如何原谅背叛的老公，出轨后怎么重建信任

 zheigenvrenshiyijiaqiyedegaojiguanlirenyuan。tadezhangfuzaiyijiagonggongjigougongzuo，tadeqingrenyezaizheigedanwei。youyugongzuoguanxi，tamenjingchangjiechuhejiaoliu，bingkaishimolengliangke。houlai，qizilaizhaowomen，fudaolewomenyinianban。zuihou，liangrenfenshoule。chuguihouzenmezhongjianxinren？

danshizheiweiqizimeiyouchulai，yikaishitazhangfuxiangjinbanfaqiutayuanliang，tajiushiguobuquzheigekan，ranhouwomenjiubangtazhiyu。

 dangnizhangfuyouwaiyushi，nideqizihuishoudaochuangshang，buxiangyuanliangta。zheiyeshiyigefeichangpubianhezhongyaodewenti，yinweiruguonibunengyuanliangnidezhangfu，nidehunyinheguanxijiuwufazhongjian。

daizhechuangshangshenghuo，hunyinweijikendinghuizaicifasheng。

neiwomengairuhezhiyuchuangshang，ruheyuanliangzhangfudebeipan？

第一，你要接受自己受到伤害的事实

 xuduonvxingwufajieshouzijideshanghai。“wozhangfuweishenmezheimezuo？woweizheigejiatingfuchulezheimeduo。taweishenmezheiyangduidaiwo？woweitazuoleyitouniuheyipima。wocongbubaoyuan。womenjiehunshi，womeiyouyaoqiugengduodecaili。zheixienianlai，woyizhizaifadou。taweishenmeweizheiyangyigejiatingzuolezheimeduoshiqingerbeipanwo？”

 yishangzheixiexiangfadoushinvxingrenweide“wozuodezheimehao，woshigehaoqizi。tabunengzheiyangduiwo，fouzetahuiduibuqiwo。”yekeyikanchutabunengjieshouzheijianshidebeipan。

 shishishang，nizhidao，zaiyigenanrenbeipannizhiqian，takenengconglaimeiyouxiangguohuishanghaini，yinweitajuedetabuhuibeifaxian，zhiyaonizhaobudao，nideguanxijiubuhuishoudaoyingxiang。

 suoyi，buyaodanxintaweishenmeshanghaini。niyuebuganchengren，nijiuyuebunengxiangqiantuijin。niyinggaishouxianjieshounideshanghai“shide，tabeipanlewo，woshoushangle，tatupolewohunyindedixian”。chuguihouzenmezhongjianxinren？

第二，你要扩大人性的认知

daduoshurenrenweihunwaiqing“nanrenbeipanjiatingshibudaodede。ruguotamendexinggeshifubaide，tamenjiumeiyouxiwang”。

shishishang，zheizhongguandianshifeichangpianmiande。

 womendouzhidaorenmenxihuanxinde，taoyanjiude。ruguowomenzhangshijianmianduiyizhangmeiyourenhexinshiwuhuobianhuadelian，womenhenkenenghuizaiqitadifangxunzhaoxinxiangan。suiranwomenzhidaorenshijinhuade，butongyudongwu，danwomenbunengfourenzheixierenxingdecunzai。

jiarunifourenzheixierenxing，nihuijuedezheigeshijiebushiheijiushibai，niduizheigeshijiedekanfahuibiandehenxiaai。

dangnikandaoyigehaokandenansheng，nihuiduokanyiyan，ranhouzaixinlimomopingjiayijuhua“zhenshuai”，zheihenzhengchang。

 dangwomenkandaorenxingdeduoyangxingshi，womenhuigenghaodilejiezheigeshijie，yehuifangzhiniduishenghuodejuewang，fangzhiniduihunyin、duiaiqingdejuewang。

