挽回男友丢人吗？

 wulunyiqiannimendeaiqingdezenyangdetianmei、langqingqieyi，chuxianfenqi、zhengzhideneishihou，shibushihuifajuelingyifanghuranjiuduinihenjueqing？yingduinanpengyouzaoyisilexin，sixinyaogennitichufenshou，ninengkaolvdaonanpengyoushuofenshouwanliuma？huanshiganjuewanhuinanpengyoudiulianma，jiaruxiangrangzheiyiduanganqingzhongguidangshidetianmei，neimawomendoushiguixianengwanhuinanpengyouma？huanshiyongsinengwanhuinanpengyouma？jiujinggaizenyangwanliuni？

一、切勿不必问为何，只是要寻找缘故

 zaiganqingdeyanqian，renmenmeigerendoushimingande，buguanniyeshishizaitailixingderendoushibeiqingganchonghun。xuduorendaoyuzuiaiderenchanshengfenqifenshouhou，yizhiyaoshuowobuzhiweishenmeta/tayaohewotichufenshou，yizhijuedewuyuanwugu，juedelingyifangmanbujiangli。wanhuinanpengyoudiulianma?budiulian，keshizaifenshouzhihoudeduanshijianneiyizhixinjidequwenlingyifangweiheyunitichufenshou，danshizainiganleyihoucaifajuenibudanmeiyouwenqiniyuanyidecankaodaan，fandaoranglingyifanggengweiqifenle。nixiangshuijuehuozenmehuineiyang，zheibingbushiniyuanyidejieguo。dangwozheishihouwoyehuilisuoyingdangdejuede，niyuta/tatichufenshouhaowuyiwenshixingehebulaidaozhideba!shubuzhineiyangdesiweimoshishijiweibuzhengquede，niyulingyifangtichufenshoudeyuanguyouxuduo，huoxujiushinimeiyoushijianpeilingyifang，huoxushixuduoneishihouhushileta/tadetihui，huoxugenlingyifanggoutongjiaoliudeshijianduanzanxing……xiangzhenanpengyoushuofenshouwanliuma，zaizheiliyiqiannixuxianzhangwoqingxilingyifangyunitichufenshoudezhenshiyuangu，neiyangnicaiyougengdadezhangwoquwanliulingyifang。

二、分辨对你的心态

 tongchangfenshouhou，huiduiqiannvyouyouerzhongxintai。zheizhongshijiaoweisixinde，ta/tahuizaidianhua、shoujiweixin、qqdenglianxidianhuashangbanijiaruheimingdan，duankaiyunideyiqielianluo，cihouyouyuanwufen。lingzheizhongshijiaoweirouhede，ta/tafenshouhouhuiyunixiangpenyouxiangtongdejiaowanggoutongjiaoliu。kandaidiyileitichufenshoufangfa，qianwanbieduilingyifangqiongzhuimengda，neibanzongshitahui/taduinigengweideyanfan，tahui/taliniyuezouyueyuan。nibixuzuodejiushishuojingjingdedenghou，denghouzheta/tadexuehuifangxia，yongniaita/tadexinquwennuanta/ta，qudadongta/taxinlingshenchuduinidejuannian，jinideai。zhenduidierleitichufenshoufangfa，nisuoxuzuodejiushishuoyaozaicitahui/tayouzheaiqingdejuede，tahui/taxiangyoudaolianqingdetianmei，erbingbushilaonianfuqiyiyangdelianqingfangfa。yinci，fenshouzhihouzuixianbixufenbianta/taduinidexintai，jianshaolingyifangdefanganqingxu，xiaochuniyizhizailingyifangxinlidefumianxinxiyinxiang。

三、衣食住行上、工作上持续勤奋奋发进取

 womenshipingchangren，bingbushifujiazidiyebingbushiguanerdai，meiyounageerlengzihuidaozhuihuilai。zaizheiyishijidequanqiuli，woxiangyaomeiyouzijihuixiaiyumeiwuzhi，zigaozidadenanshenghuozhenvxing。zaishenghuozhonghegongzuoshangqinfenfenfajinquderen，huirangrenjuedeguishuganshuxingan。zhongjiumeiduanaiqingmeiduanhunyinshenghuobingbushixiaopengyouguojiajiayouxi，zhishi1fenyiwu1fendangdan。xianghulijieyixiaxia，niqidainidenanpengyouhuonvpengyoushiruhede1gejingshenwaimao?woxiangyaomeigerendouyoubuyiyangdedaan!danzaiqizhongyougehaowuyiwenshikandairenshengdaoludexintaiba!fenfaxiangshang，qinfenfenfajinqu。jiaruoyixiaxiasheihuixiai1gexiaochenyumeiwuzhideren?yinciyouzheyikeqinfendexin，zongshijiniwanliuaiqingshibeigongban。

