婚姻生活较大的对手并非第三者

婚后怎么维持好家庭 ?婚姻生活较大的对手并不是婚后出轨只是時间

 q：hulianwangyoujuliuxingcishi“wohennanbuzaixiangxinaiqingle”，youduoshaochakedahundanyedequemouzhongyiyishangtixianlezheiyishiqideyishi，ninganjueni?

 yudan：shijishang，ninengbuganxiangxinhuigulianghebaimawangzideaiqing，neileihengjiububiandeaiqingtonghuajianghuizaijinrizaoyibubierenxinlaile。

 keshirenmenrujinnenggoujianxindeshi，zishenshoushangnizhenshiaixi、zaiyi，chixuqujibenjianshedeaiqing。wojuedezheiyiquanshijiemeishenmeshiyichengbubiande，aiqingbingbushiyigezuanjiejiunengtaoshangyishengdeganqing，bingbushiyijushanmenghaishijiubaozhenglezhizizhishouyuzixielao。hunhouzenmeweichihaojiating?hunyinlianaishiyihuishima?

 shehuifazhandezhuanbian、waizaideyinyou，doubiyiwangyaoduoyixie，zhenduiaiqing，quankannikeyiruhediaojiequjitayizhongxindeneihan。youxuduorenshuo，hunyinshenghuojiaodadeduishoubingbushihunhouchuguizhishishijian，youyushijiannenglingrenfawei。fuqijianyulaiyuxiangdabangguoshenghuodexiaohuoban，huayuelaiyuedile。

 dangshichuduixiang，weihejiao“chuduixiang”，jiushishuoyouyutamenruheyouneimaduohuaqutanqushuo，xuduoneishihoushuodejinjincheguluhua，dantajiushishuoxiangyaoduitashuo。danshirujinxuduorenjiushishuoganjuehuashaole，bingfeilingyifangweirenchuleduoshaodenanti。yincirujinxuduorenningkewangshanggenwangyouliaotian，doubuxiangyaogenjiazhongdelianrenxianliao。

 neimaaiqingjiujingshishenme?aiqingyoushijiushishuoyouyanjiangcu、suosuosuisuidetihui，youdeneishihouningyuanliaodaoliangrenhuabutoujiyoumaodun，yizhiyufaxiexiaoxingzi，zheidoubibuliaohaoxie。yaoxiangxiangxinaiqing，nixuxianxinzijidexin，nixinlailecaikeyibatabianweiyizhongtongyixingdong，dahuoerdouquzuoyizuo，caikeyirangtalengzang。dangnizhibatadangzuoyizhongshanmenghaishidehua，neiaiqingyidinghuizou。

 q：daotoulaizaigongzuoshangnulixuduodenvren，doumianlingongzuojiatinggongzuoxiangpinghengdenanti，ninjuedenvrendetiandegongxianshigongzuohuanshijiazhong(xiaohai)?

 yudan：wojuedenvrendetiandegongxian，shitanengjinxingduoyuanhuarenwujiaosedejunheng。duiwomeneryan，renmendexingmingrutongyigemupen，tayouxuduomuban，buzaiyinajiamubanfeichanggao，erqujueyubukeyiyouyigemubanfeichangdi。nikeyijunhengduoyuanhuaderenwujiaose，neimanijiushishuohenqudechenggongde。

 nvrenbukeyibasuoyoudejiyudoufangdaoxiaohaishoushang，zheileijiaofashijishangshifengxiande，youyuyigemamaganxinqingyuansheqilezishendexuduoyaoqiuerbaguoduodeqiwanghelixiangdouqiangjiazaixiaohaishoushang，zheixiaohaijiujianghuishibushengfuhede。nvrenyewuxushuozishendesuoyoushiyongjiazhidouhuigongzuoshang，zheileixunzhilejiazhong、xingfukuaile。

qudechenggongdenvrenshiduyiwuerde

q：ninshuoguo“piaoliangshimeiyigenvrendexinlidouqidaide”，zaiyizhedabanshangninyounaxiedutedetihuixinde?

