揭露幸福婚姻的密秘：为何有的婚姻过得那麼无味

怎么经营婚姻? 为何有的人的婚姻过得很好，而有的人的婚姻就运营的那麼差?是身旁的那人错误吗?遇到悲剧婚姻的你经常痛楚不己。实际上不一定是身旁的那人非常好，实际上幸福婚姻常有一个密秘：

 1、duihunyindeqidaizhiyuanbenjiuhendi。burongyiganjuejiuhuiyinerchansheng"cihouxingfukuailediyishizhuxingzaiyiqile……"leisideshier。gaoqingchuhunyinjiushishuohunyin，shenghuozhongbiedezuipingyongdeyuansudouyimoyiyang，jinengchanshengxuduoyichu，yelingwaiyouxuduobiduan。zenmejingyinghunyin?poxiguanxizenmegoutonghao?

gaoqingchuhunyinjinjinkaizhanleyizhongshenghuoxiguandetiaoxuan，erbingbushijinxingleyixiangchuangju。

 2、keyijiaoweidandudiduidaiairen，yiranyineineixinganjueta/tadoushiyigebingyoubieyuzishende“bieren”。xuduoduidepengyouyaoshulidejiaowangguifanzaihunyinneirengjiujianchibuxie。

 3、chukaiganqingshenghuo，yibanyeyoujiaoweiyuanrundebenrenquanqiu。zishenyuanyidewupinzishenxiangfangfayaoqiu，erbingbushigenjuairenlaiyaoqiu。

 zaizhenzhengdeaiqingshoushangnengjiandao，airenzhongjiantongchangduiaijindeshujuxinhaoshifenbijiaomingan，zaiduilingyibandehuiyingshangshifenliji。liruyigerenroujianbudeneishihou，ciwaiyigerenhuibangtaquchuichuijian。

xiaojieqilai，zhenzhengdeaiqing，tongchangbixutigaosangezhongyao“xing”。

yi、keqinmijiechuxing，hunyinanquanxingdegenji

 shenmeshi“keqinmijiechu”ni?yifangmian，“keqinmijiechu”jiushizhizainidejuedeli，nidexinrenyunishibushiqinmijiechu?dangniganjuewomendeairenlejiezishendesuqiudiandeneishihou，liru：

我想被守候，

我想他来倾听我，

woxiangtalaihaowuyiwenwo，

woxiangtagenwoshuo，wojiushiguanjiande，

woxiangtahaohaodiaihuwo……

jiaruzheizhongsuqiudianlianrendoulejie，renmenhuiganjuezheiyirenshizheibandeqinmijiechu。

 lingyifangmian，“keqinmijiechu”yejiushizhijibianlingyifangmeiyoulijidibiaoshutadeqinggan，meiyoulijishuotadeguidingshishenme?renmenyekeyicongtadegezhonggeyangzhuyaobiaoxianlibianduwantaqidaijiyudeguanzhuheai。

 nvhaijingchangyaoshuofanhua，xuduonvhaiyoushishuowobie，shijishangyiweizhezheyao，fahuobingfeiqueshimeililingyifang，zhishiqidailingyifangzhuishanglaihonghongzishen、baoyibaozishen。

zheilibianyouzhexuduoyilaideanshizhe。shenmeshiyilaideanshizhe?jiushishuo——

xiwangyuniyouqingganlianjie，xiwangnikeyixiangwozhengmingcailiaonishuoaiwo、zaiyiwo，xiangyaoshouhouwo，kaolvwo。

danshitangruolingyifangkanbujian，renmenjiuhuixinhan，huiganjuegenlingyifangyoujianju，jiugengweidibuxiangyaoqugenlingyifangqinmijiechu。

 “keqinmijiechu”haiyouyigeyibufenshishuojibianrenmenxinliduirenmendeguanxiyixiedanyouhuogulv，renmenyiranxiangyaoquaijinzheiyiguanxi。

dangguanxiyeyouqidaideneishihou，renmenbixulveweifangyifangxinlideyoulv，shizhezaiqukaojinyidiandian，tanxianyidiandian。

 zheileitanxianyishidedanliang，shijishangshizaixianglingyifangchuansongshuo：wohaizairenmendeguanxili，bushiwoquxiangyurenmenqufenli，zhishiquxiangyuwomenzaiyiqi。

 xuduoairenzaiguanxili，yidanjuededaoshouweixie，jingchangyaoshuo：“nengguojiuhaohaoguo，bukeyiguojiuli”，yejiushishuo“zheigemoyang，buhaowomenjiuliba”。

danshijishangtamenjianghuineixinzaishuo：

“wojiangzheihuashixianggaosudajia，woqueshiduiguanxihendanyou，bingfeiqueshilihun。”

