取得成功的婚姻生活要运营

婚后怎么维持好家庭 ?教师说：在国外上层社会里有80%的家中是沒有离了婚的，即便是此外离了婚的20%的家中中，她们的婚姻生活限期也都会10年之前。但人们國家却正好相反，在我国通常是上层社会的人90后离婚高，就由于有了钱，感觉老婆都不好看了，沒有诱惑力了，就换了。

一、一个成功人士，她们通常具有下列素养：

1.chengxin、gangzhengbua、youjiatingjiaoyu

2.youfeichanghaoderenjijiaowangnengli

3.youyouliangdesixiangyishi

4.直系亲属的兼容

5.qinfendejianchibuxiegongzuozhong

二、幸福快乐的价值观念

xingfukuailelaiyuanyuyujunheng，zhinengjiazhonghemu，gongzuocaikeyiyougengqiangdefazhanqushi。yejiushishuojiazhongdiyi，gongzuodier。

renruyaoxingfukuailebixujiejuehaosanzhongguanlian：

1.renherenzhijiandeguanlian

2.人与环境的关联

3.renheneixinshijiedeguanlian

三、危害婚姻生活的要素

1.忠实

2.义务

 jiaoshijiangleyigegushizuinengtixianyiwudehanyi。yigeqiyedeceo，shiyigeshifenchenggongrenshi。youyitian，tadeqizibeichezhuang，bianchengyigezhiwuren。tajiuyibugongzuozhong，meitianqupeitadeqizi，zhaoliaotadeqizi。laozongxunzhaoceoquhetatan，laozongshuoyiqiyedeweituorenzhaohaoduogeayilaiquantianhoudezhaoliaoqizi，neiyangceojiunenggouyoudaliangdeshijianlaizaiyiqiyedegongzuozhong。hunhouzenmeweichihaojiating?hunyinlianaishiyihuishima?

 ceoshifendizhi，laozongshuo：“tashiyigezhiwurenle，quandoubuqingchulejibiannimeitiandezhaoliaota，tayebuqingchunijiaoshenmele，yigeayiyunidezhaoliaoshimeiyoufenbiede”。danceojiangguoyiju：“dangtabuqingchujiamendeneishihou，woxianglejietashishei。

3.贴心

 hunyinshenghuoshi2gebuyiyangyishizhuxingbeijingtu、2gejiazhongdezucheng，neiyangdezuchengbidinghuicunyouyixienanti。neimajiubixubicinengjienalingyifangdeyoushidelingwaigengyaojienalingyifangdequexian。zenyanglaitiexin，bixusangecengmian：lejie、guanai、qinglai。yigenanrenzheiyibeizijiushishuoyibian“qingmian”erhuo，yigenvrenyibeizishiyibian“qing”erhuo。jiarunengzhangwozheiyi，qinglaiyejiuyibunanle。

4.可以做

 yigenvrenbixujingjiduli。zili、ziliziqiang。youyijushuofeichanghao“shijiezuiyikaobuzhudejiushishuonandejianbu”。zimeimen，jilaozheihuaba。nvrenyaojilaobukeyiyizhilingdeyikouqilaizhilingnidezhangfu。nanrenyaojianxinnvrendeshiyingnengli，bubijiaonidelaopolaizuoshier，shijianjiule，tahuichanshengyizhongyilaigan。

5.jilingyifangdalizhichi

 si、hunyinshenghuoshiyouxuqiude，nanrennvrendexuqiudoushibuyiyangde，juquanqiuquanweirenshitongjifenxi，nanrennvrendouyouwudabixu，bingqiezheiwugexuqiuyeshishicengjiguanliande。

男性的五大需求：

第一位：性需求。

第二位：玩上一块

 zheiyibixuzuinengtixian，xianghudexihao，xianghudeyanyu。liruzhangfushuo，jinrixiangqudiaoyu，qizihaiyaolikechuanshangxiuxianxie，nachuyuganlaikan。jiaruqizinengpeizhangfuwanquanbutaxiaidexinxiangmudehua，neitahaihuizaiquzhaobiededepengyouma?jibianquzhao，tayehuixiangqijiazhongdeqizide。

第三位：老婆具备诱惑力

nanrenshiyongshijuedaolianqingshenghuode，nvrenqueshiyongzishendechujuehejuedelailianqingshenghuode。

 rujinxuduonvren，quanshizaochenzhangfuhaimeiyouxinglaideneishihoujiuhuahaozhuang，chuanhaopiaoliangyifuwaichule。yelidengzhangfufanhuijiadeneishihou，qiziqueyixiehaozhuang，yizhezishenbuxiubianfudeshuipaozaiwuzilikandianshijule。neiyangdezhangfuhenkeling，kanbujianqizikandeyimian，dangzhangfudepenyouduitashuo“nidelaopohenmeiya”，zhangfuhuihenjingya，youyutabenzhijiumeiyoujianguoqizihaokandeyimian。

 yincishuo，xuduonvshidouyingdanggaoduzhongshizishendeneiyi，daxingshangchanglineiyizhuanmaidiandegaoduanshuipao，congjishidedaoshiduowandechangyou。zenmehuiyoujiageneimegaodeneiyini?chuanzaiwaitaolibian，sheiyekanbujian，weihehaineimaguini?qidaizimeimenxiangzhezheiyinanti。

