婚后你的男人为什么不肯回家

婚后怎么维持好家庭 ?读者来信

 woyulaoxianshengzaijiehunqiangecengmiandouhenshihe，jiazhong、shouyizheixie，shuobailedemendangjiehunle，erweimanyiniandehunyin，que“yiwaishigu”chujiao，shuobaile“yiwaishigu”shishishangwang，duitaeryan，huoxushihoujierbofa。

 renmen2gequanshiguishuyuduiwaikaifangrenxingqingrouhe，buzaihu，buxingaoqiao，nenggoushuoguishuyuleisixingqing。yinweiliangrenzixiaodoujiatingqingkuangjianyi，doumeiyoufeichangdadeqijiangqinshenjingli，yincihexuduo80houdushengziyiyangfalidanfulingyifang。(hunhouzenmeweichihaojiating?hunyinlianaishiyihuishima?

 woyouyuqianrendepanbian，heershijiazhongduiwomendeshiyashiwenhuajiaoyu，woduizishenhenmeiyouxinxin，duiqingganyeshiquefazixin，yincizailianqingdeneishihou，woduoshibuzaiyi，ertiaoxuanhunhou，quefajueqianquexinlai，jibenshangquanbuninshuzhongchangtijidenvrenyifandeyumeibuzhengquewohaiganle。

 jiehunhouderenmenzhengzhixianzhujingchang，zaijiarenmenderenwujiaosebianhuan，wodebiaozhunfamayulaiyuqing，zhizhiliangyueqiandelengbaolibaofa，qijinrenmentaguoquanbudezhengzhiquanguocheng，tayaozouzishendecunzhe，rengranmeitianwanshangxiabanlebuhuijia，daoyelishiyidianhuijia，keshibuguanwohetadefumu、penyouzenyangzhiwen，tadoushuozishenmeiyouhunhouchugui，buganxiangxinzheiyiqiantitiaojian，quandouwucongshuoqi。tazhiyaoziyou，meirenguanta，bulunshishei。

 zuotianwanshang，renmenzaidulijingyichangchelunzhan，tatongyiwokeyizuoxiegenggai，huishizhecongtoukaishi，keshiwojuederenmendezhongyaoshizaicichuangjianxinlai，taqueganjueniwozhijianmeibanfa，wotiyitazhaoxunjishuzhuanyedehunyinzixun，tafuyanleshishuo，huiwangshangzhaozhaozenyangchuangjianxinlai……bubidezhengzhiyinweiwotinglei，kanbujiantadechengxin，queyouyushilengshiredexintaijiwomendeshenghuodaozhicuojue。

 wozhendebuzhidaogaizenyangtiaoxuan，shitiaoxuanqinfencongtoukaishi(wodequeshebude)?huanshiqusunhaibicifumuwanbizheiweimanyiniandehunyin，wanbizishendetongchu?qingninbangwodiantiyihaome?

苏芩回应：

nandaoshuobieyiwei，nanrenbukenhuijiadeyuangu，jiudouyouyuyongyou“hunhouchugui”ma?

 jinguanyouxuduonanrenshiyinzheiyiyuanyinertiaoxuantaochulaopo，danyishizhuxingdangzhong，yiyouxuduonanren，jiusuanmeiyoulianren，yexiangyaodaizaiwaibian。zheiyangdeshiqingzhizhong，jiugaihaohaodiwenyiwenzuolaopodele：weihebashiriguobianchengzheimoyang?weihebayigejiayunyingdetahuizhixiangtaochuni?

 zongshi，zheizaiqizhongyeshitadeyuangu。ruotamingbaiqianjiunikuanrongni，renshounideyiqiexingzi，zheishiriyekeyiguoxialai，keyiyangzuowei80houdeta，yeheniyiyang，meixuehui“kuanrong”。

 liannidourenkezishenfanguodeyumeibuzhengque。tashuozheiyouyujiatingfenweijiqiqianrendepanbian。zheiyidianxiangxin。tongchanggengshiqueshaozixindenvren，huiyueqipanconghunyinzhongdedaozhudongquan，tajingbuzhuyidingdiandetiaozhan，zhuangbuxiayisisidebiyi。guigenjiedi，queshaozixindenvren，yizhichangshigenjubawozuiqinmiwujiandeneiren，laidedaoyizhongbenshenyouyuegandezhengmingcailiao。

 niyizhizaijiehunhouhuiguidingguanlifangfatadecunzhe，huihuangkongbuanyuzishendebiaozhunfamayulaiyuqing，shijishangniyeshidanxin，zheiyinanren，niguanbule。

但是，那样个性化的女人，哪家男人真实吃得消呢?

 rujinyuanyigaijindajiadeguanlian，diyibu，xianxuehuizhangdaleba。hunyinchulenanti，neijiushidajialiangrendeshier，wuxuzaiqingfumuhexiaohuobanmenlaibangdajiazuoguojue。bingqie，hunyindeshi，canjiaderenyueda，liangfufudeqingganhuiyuecha，youyujiachouyidanwaiyang，beigaofangwanwanquanquanhuipoguanposhuai。

 ciwaiyidian，tanengyouyaoqinfendebiaotaifayan，zheifeichanghao。zuixianzhengmingcailiaozheiyitaxiangyaobariziguohao，neimajiexiaqu，nigaizuodeshi，xuehuiconghaodeyimianduidaita，bubizongqukankantadebugou，meigerenchangyoubugou，ruonizhidingzhuneibiankan，zheijiushinidexintaizhuangtaichulenanti，wulunjiageshei，douguobujiri。

 yincijianglairuotayongyouyoushi，xuehuizanyangta，erqiebiaoluchuniduitadeqingyi。renquanshiganqingxiaodongwu，sheidouxiaizheixiexiairenmenderen，nanrengengshiruci，weiyoudedaoyigenvrendeai，tacaizhenshixiangyaoquaiyigenvren。

 zheiyiduanhunyindenanti，gengkongchuzainideneixin。xuehuidiaojiezishen，dengyinciweizijiyigejiyu。buran，posuoshijie，ruonideaibuzujiankang，suoyouren，doujibushangniyuanyidexingfukuaile。hunyinlianaishiyihuishima?