爱情里最无力挽回的事情：是你在规划着未来，他想着离开

 ganqinglilingrenxinsuandeshiershisha?bingbushitabuguanzhuni，yebingbushitapanbianni，zhishizainizhengtiguihuazhedajiameihaomingtiandeneishihou，taquedianjizheruhetaochuni。weihedajiazhongjianjiaowangneimajiule，tazaizuihouhuanshiyaolikaini?wojuede，xuduoneishihou，bingbushiyouyutayiqingbielianle，zhishinidezhuduogerenxingweitahuinanyirenshouhuoshibufutazaihunyinlumianshangairenguiding。aiqingwufawanhuizenmeban?dangxianghujianchuxianlezheileijiqilingrenyoushangdejiemianshi，gairuhezuonenggouwanliulingyifang?

一、提出分手一瞬，即便伤心还要维持风范

 aiqingwufawanhuizenmeban? dangganqingzaoyufenshoushi，beifenshoudelingyifangyinweibukeyijienazheishiliaoweijidehuoshi，yincihuiyuelaiyuexinfuqizao，juedefangfoquanqiudouyuelaiyueandanqilai，yincitamenzaiwanliushijiuhuitarucuowuguannian。dangnixiangzhenidewanliushibeigongban，neimawoyewubirangzishenyougeleguandexintai。neima，wanliushiyingdangzenyangdiaojiezishendexintaizhuangtaini?

 qianyijizhongzhuyili，buyouyihuailian。fenshouzhihounixintaishangdexiaochen，zheishinenggou lejiede，dandangnidehuaixintaibukeyilijihuodediaojie，bukeyiyongjijizhudonglixingdexintaizhuangtaiquzhixingwanliugongjian，neimatajiuhuilijihuihuainidewanliu。yaoxiangrangzishenbubeihuaixintaisuochaimo，neimawoyederangzishenbubiyouyidequhuailianlingyifang，yebubimeishimeikedixiangqizishenyoushizaitaishizaitaidebeiju，jiangnidejizhongzhuyiliqianyidaobiededeshiershang，nijiuhuifaxian，wojuedezheijianshiqingbingbukeyichediweihainideyishizhuxing。ruquxuexipeixunzheimenxindekechengneirong，qusuzaozheixiangxindegerenaihaozheixie。bubirangzishenyouguoduodekongxianshijianqubuduandifenshouzheijianshiqing，zhinengneiyang，nicainenggou rangzishendexintaihuodelizhi。

 aiqingwuliwanhuizenmeban? zhaoxunerqiexiangyouyurichangshenghuodekuaile。xuduorendaofenshouzhihoudouganjuefangfoyishizhuxingzaoyishiququanbukuaile，meishenmenengrangzishenkaixinqilai，yincizishenyejiusuizhewujingdacai。keshi，niwubiguanniandao，dangnixianglaiwanliu，neimawoyewubirangzishenzhenzuo，nenggouweiwanliuzuotiqianzhunbei。yinci，woyedequfajuerichangshenghuodegezhonggeyangkuaile，suihouquxiangshourensheng，nidexintaicainenggou huodediaozheng。

 xuehaozairichangshenghuozhongfajuetadekuaile。liru：zaixiawuchashiguangzuolianxiyujia，rangzishendexinhuodeningjing;yang1gechongwushouhouzishen;duohuijiakankanbabamama，duogenpenyoujujue，xiangyouganqingyiwaideganqing，zheixie。ruguoniyishizhuxingyuelaiyuexingfu，niyejiuhuigengyoufengcai。jiuxiangwanhuiaiqingjiaofukangnachangshuo：“dangzijinengxinxingaoxingdeyishizhuxing，shanyufajuerichangshenghuodekuaile，tadeweixiaohexingweiquanshiyouganzhaolide，jishizheiyirenmianbubingbushihaokan。”

二、自我反思恋情中的本身难题

 aiqingwuliwanhuizenmeban? fenshouzhihou，yuanyiwanliu，bingbushidishengxiaqi，yebingbushiyulingyifangjichulilun，zhishibubizhangwodajiazhongjiantichufenshoudeyuangu，yeyaoyongxindisisuoyounaxiejiushiniganjuemeiyounantide，danlingyifangganjuetingdanantidediqu，zuiguanjiandeshixuehaosikaobenshendebuzhengque。

 meiyouyishumei。youjulaohua：dajiadouxiguanxingbaxingfudeyibianzhanxianjiluren，bazuihuaideyibianzhanxianjizuiqinmijiechuderen。lianqingjiule，feichangrongyijiubalingyifangshizuojiaren，erdajiadoushibabaopiqihuaixiguanxuanxiezaizuijiarenyanqian，zhanbiwuyuanwugunaopiqi，chouxuezimianwaluanreng，zailianrenyanqiankoubitouniaoniaobubidian，meishenmeyishumeikexun，zheishishifenbuzhengquede。buzhinajiananshenghuixiangyaogen1geyitiandaowanhuitoutulianlabuxiubianfutadenvxingzhangqijiaowang?jishishishenpangzuiqinmijiechuderen，yeyingdangweichizheshidudeshineikongjian，suyushuojulichanshengmei，shuodejiushishuozheiyidadaoli。