第四位：通情达理

 zhenduiyigenanreneryan，taqidailaoponenggouzaijiazhongzhaoliaohaobaobaojiatinggongzuo。danzheijinjinyigenanrendisiweidexuqiu。yinci，zimeimen，bubirenweinijiehunlejiuyiweidequweizheiyijiahexiaohaiqunuli，renmendezhangfubixudebingbushiyigeayi。

 xiangzhezheixiebeizhangfupaoxiadeqiziba，tamenzhongyouyidabufenshijinzhijinzedeyibianjiazhongweilebaobaoweilewozainuli，dantamenqueshiwangtouding，tamenzaizhangfumingquetichulihunzhihouhuishifendejingya，“weishayibianzheiyijianulileneimeduo，niyaohuipaoxiawoni?”zheijiushishuo，niyaobulejienanren，niyongyuanbuzhidaonanrendexuqiushisha，jiaruzimeimenlejienanrendeqianjigexuqiudehua，haihuizaiyiweidefuchuma?

第五位：对自身十分敬佩

 yigeqiziduizhangfushuo“wozhangfuzhenconghui。”“zhangfu，nizhenlihai。”neiyangchengzandehua，danlingyigeqiziqueduizhangfushuo：“nikankanbierenxiaozhaodezhangfu，duokeyizuoa，xinshuizhuandeduo，nikanzheni，yigewonangfei。”zuoweiyigenanreneryan，ninengxiainajiaqizini?

 nanrendexuqiujiangwanle，bixuzimeimenxixinshuji。xiabianshuoyixianvrendexuqiu，jiubixulaogongmen，huozhemeiyouwanhundenanhaiermenshujile。

女性的五大需求：

diyiwei：wennuan、lanman、renci

 nvrenshikaochujuehejuedelianqingshenghuode，zhengyouyuzheiyidian，caihuiyouxieren“lianqingshidenvren，zhilidengyuling”。zheihua，bingfeishuorenmendangliqueshimeiyouzhilile，meiqufenbianhepouxile，zhishishuorenmennvrenhuiqingxinnanrendeyixie“tianyanmiyu”，xiangqujianxinnanrenweizishenzaojiudemeiyifenyiwaijingxi。yincicaihuichuxianxuduomeilideguniang，jialeyigejiaoweitaichoudezhangfudezhuangkuang。jiaruxiangjinidelaopogengaizheni，neima，zuoweiyigenanren，nizuixianbixubaozheng，jiushishuozheiyidian。

dierwei：qingtu(bieming：aixutao)

 nvrendemeixingshiaixutao。dangnvrenxutaoshi，nanrentongchangzheishihoudoushiganjueshifenfangan。jiaruniyaozuodehaoyidianjiudangmeitingjian，zuoerting，youerchu。jiaruzuodebutaihaodenanren，jiuyaoshuo“nihaofana，xutaoshenmeya，zheijianshiqing，nidoujiangguohenduobianle”，neiyangdejingdianduibaihenshangnvrenxinde。

第三位：忠实、坦诚

nanrenbuyaozaishuohuang。jiarusaleyicihuang，nvrenjiuhuicaiyiniyiqianshuoguodesuoyou。

disiwei：jingjifazhanjianrong

diwuwei：duijiazhongdefuwuchengnuo

 nvrenbixuyigenanrenxiangxidefuwuchengnuo。liruzhangfufuwuchengnuopeilaopoquguangjie，danlaidaodaxingshangchanghou，zhangfujiuzhaolegediqu，shuo“niguangyiguangba，wohaizaidengni”。zheiyineishihouqizijiuhuihenbugaoxing，neishihoubulaideneishihou，zhangfudefuwuchengnuojiushishuo“wokeyiheniyiqiquguangjie，maixiezi”，danlaidaodaxingshangchangjiubianweile“wopeinizoudaxingshangchang，wohaizaiyicengdengzheni，nizishenguangyiguang”。neiyangyigechengnuojiubianweilebuxiangxidele。

 shijishang，dangnancongzhenshipeiqiziguangyiguangwandaxingshangchanghou，nijiuhuifaxian，nanrennadebaozhuangdailitongchanghuanshinanxingdeyifukuziduojian，zheidoushiyigenvrenzhenduizhangfudeyigexiangxifuwuchengnuodeyizhonghuibao。

五、婚姻生活的告诫

1.yonghaowuyiwendezhijiezhengjutanbai(ta)“woxihuanni”。

2.changchangsongxuduolipin。zheizhonglipinbuyidingguidingshifendexingjiabigao，yaodejiushishuozheileijuede。

3.守候他(她)

4.weita(ta)zuoxieshier

 yigemuqinhuijizijidexiaohaizuoxuduoshier，wusifengxian。fufubiciyeyingdangxiangmuqinkandaixiaohaiyiyangdexinqingquweilingyifangzuoxieshier

5.抚摩和性

nanrentongchangchangchangbaozhengdeshisuoshudedi5dian，ernvrenbixunanrenbaozhengqueganghaoshiqiansidian。

liu、hunyinshenghuozhongde2geyishi

1.hunyinshenghuodexingfujiushiyunyingchuqude，rutongzuomaimaiyiyangdelaoshenyunying。

2.nanrenbixudeshizhanju，ernvrenbixudeshijuede。hunyinlianaishiyihuishima?