婚姻中决不能有这六种心态

婚姻生活 怎么过?挑选一个人，一个婚姻和一种生活全是自身的决策，即然是自身挑选的，全部的一切都应当有胆量去应对，去担负。推脱和推卸责任只有让埋怨促进和加重两个人中间情感的土崩瓦解。

对婚姻的高期待心态

 conglianqingdaowanhun，womenyizhidouzaiyongzishendexiangxiang“mengpian”zhezishen，zheilei“mengpian”daliangdeneishihoushibujingyijiande、mangmugenfengde、chaoyueshikongde，shinenggoubazhiredeganqingxiangdangyu“reqing”hunyindeyizhongxiangxiang。(hunyinshenghuozenmeguo?fuqizhijianzenmexiangchu?

 youyuyoureqingdechongjixing，huayanqiaoyudebaozhuang，duijiehunhoudeyishizhuxingzongyoulehengaodeqidaizhi，xiangxiangzhongxingfudehunyinbianqudaileshijidehunyin，daxuegongzhuyuwangzidexiaogushizhuanbianchenglehunyinshenghuozhong“biaozhunhua”、“yangeyaoqiu”dehuashenwei，tashirenmenzishenjihunyinrenweiyinsuewaideyizhongwaibaozhuanghe，yejiushishuoduiyuhunyindegaoqidaixintai。

 dangzheileixingfudexiangxiangherenweiyinsudewaibaozhuangheyidanbeihunyinshenghuodelingsuisuotidai，bansuizhejiehunhouyaoqiudebunengmanzu，xinhanyushiluodexintaijiuhuixiang“heiyunyacheng”yibanbansuiyizhongshangdangshoupiandejuedeyitongxiangrenmenpumianerlai。shijishang，zheibingfeineirenmengpianleni，zhishiniduihunyindegaoqidaixintaimengpianleni。

过度自尊和比较敏感的心态

 zaihunyinshenghuozhong，shidangdezizunhebijiaominganshiyizhongleguandexintai，danguoduzizunhebijiaominganjiuhuibazishendehunyinbishangsilu。jiehunqianbiaoshiyankezhaoban，jiehunhouguidingzhaodanshouhui，yigezheyi、yigetuotuolala，hunqianhunhoudechaju，barenmendezizunbiruleyangchangxiaodao。fuqibicizhongjiuhuiyouyifangjuedezishendezhixiqinshuzaimiaoshizishen，buzhongshizishen。

 yibianbaoweizishendezizunerduilingyifangdeyantanjuzhihexingweiguodu“zizun”hebijiaomingan，tebieshizaishiduilingyifangzaiwuyijianzhongjianshuodeyijuhuahuowuxindexingwei，hui“hanyi”shangbantian。zheileixintaishuodeduitingyidianneijiaoainiletou，shuodenantingshishenjingjinzhang。jiarubulijipifuguomin，zhangjiuyiwangzhiyoujiakuailingyifangdeyanxuexintaihexintaishangdejinzhang。

期待收益的心态

 yixiefuqidehunyinrutongladaju，wojininulileshiduoshao，jiudeshouyiwoshiduoshao;woxintengni，jiudeduiwomenhao，buran，zheidajushilabulede。

 jiaruyouyifangzuodebuzuhao，aidebuzuduo，lingyifangdexinhan、kunao、bugaoxingjiuhuiqiaoranerzhi，guoququanbudekaixinbianhuifeichangrongyibeihushi，kunaohebugaoxingyejiuburongyineimafeichangrongyihuizhijiqu。zheileixintaiyidanshenruhunyinshenghuozhong，jiufeichangrongyizaochengyifangxintaideshilinghexintaishangdebujunheng，xintaishangdewuchajiyoukenenghuinongchuhunyinshangdewucha。

不重视的心态

 wanhunjiule，bianhuijuedelingyifangzaojiushizishenderenle，zenmeshuohua、ganshenmeyebuchuyuxinli，congshuohuadefangfadaojiatingshiwudejiejuemangmuxingdoushitingda，feichangshaozaiquzaiyilingyifangdetihuihexintai。

 shijishang，zaiyigejiazhongzhong，zhongshishiganqinghefuqihemujiaowangdejiben，fuqixiangchushixuchanshengdehenduobukaixindouyouyuzaiyixiesuoshidejiejueshang，yinweiyouyifangbuzhongshilingyifangerzaochengfuqibicidadonggange。

 gengyoufuqiyibianzhengkouqi，gangkaishilexintaishangdezhangjiujiaofeng，lengbaolibianbianchengcuihuiganqingdeshuke，erganqingyidanbeizheileijiduandefenweilongzhaozhe，fuqijiandewennuanyouruhejianghuizhangqini?

不包容的心态

 zaiyigejiazhongzhong，keyizuobukeyigan，zuodezenmeyangshixiangduixingde，danbingbushijueduide。xuduoshierquanshiyouburongyibaozhenghuizuo，yezhinengzaizuodequanguochengzhongcaihuiyouburongyidaohuidebianzhi。

 yiner，fuqijianmeizuoyijianshijinliangmeiqusheqiuhezeguai，gengbunengtiaomaobing。danshixuduofuqijiushishuogaobudongzheiyili，shaohebulaizishendeqingyi，jiuhuichizelingyifang，shijianzhanglebeichizedeyifangbujinburongyiganjuezishenzuodebutaihao，fandaohuizaochenghaijidexintai。

 yinweizhangqixingdeyayiganheweimanshifuqijiandeqingganyouredelengyejiuwukebimian，eryayigandexintaijiarubukeyilijishifangchulai，xianghujiandeyayiganheweimansuishisuidihuiyichujifa。

过多依靠的心态

 fuqibicizaiqingganhexintaishangdexianghuyicunnenggoujiazhongxianghujianxiangaideshuiping，danguoduyikaozongyoujianghuibianchenglingyifangganqinghexintaishangdefudan。congbiaocengkan，guoduodeyikaoshiaideyizhongzhuyaobiaoxian，shijishangshiduiaideyizhongjielvehezhanju。yiqiezhengchangdeyikaoshiyizhonghuxiangzhichengdianhexintaikaolvdeyizhongqingkuang。

 kuayuelezheileizhichengdianheqingkuang，jiuhuiduizishendeganqingzaochengcaiyi，caiyilingyifangyibushandaizijile，huoshishiduizishendeaibugounongbuzushenle。zaiyicicidecaiyiyihou，jiushirangganqingyicicididujuezishen。fuqizhijianzenmexiangchu?