 quefaguanzhu。bubirenweibeiguanzhudenvshidezhuanliquan，nanshengyeshi。feichangshidangjinshehuijingzhengmenglie，shiyejiazhongdegongzuoyalidoushiyazhenanshengchuanbuguoqi。tamenchuangdanglemeitianjingpilijiedifanhuijia，quehuanshishiquyisisiwennuanwenhao，gongzuoyalijiugengnandiaozhengqingxule。jiarucikeniyaozhishouhuajiaoshuoxutaotazheibutaihaoneibutaihao，feichangrongyijiuhuishifangtadexintai。tahuiganjuezishendoukuaiweizheiyijialeisilele，nihuanshibulingrenmanyi，zheishiriguodeyoumeiyoushenmehanyi?cikejiarutayingshuotichufenshou，nijianzhiliuyewufaliuzhu。

 zhanyouyuqiang。nvxingdoumeiyouanquangan，aixianmubuzhi，wojuedezheihenguangfan，henduonanshengdoushikuanrongqishi。danshidenvxingguidingshifenduo，naizhihenguofen，guidinglingyifangbukeyihenvshiguoduochupeng，bukeyiyounvpengyou，bukeyibaomingcanjiagongzuofangmiandejiaojijuhuihuodong，naizhiyeyoumouxieliangenyixingpengyoushuoshangyiduanhuadoushifahuofapiqinaotichufenshou。wojuedekeshizheizhongbuzixindegerenxingwei，haiyeshirangnanshengganjuemeiyouqingmian。wojuedetongchangbuzaiweihaigongzuozhongdeqiantitiaojianxia，nanshengdoushixiangyaoquhongrende，dannizuodetaiguofenjiushishuoweizijideganqingwadibalele。

san、gaibianxianzhuang，yigengqiangdezishixiyinzhulingyifang

 fenshouzhihouyuanyixiyinzhulingyifang，haiyaosuzaozishengaopinzhideshenghuoguannian。gaopinzhideyishizhuxingbujinshiduinibenshenyougongxiaoheweihai，tahainengjinijinkuaixiyinnvsheng。

 suzaobenrendepinxinghesuzhi。niyuanyiyouzhegaopinzhideyishizhuxing，zuixiannidesixiangdaodejiubixuduanzheng。1gemanzuizangkou，guannianwocuoderen，buguanzairuhefuyou，yehuibeirenkanbushang，jirenyizhongtameisuyang，gengbuyaoshuoxiyinnvshengle。yinci，nikeyiliuyinideyantanjuzhi，buguannanrennvren，1gewenliangyazhi，yantanjuzhiyoudaxuewen，gerenxingweidaqidedangderenquanshishourenreliehuanyingde。

 yaoyoushenxinjiankangdejingshenshizhifangmianzhuiqiuwanmei。gaopinzhideyishizhuxingshibukehuoquejingshenshizhifangmianshangdezhuiqiuwanmei，bingqiezheiyizhuiqiuwanmeishiyaoyoupinzhide，shishenxinjiankangde。biru：yueduwenzhang、chuangzuo、lianxiyujia、meishuhuihua、tinggewuju、yundongjianshenzheixiezheizhongquanshijingshenshizhifangmianshangdezhuiqiuwanmei，zheizhongduinibenshendejibenjianshedoushiyoutingdadexiezhu。

 youzheyouliangdeweixinpengyouquanguanlian。renjijiaowangnenglishidangdaishehuifazhanzhongbukehuoquedezheixiangzhuanyejineng，nidejiaopengyouquannaizhihainengduinizaochengtingdadeweihai。zaijiaopengyoucengmian，nishitiaoxuanhequdechenggongderenyuanjieshipenyou，nenggou shiyixingpengyou，duobaomingcanjiamouxieyoupinzhideshangwuhuodong，liru：hongputaojiuhui、lianyihui、jiaoxiangyinlehuizheixie。genjuzheizhongzhutihuodongninengbuduanxuntaozishendepinxing，kuodazishendeweixinpengyouquan，jinideyishizhuxinggengweiduozhongduoyang。

 yiner，ruguonizaiguihuarenshengshi，ruolingyifanghurangentashuofenshou，yebubitaiqinei，xianbubiyulingyifangzhenglun，yebubiyangqiulingyifangliuyou，yuanyilingyifangdejuece，ziwofansibenshennanti，duiyuyuanguquzuochulijidegenggaihetigaogerenjiazhi，neiyangsuanshixiyinzhutahuijiadeqiadangzhifa。