花镇教育的4个挽回小妙招，助你成功度过感情瓶颈期

henduorengenwoshuo，liangrenbenlaihenenai，huazhenjiaoyu，weihebianshibukeyihaohaodijiaowangni?bujianmianxiang，pengmianyouchao，chaozhechaozhejiukuzhesankai。

neiyangdezhuangkuangbianshidajiachangchangtucaode“jiuchanbuqing”。shijishangzixiderenbianhuifajue，qingganshijishangyeshiyoupingjingde，zheiyipingjingbianshiwangminmenyijianfankuide“youyiduanshijianjiandaolingyifangjiuhaofan，wulunlingyifangganshenmedouganjuekanbuguan，rutongzhongxieleyiyang。”

xuduolianrenfenshoudeyuanyinbianshimeiyoutishengzheiyipingjing，tamenbushibuaini，zhishibuqingchuruhequaile。

pingjingtichufenshoudelianrenruhequwanliulingyifangni?wojintianjidahuoergongxiang4geshijixiaoguofeichanghaodexiaoqiaomen。

1、表述对TA的赏析，以能让TA感觉愉快为总体目标

yudaopingjingdelianrenyibanxiangchudeshijianyebuduan，nannvzaiyiqishijianjiulefeichangrongyifanlan，duilingyifangdetouruyuelaiyuelisuoyingdang，duilingyifangdeyoushihegongzuonengliyejianguaibuguai。

yinci dajiahebuchangshiduojiangyixiebiaoyangdehua，haowuyiwenlingyifangdetouru，shangxiheqinpeilingyifangdegongzuonengli，rangzishenfanhuiyuanshideqingkuang。

jiarutaduinitanqitadegongzuozhong，huazhenjiaoyu，nixuyaozanyangta：shizhenshijia?pengyoulibianyingdangweiyounihuodeneiyangdeshurongba?jiarutabiaoshuxiaochenhuoshibumanyi，nixuyaoduitashuo：nizaoyizuodegouhaola。

2、好好爱自己，尊重你爱的哪个TA

 xuduoqinglvfenshouhoujiuyuelaiyuenuqichongtian，henzijiyanxia，guailingyifangshigezha，hemenjiuzhemoziji、diushangrendehuacuicanlingyifang，yuanyishixiangzaochenglingyifangdeliuyi，jifalingyifangdehuiyi，zuizhonggongkuiyikui，fandaoxiaoqianlelianggerenzuizhongyisiqingyi。

yinci fenshouzhihou，yidingbiewangjihaohaoaiziji，lingwaiyezunzhongfangqinidenageta，bubiouqi，buyaoshuoyiqieshangrendehua，bubizailiaonaxie“womingbainibuaiwo”“wojiuzhidaoniyiqingbielianle/kanzhongbiedenvshengle”“woyequeshineimejinifanganma?”“woqushileniyeburongyinanguode”。

danfannijuedehuiranglingyifangbuyukuai，huoshinengrangzishenjiehen，nengxiaochuzishenbiequdehuadoubuyaoshuo，youyu“jiehenyishishuang，zhuiqi/fuhuohuachang”。

3、应对TA的斥责，不必急切争辩

fenshouzhihoujiaruniyaozaicihetazaiyiqi，neiyingduitadechizejiububijizhequzhengbianle，xuduoqingkuangxialianrenyiqiandechizeshijishangbianshiyizhongxintaidefaxie，dengtafaxiewanhouzaijianjiandigoutongjiaoliu，liruxianhaowuyiwentaduiniqiangdiaodecunzaidebuzu，suihouzaihuanhuandegaozhita：woweichangbuxiangxiangnijuededeneibanchuse，danshijizheiban，wozhiyoujiejinsuonengqujianquan，danyinweiwojieshourujindezishen。

neiyanglingyifangdebuliangqingxuhuodeleshujie，niyebiaoshulezishendeguandian，yaobushiyixieyuanzewentidenanti，yibanlingyifangdouburongyitaiguojiaozhener，ruguoshiyixieshunshoujiunengjiuzhengdexiaowentihuoshishiyuanzewentidewenti，nirengranjianchibuxiebubianneibianshixintainantile，jiuyouziqubeifen!

4、懂得感恩，学会欣赏

“renfeishengxian”zheiyidadaolidajiadoudong，keshixuduoqingkuangxiadajiajinjinyongtamenlaiweizijibianjie，quefeichangshaozhenshiqukuanrongtarendebugou，youqishiduigengdajiawuhuabushuodeqinglv。

jibiantichufenshou，dajiayeyingdangxinhuaiganenlingyifangyiludeshouhou，duixianghudebugouxuehuixinshang，ranglingyifangjiandaonidewanshanyimian。

 pingjingtichufenshoudelianrenyouyigetexing，bianshifenshouzhihoufengkuangchize、manmalingyifang，guohougushenyirenshiquetongkuliutiluolei、zhuihuimoji。