遭遇出轨后如何进行关系重建，出轨后怎么重建信任

 chugui，jirendailaideshanghaishijudade！duiyubeipanganqingdeyifang，dagaiyongyuanbuzhidaozijidepanjuejiduifangdailaileduodadeshanghai。yexushinimendebeipanjiduifangdeyishengmengshangleyinying。chuguihouzenmezhongjianxinren？

shuodaochugui，henduorendoushuo，neijiulihunba！zhendeneimejiandanma？daandangranshifoudingde。

 zaixianshishenghuozhong，nihuifaxianneixiezaihunyinzhongyudaochuguiderenbingbuxianglikaineimejiandan。henduoshihou，jishirenmenyudaochugui，tamenyebunengfenkai。yuanyinyouhenduo，birugerenwenti、ertongjianhuquan、caichan、shehui、yulundengdeng。

 wocengjingzaiyigepingtaishangjiedaoyigelaifangzhe，tabeipianquxunqiubangzhu。“dangwofaxianzhangfuchuguineiyike，wogandaowuleihongding，wogandaozhenggeshijiedoubengtale，ranhouquanshentanruan。”

 “yinweiwozhidaotachuguile，meiciwokandaota，wodouyouyizhongmomingdefennu，haoxiangwokeyisuishiranshao。wanshangkanzhetashuijueshi，wogandaoexin。wotongchangzaijialiwakuta，mata，biandita。

 zaiwodexinzhongzongshiyouyizhongweizhidefennu，bushidizaiwodeshentililaihuiyidong，haoxiangzairenheshihoudoukeyibeidianran。dangtameiyouzhunshixiabanhuijiashi，gezhonggeyangdehuaiyi，fennudegongji，likewanquanyanmeileziji。youshiduifangchuqubuhuixinxi，gandaokongxutebiebuanquan。suirantahenshengqi，danwoxiwangtanenghenkuaihuilai。”

 zaizheigeshihou，womenxianruleyingerqidemaodunheyilianzhong——womenxiangyaojiejin，womenfeichangxiangyaojiejin，danjiejinzhihou，womenfeichangpaichi。zongzhi，womendexinshifeichangmaodunhetongkude。

 beipanhuishizixinderengandaozibei。tamenhuishenshenhuaiyiziji，shenzhitamenneixindeyixiexinnianyehuibengkui。tamenxuyaohenzhangshijianlaihejiehezhongjianziji。

 beipanzhihou，youxierenkenengbuzaiyuanyixiangxinrenheren，yinweizaitamendeneixinshenchu，tamenrenweiwoshirucixinren，tamensuoaiderenhuibeipanwo。wonengxiangxinsheideyusheng？youxierenzhidewoxinrenma？

 beibeipanderenbeipanderenlaishuo，zhiyishenzhidianfuzheisanzhongguandianhexinyangshizuishendeshanghai，yinweinibuzhidaoyongshenmelaiqudainiyiqiandexinyang。nidexinsihuqueshaoyikuai，nisihubushini，nidexinyouhenduokongjuhebuquedingxing。

suoyiyudaochugui，youbuxiangneimekuaifangqi，ruhezhongjianbicideguanxi？

1.首先接受这个事实，找到一个完整的自己

 zhiyuchugui，nibixuchengrenzheigeshishi。zhiyoujieshoulezheigeshishi，nicainengbaituokonghuang、kongjuhefennu。ruguonizhendekandaofashengleshenme，nizhinengxianchengrenzheigeshishi，ranhouzaibazijifangzaiyiqi，lixingdichulizheigewenti。

jiarunifaxianzijibeipianle，erniyizhichenjinzaifennuheweiquzhong，niyixinyiyijiujie，weishenmehuizheiyang？

woweizheigejiafuchuleneimeduo，taweishenmeyaozheiyangduiwo？

他太没良心了……

 duinanrendedaodebangjia，buduandezhize，baoyuan，yibianyouyibiandehuiyiguoqu。shishishang，tamenbuyuanyijieshoushishi，buyuanyixiangxinzijibeibeipanle，buyuanyixiangxinzijidehunyinchulewenti。

 womendouzhidao，chengrenzheiyishishishifeichangkunnanhetongkude。raner，ruguowomenbuchengren，womenjiuwufabaituonitan，yewufachengzhang。meiyoubanfaqianjin。