第三，你要原谅自己

 youxienvxingduizijiyaoqiuhengao。tamenfeichangshanyucongzijishenshangfaxianwenti。dangtafaxianzhangfubeipanshi，tahuijuede“shibushiwozuodebuhao，shibushiwoburuwaimiandenvren，shibushiwoxianzaimeiyouxiyinli？……”

zhishinizaizhemoziji，tabuduandipipinghefoudingziji。

yaozhidao，dangnijiehundeshihou，taduinihenmanyi，neishihou，ruguonibushizheiyangdeni，takenenghaibuhuijiajini。

yuanliangzijijiushijieshouziji，yuzhenshidezijihejie，hunyinjiubianchenglezheiyang，nijiushiyouzheiyangdenengli，bunengzheiyangma？

 xianzaishichangshangyouhenduojigou。tamenhuicongnvxingdehunyinzhongtiaochugezhonggeyangdewenti。zheiduitamenlaishuobingburongyi。tamenbeizhangfubeipanle，tamenbuduandiweizijifaxianwenti。zheixiepingtaibixujixuzaijidanlitiaogutou。tamenzhishirangnijuede“zhiyounibianhaole，nizhangfucaihuihuilai”danshinidezhangfuhuibeipan，yexubushiyinweinibuhao，yexutazhishiduanzandeyanjuanlehunyin，xiangchuquxunzhaoxinxiangan。

 nirenweiwaimiandenvrenhenwanmeima？nirenweitahenhaoma？nirenweitahenyouxiuma？xuduoqingrenzaimouxiefangmianburutamendeqizi。wofudaoguohenduohunyinanjian。youxieqingrenhetamendeqizimeiyoukebixing。tamenshoujiaoyuchengdudi，shentibuhao，meiyoujiatingbeijing，gongzuoyebuhao。

nvshimen，qingjizhuyijuhua“tabeipanbushiyinweinibuhao。”。

 ruguonixiangtigaoziji，rangzijibiandegenghao，nihuidanwuchulihunwaiqingdeshijian。dangnihaizaitishengzijideshihou，tamenyijingkaishitanlianai，huaiyunshengzile。

ruguonibazijitishengdaotianshang，dannidezhangfuhaizaidixia，nirenweinihaizhidema？zheizhihuirangnigengjiafenli。

niyaoyuanliangziji，yuanliangzijihulvelehunyin，yuanliangzijihulveleta。

zaichulihunwaiqingzhiqian，niyaoxianyuanliangziji，jieshouzijidexingwei。

第四，你要求他采取补救措施

 ruguonixiangyuanliangnizhangfudebeipan，nibixuxianchengfata，rangtashouku，rangtayishidaowentideyanzhongxing，rangtajinibujiucuoshi，fouzetakendinghuizaifancuowu。

第五，你要长期治愈

 jiarumeiyoujinglizhiyu，niyehennanbaituochuangshang，jiuxiangyouhenduojiatingyiyang，nanrenhuilaihou，qizihaishibufangxin，zongjuedezhangfuheqingrenzaijiechu。

 yinci，zaizheigeshihou，yigenanrenxuyaozhiyuta。dangtahuaiyishi，tayuanyizhengming；dangtashiwangshi，tayuanyizuochuchengnuo；dangtayouxuyaoshi，takeyimanzu。zheizhongzhiliaoshiyigemanzhangdeguocheng。ruguoyigenanrennengzuodao，tadeqizihuimanmanchulai。

ruguomeiyouzhiyu，nvrenjiuhennanyuanliangzhangfu。

 yuanliangbushizhangfuhuilaihounengzuodaode，yebushiyijuhuajiunengzuodaode。xuduonanrenhuidaojialihou，tagaosuqizi“zheijianshichediguoqule，wobuxiangzaitile，fouzenizhihuirangwonanguo，nizhishibuxianghaohaoshenghuo”，taweixieqizibuyaozaitizheijianshi。

 chuguihouzenmezhongjianxinren？buyaorangzheiduanhunwaiqingchengweiyijianbunengshuodeshi，ruguochengweijinji，neijiuxiangzhayao，zheijianshichizaohuizaicibaofa。