幸福婚姻三角基础理论：平稳的关系 这三点缺一不可

怎么经营婚姻? 两人从相逢，相识，交往，到慢慢吸引住，慢慢掌握，慢慢接纳。2个内心的挨近导致了一段幸福快乐的刚开始，从这一段幸福快乐中，渐渐地踏入婚姻。婚姻就是说这次相逢的融合，迈向幸或悲剧。

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