对待女人的三大原则：如何挽回？

 kandainvxingdejidabiaozhun，zaiquanbuduice、shujiehedianshilanmuzhong，liaomeideguanjianzhongxinsixiangzhishouhaoxiangbuzhidaoruhedijiubeipianyile。dangzheiyixingyezhongdelurenhuochuxuezhementaolunshouyishi，huihuayizhijizhonghuazaiscshang，yuyanzhongjianhanyouxinhuaibuguiqieyoudianerhushishehuidaodedelundiao。tashibeiaide，youyuzhongjiu， deshijiyiyiyuanbuzhishijinixiangshouxingfu。wanhuinvyoudehuazenmezuo?ruhe wanhuinvyou ?

xiangxinkandainvxingdejidabiaozhun，zhei3gebenzhidezhongxinsixiangshizhongjiubukeyiqingshide：

1. zheiyuanbuzhishiguanyunvren;zheiguanliandaogenggainidequanbuyishizhuxing

2. 我就是礼品。

3. rangtazainiliqushiyouyudajiachuyushi。

 wanhuinvyoudehuazenmezuo?ninengliuyidao，suiranrenmensuoyourencengyunyongkongyushijianqugaijinrenmendefuqishenghuo，danmeiyou1geguanjianzhongxinsixiangjizhonghuazaimouyiteshudecengmian。qimiaodeshi，jiaruzunshouzhei3geguanjiandian，neimajiankangdexingshenghuozezhongjiangshunlichengzhang。

zheiguanliandaogenggainidequanbuyishizhuxing。

 renmenchuangjianxiyinzhudeguanjianfangfazhishou，jiushishuogenjuzaijiangtonghuagushizhongyingyongzhanxianjiaogaodeshiyongjiazhi(dhv)。renmenzaijingdiangushizhongniuyangshejigousihaodeduanyu，laicijixingnvxingdexiyinzhudianyuankaiguan，erzheizishenbingmeiyoucuo。keshi，keniyizhizaijiangdejiujingshisheidejingdiangushi?pingzhuangyuancailiaoliyingbeidangzuoshiweisuxuedaxueshengyongdexunlianfangshi，tanengxiezhunilingwujiangtonghuagushidedingyi，danqueliyingbeidangzuoshizheizhonglinshixingdexiaogongju，bingfeinide youxilimiandezhangqixingdaxingshebei。

 wanhuinvyoudehuazenmezuo?suiran，genjuyingyongpingzhuangyuancailiao、kourenxinxiandegaoxiaoduanzihecijixingrendedanaodekaichangci，ninengyinyoudaonvxing。danshi，zhenshidetiaozhanbingbushiqujueyunikefoubanvshenggaoshang*chuang，zhishinikefouxiyinta。yiqiezuigaiqubadenvshenghuoxujiuzuigaiqushui，yejiuyingdangzuigaichixuqushui。keshichulenidailaitazuibangdechuang*shangganshouyiwai，nvxingshiburongyibianweinixingmingzhongdebufende，ruguonibuzhitaquxiangmutouzidehua。

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 chucizhiwai，ruguonibuduanshulianzheimenzaoxingyishu，nigensuoyourenzhongjiandehudongjiaoliuyejianghuibuduantigao。nigenpengyou、shehuifazhanshangdeqinqipengyoujiqijiatingzhuyaochengyuanxianghuguanxidoujianghuitigaobingbiandeyuelaiyuejijizhudong。ninengliuyidaobiederenheren——bujinjinpiaoliangxiaojiejie——doushiduinilingyanxiangkande。

我就是礼品。

 ruhewanhuinvyou?dangnidahua1gewozaicongweijianguodenvxingshi，wobuxiangjiyutayiqiejiangli，yeburongyijitashouyujindaodaowoyishizhuxingdexukezhengshu。jiarujinjinyouyutachongzuxingyunlezhongle“jiyinkufulicaipiao”(yiyuanzhu：jijinengrongmao)，neizheijiubingbushibiaodarenmennanshengjiuyingdangquanzidongdibatashizuogaoshiyongjiazhi。

 tawubihuodewodezhongshibingzhengshitayouzheshiyongjiazhi。nizhidaomajiamen，nizhidaomaweihedajiaxiaiwo，jiqiweishajuedezijiyouzheshiyongjiazhi，danyinweiwolejietayoujianghuishigesharenkuangmohuozhegeyisemoucaidepianzigongsi。minanfangfazhongdequanbushuaxuanhuanjiequanshijinjinweiraozheiyibiaozhundajiande，erzheileixintaizhuangtaizuihouzhuanhuacheng“wojiushilipin”。

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rangtazainiliqushiyouyudajiachuyushi。

 wulun jinduderuhe、shibushiyidaqiang、beiju、huobiedeshouweijieshude：nidequanjubianliangzongtimubiaojiushishuo，zongchushishiyongjiazhi。renmenconglaibuqidaiyouyubierengenrenmenkaizhanlehudongjiaoliuerbatamendeyishizhuxingnongzao。xiangjinde，renmenyeconglaibuqidaibierenbarenmendangzuoshimouleiyilei，zhishiyuanyitafanmiandi(huoyibufenfumianxinxidi/zhongxinghuadi)duidairenmen。

 ruhewanhuinvyou?jishizuchengduinizhuyaobiaoxiandebuzun，nizaoshouhenexinxiangtudedaqiang，yebubilunluodaotamennagecengjishang，bubilunluowurutamendexiaodujichang。yaoshishuoxiezhurucilei“woxiangyaodajiazheizhonghundanjinyedayueduiwomentaifangzonglexieba。yudaodajiazheixiedoushixiaowentide，woxianghuiwopenyouneilile。”，neiyangbujinnideyeliburongyibeijiubadououhuobiededuoyudezongyijiemucuihui，bingqiezheileichulimaodundegongzuozuofengshi100%genjubeigaoshiyongjiazhinanxinglingdaozhedejichujingshenshizhixiangfuhede。

 zhuyaobiaoxianchujiduanhuadeqingxubuwendingfanyingshidishiyongjiazhideshujuxinhao。biru，dangbulade·pitekandao1gepiaoliangmeinvshi，tabingbushizhanqianguhou。erruguonagepiaoliangmeinvtanbaigundandehua，wogaoduhuaiyitahuiyinererzhuyaobiaoxiancheng1gefeiwude。tashibuladetmdpite，ninengxiangxintaburongyirangzishenqingxubuwendingdixiangmutouzidaoyijianshiliqu，youyuneidianququxiaoshigentadequanbuyishizhuxingduibikanqilaitaiwuzuqingzhongle。

 ruhewanhuinvyou?huanjuhuashuo，zainigangkaishile yihou，biewangjizheiyibiaozhun。buguantazaicizuoni5niandenvpengyou，haijinjingennilinshixingyiqi，nidouyingdangyizhizhiliyurangtadeyishizhuxingyuelaiyuegengxingfu。