大家婚姻是否也从当时的恩爱变为互相博弈

怎么经营婚姻? 上辈人人常常讲一句话：“并不是东风压倒西风，就是说西风碾过车风”。一开始还不了解，可是伴随着自身的婚姻生活已然一起走过三年后，我们俩中间勾心斗角的交锋趋向常态时幡然理解，原先你我之间一直都在开展一种博弈。

你回忆一下自身与恋人的情况是否也是这种状况：

 1、libaitianxiangyuhenduoniandejiuyoushanhaochiyibei，danlaopojiushishuobuyunxu，youyuburentongzheixiejiuyoudeweiren，lingwaidoubujuedetashiyizhongshejiaomeitifangfa，jinjin“zhupenggouyou”zhongjiandehuxianghunchihunhe。wukenaihebuyuanjiuneimesangshizaoyibukeduodedepenyou，zhiyoumeiyicidouyizhengciyandegaozhilaopo：zheijiushishuonanrenzhijiandehuxiangfangfa，bingqiezhihouhaowuyiwenhuixiezhudaozishen。zenmejingyinghunyin?poxiguanxizenmegoutonghao?

 2、haoguimiqunliyouyouyici“danshenpaidui”，shuobailede“danshennannv”biaozhunjiushishuobukeyidaizishendelaogong。jinguanyoudianerxintonglaogongyigerenzaijiachimiantiao，danhuanshihehaoguimimenchangyinlexuduojiu，baohannanguimi。huijialeshijinjingaozhilaogongtashiqiyedeyicituanduihuodong。

 3、xinchunjiajieyaohuijiaxiang，jinguanshangnianhuideshizishenjia，keshiyouyuzhizishuo2019nianyaodainvpengyouhuilai，jiuyizaogaozhilaogong2019nianyidinghuizishenjia，youyuqujialiqueshibushihe，yaoburanxinchunjiajienagedoubuhui。

 4、jinguanlejiecanhoubukeyizongranglaogongxiwan，keshiyingduineiyiduiyounigandewanpanzongdanyouhuiranzishenyishenyouwei，erqiejiandaolaogongcanhouzuozhebuyishafashangmianyouyizhongzaifushitadejuede。yinciguoduanbuxiwan，jibianyincichaoshangyijiayezaisuobuxi。

5、taoyanzhudongkualingyifangbabamamahao，juedezishendejiazhongyouyiyulingyifang。

 shide，zheizhongshijishangquanshirichangshenghuodexiaoshi，keshizaijiejuezheizhongsuoshishiyiweidezhuzhongzishenderenzhinenglihuoshijianjie，yizhiyuminglejielingyifangmeiyoucuoyehuiganyuangenjuzhengchaolaiyizhilingyifang，zheijiushenggaolaidaoboyi。

 dabufenrendoujuede，fuqizhijianbixuhuxiangtiexin，fuqizhongjianbixuhuxiangguanzhe，keshiyishizhuxingquxiangpingxiaochuhoujiuhuijuedezheileiguanzhejiushishuozaiquconglingyifang，bingqieguanzhedepinciyueda，zishendeyingxiangliyueduonuoruo。

 xiaolizaihunqiandouxihuanhegezhonggeyangpengyoujuhui、changkhekandianshijudengshangwuhuodong，bingqiehezishendelaogongjiushishuozaineiyangdeyicizhutihuodongzhonglejiede。jiehunhouxiaolihuanshiweichimeixingqichangyouduocineiyangdezhutihuodong，erqiezaiweixinpengyouquanhuishaichuyixiexiangpian。yicilaogonglengbudingdejiangguoyiju：dajianeibangrenyitiandaowanxiahunzaiyiqi，fangfodoumeiyoushenmezhengjingshiyiyang。niruguozaineimexialai，nihaowuyiwenhui……。

 xiaolitingjianlengleyixia，woyiweizishendelaogonghenlejiezishendexingqing，danzenmehuihuranxianmubuzhini?danzixixiangleyixia，fangfobingfeixianmubuzhineimejiandan，shilaogongyongyou“nanshou”dexintai。

 zenmehuineiyang，jiandaolaopoyigerenyuyiqunnanrennvrenzaiyiqixiuxianyule，lingwaiyehuipaiyixieyouzhongchidudexiangpian，jiarudajiadoudairuchangjingdequkaolvdao，huihuorangaoqingchuzheileixintaishijishangshiyizhongzaodongbuan。

zheiyineishihou，fuqizhijiandeboyijiuhuiqiaowushengxigangkaishi。

 fuqizhijianzenmehuiyouboyi，weihebicizhijianhuiyouzaodongbuan，guigenjiedishibeilingyifangdecunyoushiyongjiazhisuokuayuele。lingyifangdeshiyongjiazhixianzhugaoguoni，jiuhuiyoujinpogan：zishenshibushihaipeideshanglingyifang，lingyifangshibushisuishisuididounengxunzhaoyigequdaizishenderen。

 renshiyizhongmaodunti。dangshibeixiyinzhushiyouyulingyifangdemeilihefengcai，dangqudechenggongyulingyifangronghehou，youyouyulingyifangdezheileibuduanfengcaiertihuidaozishenbeidezui。zheijiubixuweizijidexinlixunzhaojunheng，erfufuzaizhaozheileijunhengdefangshi tongchangquanshidayalingyifang，dayalingyifangdeshiyongjiazhi，dayalingyifangdeweirenchushifangfa，xuyitiaomaobingzhaochayizhiyumanbujiangli。erdanglingyifangguanniandaonidezheileifangfashizaidayazishen，youhuizhaoshihedejiyugangkaishihaiji……

 yaolejie，fuqizhijiandehuxiangfangshidagaiyousizhong：1、fuqiangqiruo;2、qiqiangfuruo;3、fuqizhijianhuxiangbaorong;4、fuqizhijianhuxiangrangbu。

 wulunnayizhong，shijishangdoushicunyoumouleifangshishangdeboyi，jinjinzheileiboyiduidajiadeganqingzhangqi、jiazhongkekaoxingsuozaochengdeweihaibuyiyangbale。

neima，neimewentilaile，yingduizheileikanqilaizaisuonanmiandeboyi，renmengaizenyangjiejueni?

 guyuyue：bushiyuanjiabujutou。boyidejieguoshijishangshiyouboyidegangkaishijuecehaode，yuanyirangzishendehunyinshenghuojiatinggongzuokeyixingfukuailexiangxidezouxialai，yaoshijiatinggongzuoxiangguandeshier，shinihetazhongjiandeshier，niyutazhongjianshiyigeoumeng，jiuwubikaolvdaolingyifangdetihuihenengchengdandeshuiping。

 yipianhenzhimingdexiaoshuoji《maiqideliwu》:laogongyuanyiweizijiyouzheyitoufeipubantoufadelaopomaiyigemushujiumaichulezishendejinbiao;erlaopoyibianjilaogongdejinbiaopeiyigeshoubiaobiaodaiermaichulezishendexiufa。dangshengdantamenhuxiangjiaohuanliwushi，fajueneimerenzhendetiqianzhunbeiyemeiyouleyuanlaixiangxiangdeyongtu。

 xiaogushidemoweirangrenhendadong，danzheidoushitamenzhongjianzaixinxidebuduichengdezhuangkuangxiakaizhandeyizhongboyi，jinjinzheileiboyibingbushiyibianyizhilingyifang，zhishineixinquanshilingyifangerbuxixishengzishendezuixihuan。chongfenshuoming，boyibingfeijueduidecixiaobizhang，haikeyishiyizhongxianghuzhijiantigao。poxiguanxizenmegoutonghao?