被吵架摧毁的关系，还能修复吗？有被花镇骗过的吗？

shijishang，shuodaodieryan，zhengchaozheiyijianshier，youbeihuazhenpianguodema？bixufenweinanhaihenvhaixingbieerzhongqingkuangkanlai。

为何要分离呢?

feichangjiandan，youyuwulunzhengchaodeyouyinshisha，yaoshishinanhaihenvhailiangrenzhengchao，jiuyidingshiyi2gebuyiyangshijiaokaolvde。

 liru，woyiqiandeyigeshoutuoren，liangrenjiuchangchanghuiyouyuzhengchaodeshier，naodebuxiangwanglai。yikaishideqingkuangxiani，liangrenzhengchaonengchaoliangsantian，lailaiququdechedigenbentingbuxialai。zhihoujianjiandishijianyizhang，zheiyinanhaizi，yeshiwodeshoutuoren，jiuzhujianganjueyanjuanle。yigeshichaomeidongle，zaiyigeshijuedezhengchaoshizaitaibushangheqi。yinci，zheiyinanhaizijiuzhujianjianjiandimeiquzuohuifu，qidainenggoupingjingxialai。

 keshi，wanwanxiangbudaozishenneiyangganleyihou，fandaoshidakailenvhaidedianyuankaiguan。chaonaoshengbiyuanxiangengxiong，zaijiashangnanhaiziyoubuhangsheng，jiuhaoxiangdanfangdezhanyayiyang。

 zheiyishoutuorenpengdaodeqingkuangni，shijishangxuduolianrenzairichangshenghuozhongyeshichangchanghuichuxiande。congyikaishideliangrenhenyoukenenghaixianghuzhijianchaoyichao，danzhihouzhujiandejiulengmochulai，queyeshiwufazhongzhizhengzhi。

shijishang，dajiabazhengchaofenxingbielaiduidai，jiujianyiduole。

xianlaiyongnvhaijiaodukanyixiazhengchaozheijianshiqing。

congnvhaideshijiaoshangkaolv，zaijuedaduoshuzhuangkuangzhong，bingbingbushizhishijinxianyumoushiqingshang，zhuyaoshiyaoxiangfaxieqingxu。

 huanjuhuashuo，nvhaizaijuedaduoshuzhuangkuangxiagennanpengyouhuoshizhangfuchanshengmaodunhetoujishangdezhuangkuang，quanshiganjuenanhaizimeiyoujiandaozishendezhenshiyaoqiu，huoshizishendebiaoshumeiyoubeichongzulejie，caihuiyongzhengchaodefangfalaibiaoshu。

 ernanhaizini，yingduizhengchaoyeshilingyizhongchedibuyiyangdeqingkuang。yibanlaijiang，nanhaizidoujiaoweidanxinyuzhengchaodeyuangu。rutongzaiwangshangdegaoxiaoduanzilijiangde：nanshengzheiyibeiziyongyuandouzaidanxinweishenmenvrenyoushengqile?

 nanhaizizhengchaoyouyufenbuqingnvhaidongnudezhenshiyuangu，quanbuyibandoushihuijiqiequbiaoshuyinqizhengchaodezheiyijianshier。nanhaizihuiganjue：yaoshishierbiaoshuqingxile，zhengchaodangranyejiubeipingfule。

 yinci，zhengyouyuzheierzhongchedibuyiyangdexinlihuodongmiaoxie，zaocheng lexuduorenyifashengzhengzhijiushifenbushangheqi。nvhaixiwangnikeyijiandaozishen、jiandaozishendetihuihexintai，keshinanhaiziqueyixinzhiweibashierbiaoshuqingxi。zheiyilaiyiquzhongjian，zenmekenengrangshierpingfuchulaini?

02

guangfande“dishiyongjiazhi”

 zailiangrenzhengchaodequanguochengzhong，youbeihuazhenpianguodema？jiaruyiranbukeyichuangjianqiyigeyouxiaogoutongziranhuanjing，neima，liangrenmanmanbianhuichanshengyige“shiyongjiazhidiyadai”。

如何来了解呢?

 liru，liangrenyikaishizhengchaodeqingkuangxia，henyoukenengdaliangdebianshixiaochaoxiaonao。jianjiandide，zhengchaowufadedaoshunxiangchulideqingkuangxia，jiubianchengleyoukuyounao。jiaruzheiyihuanjiezhong，liangrenyiranbukeyicongzhengchaozheiyijianshierzhonghuodeyouxiaodegoutong，neima，yifangbianhuizhujianxianglingyifangshijiayali。

 haoxiang“wozhiqianjiujiangle，nijiushilannibafubuqiangshang!”huoshi“nikanyixiabierenmoumoumou，zaikankanni，shenmeshiqingdouganbuliluo!”

 dangzheileizhuangkuangchuxiandeqingkuangxia，jiuzaoyishizai“dihuilingyifangshiyongjiazhi”le。congzheiyikezhujian，liangrendeguanlianyejiuxuanbujinruleliangjihuazhizhong。

 suoyishuo，zairichangchanshengmaodundeqingkuangxia，jinkenengbubiqutiguoqu。youyutiguoquneiyangdefangfa，zongshijieyouzhengchaozheiyimeiti，jiakuaishiliangrendeguanlianbenkui。

 ziran，bushiwoshuoliangrenzaiyiqichedibukeyizhengchao。shijishang，woyiqianzaizaixiankechengzhongyeshuoguo，liangrenzhengchao，bingbingbushiyijiancuoshi。zhengchao，shijishangshiyizhongshifengaoxiaolvdegoutongfangshi，ziran，shizaiyoulianghaogoutongjiaoliudeqiantitiaojianxia。

 so，zongdelaishuo，zailiangrenzhengchaodeqingkuangxia，zuiguanjiandeshiqingbianshi“zhiliyushixia”。liangrenzhengchaojiarujinjinyigerenchixutiguoqu，lingyigerenchixubiaoshudehua，zongshirangguanlianyulaiyucaogao，zuizhongdaozhiyigemeifahuifudejushi。

 keshi，jiaruzaizhengchaozhongliangrendounengzhiliyudangjindeqingkuang，keyizhuyidaolingyifangdexintai，keyihelitonglixin，jiusuanshizhengchao，yehuidadaoshifenyouxiaogoutong。erqie，zheileigoutongjiaoliuhuanshichunsuixintaihetihuifangmianshangde，biyibandeyuyangoutonggengweiheli。