婚姻生活“读不懂丈夫”五大缘故

1、你的认知误差

 hunyinshenghuo zenmeguo?airenzhongjiandemaodun，duojianyuyishi、shengzhangxixing、renzhinantidechabieshang。nvdelixingluojisiweichaoguokeguan，shanyuxiangxianghexiangxiang，duiyige“wenti”huizaochengwuxiandexiangdao。nandaoshuotazaishuoniwozhijianmeiqingganle?tazaianzhirenmendehunyinshenghuomeiyouganqing?shibushitaxinhuaiwangnian?tazhongjiushineileihuaxinnanren?

 chuaizhebuanquanxinghebuquedingxingganqurenzhilingyiban，naozilizongchuxiandejiushinixiangdaozhongdeta，nigentadegoutongjiaoliuzhong，daziranchanruniduitadexiangdaolejie。tangruoni“dubudongta”henjianxin，neimanidetongchuli，youleniluojisiweideyiwu。(hunyinshenghuozenmeguo?fuqizhijianzenmexiangchu?

2、你的偏执

 congxintaizhuangtaishengzhangfayudejiaoduguancha，pianzhigexinghuaderen，youjiaoweigaodehaiziqidu，jingchangxiaiyingyongyingshexintaizhuangtaitizhi，jizishenruhexiangde，jiujuedetarenruhexiangde，zishenshiruhejuedede，jiubajuedezuoweishiji，ta(ta)shiyishizhuxingzaizishenxiangxiangshenhuachuanshuozhongderen。

 fufuzhong，jiaruyifangcunyoupianzhixingrengeleixing，ta(ta)huiyouyuqianqueneixinjiexiangan，erfenbuqingchuzhuguanxingyukeguanxianshi，yitaiguobijiaomingan、caijizhiqinglejielingyifang，huibazishenbutaihaodebuyuanyideyishihejuedeyingshejilingyifang。tongsuhuajiang，ta(ta)shi“anjisuoyuguidingbieren”“jisuobuyushiyubieren”deren。“dubudongta”deni，kaolvdaonishibushiyoupianzhixinggexinghua?shibushiyongxiangxiangheyingshezaiyueduwenzhangnideta?

3、你的依靠情结

 shijiniandehunyinshenghuo，deyirangbicilejielingyifangsuoshi。jiaruniyongyuanbuzhidaolingyifanghexurenye，bingbushijiushiniconggongzuojingyanherenzhishangbukeyifenbianta，zhishinizaiqianyishizhongyikaoqingjieyinfa，nibixuta!suirantayixieguannianhegerenxingweinibukeyijiena，danruosangshita，nimeifayingduiguanlianqueshidegudanyuwunai，chengdanbeiyiqidetongchuyuanyuandichaoguozaiguanlianlidejianxin。

 “dubudongta”deni，qianyishizaixiangdajiashuo：niyeshidanchunxingde、keliande、duiqingganshiguzhide，ertashifanza、jianzha、wankude。keshinineixindeyikaoqingjie，shininingyuanyou“budongta”denanao，bukeyichuxianfenlichulaizhiku。yaoburan，zaiyebuhuibawoyigeneimajinihuisenandongjinitongkuderenmeifang。yinweinineixindeqingjiekunhuo，caihuizaihuhuoqingshilingyifanghuoxuzhaobudaodefanza、jianzhahewanku。

yiner，nineixindehaiziqiheyilaigan，jiushinixiangyaoduganqingyuanzhuxiaoshuo(jiusuanshijiaguwenzi)deyinyousuoshu。

4、你的心态

 airenguanlianzhong，niyouyuyiqingerbaikelian，neixintianmanyuanyinhebiequ，lianggerenkaizhangoutongjiaoliuhehudongjiaoliu，ninengjinbuzhudixiangzhesubiequ、daoyuanyin。youchongzuyuanyindesubiequ，xintaijianghuishishengse、qipohuikanqilaixionghan。zheileiqifen，rendelixingjuedeyukeguanrenzhishichedifenlichulaide，nideta，burongyiganjuetashuodecuowu，danzongjuedeninaerbutaidui。

 cileizhuangkuangxia，lianggerendouzhaobuzhewennuandejuede。tadefanyinghuozhejianmo，huozhebianjie，huozhelaobuhuijiale，doubiaomingshinizhanshangfengdeyuanyintahuitaibuqitou。bu，yinyingshishuohuadeyudiaohexintai，tahuihaipayingduini。

5、你没分清晰自身的目地和自身的个人行为相互关系

 yingduifufumaodunhuoweiji，niyuanbenshixianghaohaodijiaohuanyijian，yiqieqinfenquanshiweizhengjiuguanlianlaikan，jieguoquezaohuanongren，dabufenkaolvdaonidegerenxingweifangfachulenanti，bingbushishitadejueqinghejianzha。rutongyigeshanjierenyidemama，yiqiechikunailaoquanshiweilebaobaohao，danxiaohaibingbutaihao，nantixuduo。renmendegerenxingwei，tongchangshiduansonghuomosharenmenxingfumudideguizishou。

 “dubudongta”shifuqiganqingpangencuojiedebiaoshu，shihunyinshenghuocunyouqianzaixingliefengdeshujuxinhao。nidubudongta，yuyinizaimingchutazaizaiheianzhongdeguanlian，zaiheianzhongderengaoqingchudaliang，mingchuderentongchangbusuiyi。yaolejieta，nihaiyaogenggaifazhanzhanlve，bukeyiyizhinizaibiaomianchongahoude。

 jiarutameisheqibeinidu，zishenjiubiaomingtaxinliyouleni，dangniyebuyuansheqita，jiubixucaiyongxindefangfaquyueduwenzhangta。zheidaibiaozuixianjianchazishen，youmuyouzuoyoupouxide“dubudongta”deyuangusuoshu。suihou，xiangaibianxianzhuang，zaitanbai“huilaiba，womenyiqijiangli”“fangxin，wodongwo”。fuqizhijianzenmexiangchu?