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1、关联认知能力不正确

 zaihenduorenderenzhinenglili，fuchouzhelianmeng4zaoyixiangdangyufuhexing，shijishang，tashishifenbuzhengquede，fuchouzhelianmeng4hefuhexingshichedibuyiyangde2gedingyi。fuchouzhelianmeng4shixiufulianluo，erfuhexingzejiushizhidajiaxiufuleqinglvdeguanlian。

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 buzhengquedeguanlianrenzhinenglihuizaocheng buzhengquedexingwei，liru，zaiguanlianhuanjiezhihou，mashangtaolunzhiqiandeqingganwenti。huoshizhujiantiguoqu，maiyuanlingyifang，zheizhongdoushihuiranggoutongjiaoliuyuelaiyuefeijing，guanlianzaidujiangchibuxia。

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2、现象偏激

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3、着急吃不上西施豆腐

nvhaiyingduiqinggandeqingkuangxia，yizhihuihenlixing。

 huijinbuzhudehelingyifangshushuozishendesinian，shuoniyouduoxiangta，ainita，duosikaotapeizainishenbian。huoshizailingyifangyongyouxinganqingzhihou，yishunjianbaozou，chongzhetatongma。

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