dantamenzuibiandebiaodaxingshi，ranglingyifangjianghuijieshoudaodexinxineirongshi：niyizhizaidujueguanxi，niquxianghetafenlichulai。

 yinci“keqinmijiechu”shishuorenmenlejierenmenlianrendeqingganyaoqiu，huoshishirenmentahuilejierenmendeqingganyaoqiu，suihoujibianguanxiyouyidiannantideneishihou，yiranyoudanliangquaijin。

 renmenkeyiliuyidaolingyifanggezhongdexintaibiaoshushenhou，taduirenmenguanxidezaihu，jiqishuotabingbuyuanduanjuelaiwangdezheileiniantou。

 zheizhonggexingtezheng，jiarurenmennengkaolvlingyifang，lingyifanghuiganjuebengongsishiheaide。jiarulingyifangkaolvlerenmen，neirenmenjiuhuiganjuelingyifangshinenggouqinmijiechude。

zheixiedexuqiukaolvle，renmendexinlicaihuiduoyixieanding，pengyouguanxianquanxingdegenjicaihuinaxia。

er、huiyingxing，youxianxuanzehuiyingairendexintai、qinggan

 xuduoneishihou，tarenshangguorenmen，renmendoushihaijide，tebieshizaishizheixielaiyuanyurenmenfeichangqinmiwujianderendesunhai，yeshiwanxinzhitong。

danjishiruci，jiarurenmenhaixianghetachuangjianqingganlianluo，renmenhaiyaolejietadeqingganyaoqiushishenme。

 jiaruzainiwuqiongnanguodeneishihou，nageyiqiansunhaiguonideren，zheiyineishihouxiangnichuansongleyigetakeyilejienidetongku，jileniyigeqinggandelejiehehuiyingdeneishihou，nijiuhuifaxianzheiyirenmeiyouneimacaogao。

xuduopenyouzaifanshengzishendeneishihou，jingchangyaoshuo：

“aiyo，woqueshishiyouxuduonanti，bawoxuduodeshijianhehuolidoufangdaoxiaohaizishoushangle，yemeiyougushangta。”

 keshishijishang，yigechengren，taqueshibuqingchubanihuolifangdaoxiaohaishoushangshiyingdangdema，taqueshibuqingchuniyizhizaizhaoliaodenagexiaohaishidajiaxianghudeganqingjiejingtima?

 shijishangjianghuijinjinshuotabixuyidiandiandeqingganhuiying，tajinjinbixugaopinzhideqingganhuiying，bingbushiqujueyuduo，erzaiyincizhenshideqingganhuiying。

 tangruobengongsishiyigehuiyingxinghenhaoderen，neirenmenjiuhuiyuanyilingyifanglejietashihenguanjiande，tadexintaizhuanbianduiwomenshiyouweihaide，tadeqingganduiwomendeqingganshiyouweihaide。

 liru，taaiwokeyishiwogengweideaita，taaiwokeyiyaowoganjuefeichangdekaixinkuaile，yinweiwohuizaochengdaliangaitadetihui。

 zaizheiyiquanshijie，wojiushibatafangdaodiyiweide，erbingbushibabierenfangdaodiyiwei，yejiushishuobawotafangdaoyuwozishenyiyangguanjiandebuweishang，danwobuxiangbazishendebabamamahuoshixiaohaifangdaotadeqianbian。

san、fuwuchengnuoxing，tashibushiyouqinggancanjia?

renmenganjuelingyifangjiufangfozaibuduanxiangrenmenfuwuchengnuotahuihaohaoairenmenyiyang。

那这个方面是什么?

yishishuo：renmenganjuerenmenbeilingyifangshifeichangdeguanxindaode;

ershishuo：renmenganjuelingyifangzhuanxinzhizhizairenmendeguanxili，bingqietahuibuduandizhuanxinzhizhizairenmendeguanxili。

 zheileijuedejiufangfoshuo：zheiyirenbuguantashifouzaiwodeshenpang，tashitangzaiwopangbian，huanshigongchuchuwaihuochuguoliuxuechuwai，wohaiganjuetadeqingganweiraozaiwodeshenpang。

renmenguanzheizhongqingkuang，jiao“qinggancanjia”。jiushizheiyirenmeiyouwodeshenpang，dantadeqingganzai，tadeqingganyoucanjia。

 shijishang，xuduorenxiangquchalianrendeshoujishang，quyuanyizhangwotadexinxineirong，shijishangrenmenzaiganshenme?renmenjiushishuozairenzhengshuo：tayoumuyouqinggancanjiadaorenmendehunyinlibianlai。poxiguanxizenmegoutonghao?