 yudan：congchuanyidapeidaonianshuyincha，yemeiyouyidingzhigui，suoyourenshidezongtimubiaoshizuotazishen，erbingbushikaobeitaren。wojiandaozaiwangshangshuodeyijuhuahenyouqu：“renmenmeiyirenshengdaolulaiquanshiyuanchuangde，danhuozhuhuozhuyibuxiaoxinjiubianweiledaoyong，youderenhaihuobianchengfangmaode。”

 shijishang，nvrenquanshixiaizhangwoshishangchaoliu、zhuisuishishangchaoliude，xiaodaochuanyidapei、nanajiabao、chuannashuangxie，yaoxiangnajiadapaimingxing;dadaozaizishendelianbudongxiaodao，xiuxiugaigai，haishuo“wodebitouyaoxiangmoumoumou”，shijishangdangyigerendebiaomianyulaiyuxiangtarendeneishihou，tadexinliyeyidingyulaiyudujuezishen。yigequdechenggongdenvrensuozhuyaobiaoxianchuqudeshiduyiwuerde。

q：huoxuchukaiyizhedaban，nvrengengguanjiandehuanshibenshendeqichang，zheileiqichangshiruheyingzaode?

 yudan：womenwomenzhongguorenyoujulaohua“fuyoushishuqizihua”，20suizhiqiannidehaokanjianghuishifumujide，20suizhihouzheigerenzongtiyipinyixiaojiansuozhuyaobiaoxianchuqudeneileiqichangshizishenxiude。

 nvrenyongyibeizixiulianzhezishendepiaoliang，zheijiukannideaiyouduotanran，nideneixinyoushiduoshaoai，jinishiduoshaoyishizhuxingdeqingquyongju，jinishiduoshaonvshiheganxingdeguanghui……quanbuzheiyiqie，congnixingmingliliuluchulai，jiashangzuixianghupeihenizishenqichangdezheixiefuzhuang，neimenijiujinxingleyigezishendechengcai。

yinciwojuede，meilideshizhongshizishen，erbingbushikaobeitaren。

q：ninzongshuo“yongxinbubiyaoyongnao”，zheizairichangshenghuozhongyounaxieshijidefanyingma?

 yudan：yongxinyongnaoshiyizhongjunheng，zaigongzuozhongdeneishihourenmenwubideyongdanaoqukaizhanpanduantuili，zairichangshenghuozhong，xiwangnengdaliangdeyongxin，yongrenmenlixingde、rendebenxingzhongzuijibendeyuansuqutanchengdeyingduiyishizhuxing。

 yongnaoshikeguan，yongxinshilixing，yongkeguanrenmennenggouzaishehuifazhanshangzuoyigexiaonvren，dangdanniderenwujiaose;yonglixingnenggoujiniganshoudaliangdanvrendelanman、wenrou，jiqishenghuozhongdemeiheai。

 jiarurenmenzongshiyongnaoburongyiyongxindehua，richangshenghuonijianghuifangzhilexuduotongku，tishenglegaoxiaolv，keshizishenhuiguodehenningzhi、henkuzaofawei。danjiarurenmenyiqiejinjinyongxinbuyongnao，renmenyejianghuihuibeipengdeshanghenleilei。yinciwojuedeyongxinheyongnaoshiyizhongjunheng。

q：rujinhenshimao“chuanyuezhongsheng”，jiarujininyicichuanyuezhongshengdejiyu，ninzuixiangchuanyuezhongshengdaonaxieshidaidenaxiedifang?

 yudan：wojuederendeyishengtaiduanzanxingle，renmenganbujihuilai。yuqishuoshichenjinyuzaiyizhongtuolishijidexinyuanli，dianjizhezishenfanhuiheshiqu，haibibushangzairujinwozaizuoxienaxie，jijianglaiyigegenganwendequdechenggong。youyurenmenkeyibaozhengde，shiyirujinzaochengdejianglai，erbingbushihainengfanhuishenmeshihou。hunyinlianaishiyihuishima?