怎样判断女人出轨了，老婆被老公发现出轨怎样争取他原谅？

fajueqizichuguihoudabufennanrendoushijiweitongchubushufude，zenyangpanduannvrenchuguile？bingqietadezheileitongchubushufushiruyingsuixingruoyinruoxiande。meimeitaxiangdaoqizichuguizheishiqingshi，tahuiyixiaziyuelaiyuexinqingyumennaizhishitahuichediqingxushikong。jinguantayebuyuanchenjinzaizheigebeitongdangzhong，dantayedequeshibunengziba。laopochuguilezenmekefuxinlizhangai？

qizichuguidailainanxingdenanshoubujinhuicuicanzheigenanrenzishen，haihuijixucuicantadexifu。youyujiusuantazaoyixuanzegenxifuzaiciguoxialai，yebingbuyiweizhetaneixinzhongdenanshouhuiyiqiedoujieshule。dangtadezheileitongchujingchangbaofachuqumeifazidonghuakongzhishi，tadexifujiupobudeyichengdantadejingshenzhemo。

biru：tahuizhongfuwenxifuyixieyiyangdeqingkuangbingchenzhewenxifunantidejiyuyizaibiaoshutaduixifudegezhonggeyangcaijijiqitaduixifudegezhonggeyangwururumahexutao，tahaihuijixushibushijiuduixifunaopiqinaopiqi，naizhitahuigenxifulengbaolihuibaolixingweishibaoxifu。jinguantaneiyangdezuofadaduoshushitawufaziwokongzhidejieguo。danduitadexifueryanbianshiyizhongqieqieshishidelianxudijudadejingshenzhemo。

zenyangpanduannvrenchuguile？dangtazhangqixingchixuzhemozijiyechixucuicanxifudeqingkuangxia，bulunshitahuoshitadexifu，zuihoudoushihuizaochengliyideniantou。youyulianxudewufahuodehuifudexinlitongku，zuihouzhiyouyiliyilaiwanbizheiyiqie。

danshijishangjinjinyouyuyifangdewaiyujiuzaochengliyi，queshishiyihan。youyukanqilaiwufahuifudewaiyuzhitongyebingmeiyouduomedewufaxiubu。zhixuxunzhaorangrenzaochengtongchudeyuangu，congermudexingdixunzhaoyixiezuofa。jiukeyixiubuwaiyudetongku。weilegenghaodixiezhumeiweinvshiqiadangxiubuhechulichuguizhihoudefuqiganqinghenanti。

yibanlaishuonanshengfajueqizichuguiyihoudetongchuguanjianlaiziyubagecengmian。

第一个层面，男生对媳妇不可以控制的猜忌感令他很痛楚

dangnanrenchajuezijideqizichuguihou，tajiuyaoxianglejieqizichuguideqianhouzuoyouquanguochengjiguanjiandian。youyutayaocongzheidangzhongxunzhaoqizichuguidelailongqumai。tawangwangyaolejieqizichuguidelailongqumai，shiyouyutaxifuheneiyigewaiyumubiaoxianghujiandeguanlianguishuyuyizhongyinmiguanxi。erzheileiyinmiguanxizaishehuixinlixueshangeryan，guishuyuyizhonghefuqiguanxiguanlianweiyixingsuoduilimiandeyizhongguanlian。erdangzhei2zhongguanlianduilineng，huirangrenzaochengyizhongjiaxiang。zheileijiaxiangbianshihuilingtajuedezishenzaidisanzheyanqianbeilingyibanjueqingpaoxiale，huilingtajuedelingyibanzaitayudisanzheyanqianerxuanyi，ertazaiyagenmeiyouhedisanzheshichangjingzhengdeqingxingxialingyibantiaoxuanledisanzhe。zheileijiaxiangyoukechengzuopanbiangan。

tadezheixiejiaxianglaiyuanyudongwubennengdelingyibanshichangjingzhengguannian。tazaizheileicuozongfuzadeguannianjibenyuanlicaozongxia，jiqiyaoxiangzhangwolingyibanwaiyudelailongqumai。bianyuyutaxunzhaoyixiejutifangfalaiyufanghedidangyixiebuquedingxingdelingyibanjingzhengduishou，yejiushiyufangtazaidupengdaodisanzhejiqiweidangtayudisanzheshichangjingzhengdeqingkuangxiatazhidaogaizenmejituidisanzhe。

 danshijinguannanshengfajueqizichuguiyihouzhangwoqingxiqizichuguideqianhouzuoyouguanjiandianshinanxingjiaoqiangdeyizhongxinlixuqiu。dandangtaxiangxifuzhangwowaiyudeqianhouzuoyouquanguochengheguanjiandianshi，wuluntaxifuzenmejiang，tongchangtadoushijuedexifuduitayouyidingdemanbao，naizhishitahuijuedexifuyidingduitashuohuangle。youyuqizichuguizheiyijianshiqingzaoyishitachanshenglepanbiangan。yezhengyinertajiuduixifuzaochenglejiaoqiangdecaijigan。