四、要清晰的了解到自身错在哪儿

 meiduanganqingdeliekai，zhongjiuburongyishizijidanfangdaozhide，zhishihuxiangde。wulunnifajueshifou，nidouwubiyaorenkezheiyidianer。xiangwanliuaiqing，wanliunizuiaideren，haiyaogaoqingchunicuozainaer，suihoucaiduizhengzhiliaoxuyaoqutianbunideguoshi。woxiangyaocikeniyingdangzuozhelaixixinxiangxiang，nimendeaiqingshiyishenmeshihougangkaishiyouliefengde，lingwaiyeniyaobubiyixindechizelingyifang，zhishiyaolizaixianghudejiaoduguanchananti。qiewunantipianmianhua，buranmeibanfaguanniandaonantidegenbenyuanyin，naizhizongshirangfenqijihua。xiwangnikeyigaoqingchuguixianengwanhuinanpengyouma,yongsinengwanhuinanpengyouma，shibunengde，aiqingshiyaoliangrenyikuaiergongjide，erbingbushilingyifangdedulinuli，neibanzongshianzangaiqing，liuyounidequehan，cuoguolezuixingfudeta/ta。

五、重构自身

 ajimidecengjingjiangguo“jiwoyigezhidian，wokeyiqiaoqilai1geyuzhou。”shubuzhixiangduinishuodeshi“rangwomenzishen1gezhonggouzishendejiyu，gaibianxianzhuang，doushiwanliuaiqingdeliangyao。”shijianshidezhibingyao，shijiandechendian，duinieryanshi1gewanliuaiqingdetupokou。nikeyigaoqingchu，ta/talikaini，bingfeimanbujiangli，zhishiyouyuanyinde。aiyigerenhaiyaokuanrongta/taderenhequexian，danta/tadekuanrongbingbushinishiquziwoquexianmeiqugenggaidezichan。dangta/taduinidekuanrongchaoguolewanmei，niyuta/talaijiangzaoyimeiyouaiqingle，dengdaizhenidezhinengtichufenshou。yincinikeyixuehaogaibianxianzhuang，tigaozishenfengcai，tahui/tajiandaonideyoushitahui/tazaiciduinidongxinde。gaibianxianzhuangmeibanfama?wojuedequeshibuhuitainan。ruguoniyouzenmehuimeifazuodaoni?zhonggouzishen，zaiyiciqihang，taohuinagejijiangsangshideren，wanliuyuta/tadeaiqing。

六、剖析另一方的心里

 zijinenggoumengpianquanqiuderen，danta/tayemeifamengpianzishendexinli。xinlishishizijizuizhenzhengdemiaohui。yuanyiwanliuzheifenaiqing，nikeyizhangwopouxita/tadexinli。ta/tashenmeshihouzaigennifadia，shenmeshihouzaigennichanshengmaodun……nibuyongmeiyouliyoudexianghupeiheta/ta，zhishiyaoxuehaochuaiceta/tadexintaizhuangtai，lejieta/tabixunaxiecaiqunuli，erbingbushiwuweidenuliquemeiyoushouyi。nikeyicongta/tadegerenxingweizhongkandechuta/tazuiainaxie、zuiyuanyideshisha，xunzhaonijidebingbushita/tayuanyide，ta/tayuanyidenijibushangdeyuangu。zhongjiu，aiqingbixuneixindeqiehe。

七、要有着一棵强劲的心

 tianxiawunanshizhipayouxinren。jiranjueceyaowanliuniliang/tazhongjiandeaiqingshi，nihaiyaogaoqingchu，nisuoxuzaoyudejiannanbujinshilianggerendexingecengmian，yeyaokaolvdaojiatingqingkuang、renjijiaowangdengnanti。wanliuaiqingdeluchengshimanzhangdejiankude，bingbushiniyicuerjiujiunengjinxingde。nibixuyouzheyikeqiangjingdexin，kanduanyilushangdejingji，didaaiqingdebianhuakai，quxiazuimeidehuaduo，jiniaidenanren。