolebuguidianerzaochengtichufenshou。dajiazhongjiandefenqidianneimaduo，neimayingdangzenyangjianshaota，weidajiadeguanlianhuanjieyalini?

yi、renkezishendebuzhengque，chuangjiangongtongxing

 nikeyilejie，dangtafengbishilezishendeneixinyaopeinifenshoushi，tajiuzaoyiduiniderenhedouduofangmianfourenle，fenshouzhihounizaishuoshenmequanshicuode。yincifenshouzhihouqingbiezhengchaole，zaizaicihetachao，tahuijuedenigentashiduilimiande，neimadajiazhongjiandefenqidianzongshidaliang。

 fenshouhouzenmewanhui?renketashuoderenhe，meiyouliyoudizantonglingyifang，bubiquhaiji，yaoyixindiyuanyijiujing。neiyangzuoguanjianshiyibianjianshaolingyifangdedichudu，jinerjianshaodajiazhongjiandefenqidian，rangniliangchuangjiangongtongxing。nifourenlezishen，tahainengqufourennibu?zaifourennibingbushizhengshitadejueceshibuzhengquede?

er、xuehaolengzang，weizijishijiangenggai

 qianbiantijiletaduijinifourenxintaizhuangtai，yincizaiguoduanshijianneibujijiquchuxianzailingyifangyanqian，doubujijiqulianluolingyifang，bujijitishengfenqi，jiuxiangdangyubadajiadefenqidianlengzangdiao。rutongqingganlaoshichangshuo：“lengzangshiercixiyinzhongshifenguanjiandeyigehuanjie，tajubeizaiwanliuzhongjianshaofenqi，jianshaogongzuoyalidegongxiao。”

 fenshouhouzenmewanhui?lejiezishendenanti，haiyaoqujiuzheng，yaoburanlingyifangweishenmehuijianxinnigailele?lengzangbujinjinbadajiadefenqidianlengdong，yeshiyibianjishijianxiangqugenggai。haohaodiyunyongzheiyiduanshijian，gaizhengquedian，tigaoziji，1gegengchusedeninenggougengqiangxiyinzhuta。

san、xuehaoxianghulijie，kaolvlingyifangdebenzhiyaoqiu。

 zailianqingguanlianzhong，liangrendeguanlianshigongpingde，quanshiyiyangdeguanjian。nibilingyifangchengrencuowu，nideqianghanhuisunhaidaolingyifang，nanshengzhiqiuzizunerhuo，nibudanbufuhetadebenzhiyaoqiu，haisunhailaidaotaxurongxin，jiuxiuguaitayibuweizheixieguanlianzijintourule。

 ruhewanhuihunyin?diaojiezishendexintaizhuangtai，biezaijiangzishenweiguanlizhongxinle，xuehaoxianghulijie，chanshengfenqishihaiyaozaiyilingyifangdetihui。zaiyuyanshangrenrang，weihubaoyanglingyifangdexurongxin。ruguonikaolvtadexinli，tahuirenhedourangzhenide。biaocengshangshiniyizhizaibiequrangbu，shishishangdeyidejiushini，youyutahuicihougenggaitadezuofa。

 qingganwanhuizenmeban?dajiahuizhengchaoyouyudajiadewuyishimeiyouduijiehao，nimeiyoukaolvdaoguolingyifangdetihui，zhituzhezishen，bukeyibaozhengqianjiulingyifang，yinciyuechaoyueshiling。zuogeyongyufancuowuderen，youbugoucaiyoutigaodeshineikongjian;xuehaoxianghulijie，taqianjiunidetihui，nilejietadezuofa，huxiangweilingyifangkaolvdao，dajiazhongjiandefenqidiancaihuizhenshijiangdi。