婚姻经营思想：彼此要维持对婚姻的注意力

怎么 经营婚姻 ?【婚姻经营】许多很多年的夫妇常有那样的体会：两人在一起要是没有重特大的事儿商议就会没话好谈，觉得很平淡无味，即便拉下手都是觉得左手握右手。有的人将这种情况称之为夫妻之间的一切正常状况，由于即便再相爱的夫妇也会重归于乏味的生活起居中，激情不太可能长期维持。

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婚姻经营思想：保持恋爱的感觉，另外维持“焦点观念”

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