qingxufanfujujuemianduiwenti，zuihoushoushangdezongshiziji。

2.被骗的一方应该学会为自己设定一个反应限度

 chuguiderenshikehende，danbuguantamenyouduokehen，tamendoubixuyikaolianggerendegongtongnulilaizhongjianguanxi。erbushijinjinyikaoyifangdechanhuihefansi，zheizhongguanxijiuhuihuidaokaishi。zheibingbuyiweizhexuyaoshijiankuaisuyuanliangchuguifang，yuanliangyigeren，fangshou，ershiyaoyishidaowomenyinggaibazheijianshikongzhizaiyidingdefanweinei。

 chuguideyifangwangwangyouhenduohunluandexiangfa，qingxufanyinghenda，youdianbaozha，neixiexiaojidefennu，buman，shenzhibaofudexiangfa，zairenheshihou，ruguorangzheixiefengkuangdexiangfachengzhang，buanzantinganniu，neimetakenenghuiyingxiangguanxidezhongjian。

 shishishang，beichuguideyifangchengshouzhetaiduodexinliyali，shenzhijingchangxianghuxiangbaofu。bijing，youtaiduodefennuhebuqingyuan，danniyoumeiyouxiangguoshenmeshihouzugou？ranhouniyoukaishinimendeguanxile？

 youshi，chuguideyifanghuiyuanlianglingyifang，danmeidangnichaojiashi，nidouhuiqingbuzijindibazheijianshinachulai，ranhoulingyifanghuisongsongjian，beimadexuelinlinde。raner，ruguonizhendedasuancongyigexindekaishijianliyizhongxindeguanxi，bingqiejingchangyongzheijianshilaiyadaoduifang，zheishifeichangbuheshide。chuguijiuxiangyibadaozainideganqingzhong，jishinizaicishengqi，yebuyaoqingyiyidong，yinweiruguonibuxiaoxin，nikenenghuizaicihuashangduifang。

 buyaobachuguidangzuoyadaoduifangdewuqi，yebuyaobatadangzuoshenghuoqitafangmiandedaodeyoushi。zheishichuguifang，niyinggaixuehuiweizijishedingfanyingdixian。chuguihouzenmezhongjianxinren？

 jirannizhendeduitayouganqing，youbuxianglikaita，youxianghetazhongxinkaishi，neijiubuyaobatadangchengyigebeizijishenpan，taibuqitoudebanlv。ruguobanlvzaiyiduanganqingzhongzhangqibanyanbeiweidejiaose，zainimianqiantaibuqitou，zuizhonghuifangqi。

3.保持意识，停止相处模式

 zaiyixiehunyinzhong，suiranbeichuguideyifangyuanlianglelingyifang，dantazongshixiguanyuduilingyifangbaochijingti，yinweitajinglilenanwangdetongku，yinweitadanxinlingyifanghuizaicibeichugui。yinci，tajingchangdingzheduifangdexialuo，chumenhoubujiujiudadianhuahongzha。liru，dangtahuilaishi，tahuijianchaduifangdeshouji，jianchatadexialuo，gezhongwangluopingtai，shenzhimeiyigexijie。

 zaizheigeshihou，chuguideyifangjiangshitongkude。tajuedetadebianjiebuduanbeiruqin，haoxiangtameiyouzijidesirenkongjian。ciwai，bubeixinrendeganjuezongshibeizuiqinjinderenhuaiyididuidai，zheiyehuirangtagandaoyuelaiyuewunengweili，yuelaiyuetuifeihewunengweili，cishi，takenenghuixianruzhuibumoshi。

 danshiruguonizhendexiangyingdeduifangdexinren，buyaotaobi，ershigaosuduifangniyizhizaineili。zaizheigeshihou，ruhezhengquedibiaodawomendeganshouheganshoushiwomenxuyaoxuexideyigezhongyaoketi。

 ruguochuguideyifangkandaolingyiban，duizijigandaobuan，tayinggaikaolvzuodianshenmelaixiaochutadehuaiyi。nizhidao，chufeinirangtafangxintahuiyizhizhui。

 dangniyudaochuguishi，nikeyicongxianzaikaishifengsuoziji，buzaixiangxinaiqing，buzaiyuanyichangkaixinfei，huozhebazijifangzaishouhaizhedejiaoseshang，danniyekeyiyouxuanze，yejiushishuo，nixuanzefanshengziji，wajuenideneixinxuqiu，chengzhangziji，congzheiduanshibaidehunyinzhongshenghuo。

 bingbushishuoruguonichuguile，guanxijiubunengzaizhongjianle。ruguonibachuguidangchengyigelejiezijiheduifangdejihui，neimeyiqiedouyoukenengzhongxinkaishi。nizenmexiangni

chuguihouzenmezhongjianxinren？zuihou，nirenwei，xizhongjianzuinandedianshishenme？