zaishehuixinlixueshangeryan，dajiaduiyigerendecaijihuilingdajiacaiyizheigerendequanbuyantanjuzhidezhenzhengdongyinhemudi，congerdajiahuiduizheigerenzaochengjiqideyufangganhejingjuexing，erqiezheiyeshibukeyikongzhide。ertaduixifuquanbuyantanjuzhideyufangganhejingjuexingjiushitagandaokongjudeyuangu。zhixutaduixifudecaijiganmeiyouqingchu，neimabianhuitadeneixinzhongbianhuibuduanzaochengwufadiaojiedetongchu。

第二个层面，受害者心理下向媳妇寻找填补而不可造成他很痛楚

dangnanrenfajueqizichuguiyihou，tajiuganjueziyishigeshouhairen。jiusuantayefanguowaiyuzheiyicuo，tayehuirenweitashigeshouhairen。erdangtarenweiziyishigeshouhairendeqingkuangxia，tayougenggaibushangqizichuguizheiyikeguanshishi，yincitajiuchanshenglexiangxifuxunzhaotianbuzishenkuisundemingxianxinlixuqiu。tawangwangjieliyaoxiangcongxifuzheierdedaotianbu，shiyouyuxifuduitadetianbuyiweizhetazaixifuyanqiandezizun，ertazaixifuyanqiandezizunshitazaixifuyanqiandeguishugan。

qizichuguisunhailetadezizun，congerzaochengtazaixifuyanqianmeiyouleguishugan。yincitayaogenxifuyaotianbu，youyuzhixuxifutianbutajiuyiweizhetazaixifuyanqianbaoweilezigedezizun，yeyiweizhetazhaodaoletazaixifuyanqiandeguishugan。

dangtaxiangxifuxunzhaotianbuerbunengdeqingkuangxia，tabianhuijuedezishenzaixifuyanqianmeilezizun，tayejiujuedetazaixifuyanqianquefaanquangan。zheizhishitajuedecongjinyihoutaxifuhuihushitabuzaiyita，huishitajuedetazaixifuyanqianmeiyouyisiyihaodezhudaoquan，huilingtajuedetazaixifuyanqianhenchuyubeidonghenwunai。

erzheizhongzuihouhuilingtajuedefuqiganqingqianquewendingxing，huilingtaduifuqiganqingjuedejiaolv，zheileijiaolvganshitajuedeyidantazaixifuyanqianyongyoudisanzheyidanxifuzaiwaimianyongyouren，tajiuzhiyoupobudeyijienabeixifujueqingyiqidebeijujieguo，tahuijuedezhixuxifuzaiwaimianyongyourentayagenmeiyougendisanzheshichangjingzhengdekenenghegongzuonengli。tazaineiyangdefanzaxinlizhuangtaiziranhuanjingxia，taduifuqiganqingdejianglaishiquzixinxinerqietaduifuqiganqingdeanquanxingzaochenglechixudejiaolv，congertahentongchu。

第三个层面，他担心他被别的异性朋友所替代而发生的紧张感造成他很痛楚

dangnanrenfajueqizichuguiyihou，tazuidanxindeyeshizaitadouhaimeixunzhaokeyitidaixifudeneinvrenyiqiantajiuxianbeixifuneiyigewaiyumubiaosuotidai。zheilingtafashenglejiqiangdejinpogan。zheileijinpoganyouhuizhishitafashengshouzuwucuodemingxianjiaolvqingxugan。erzheimingxiandejiaolvqingxuganlingtajuedehentongchu。yeshizaochengtazaiyingduiqizichuguizheigewentishiyizhiminganduoyiyizhiwufaguanlizijixintaihekanfadeshouyaoyuangu。

zhenduifuqiganqingeryan，dangnanrenfajueqizichuguihou，nanshenggengzaiyidebingbushixifushifouyougentabiedeyixingpengyouchanshengguoguanlian，zhishigengzaiyitashifouyoukenenghuibeibiedeyixingpengyousuotidai。bingqiezheileibeibiedeyixingpengyousuotidaidejinzhangganguanjianjujizaitabeitidaiyihoutashifouyougengqiangdetiaoxuan。jiarutajuedetameiyoubixifugengqiangdetiaoxuanle，neimatadejinzhangganjiuyueqiang，xiangfantadejiaolvqingxujiuxuyaoshaoxuduonaizhiyagenjiumeiyoujiaolvqingxugan。

zaishehuixinlixueshangeryan，jiaolvqingxuhuirangrenzaochengguoduofangyuliheguoduodangxindexinlizhuangtai。erguoduofangyuliheguoduodangxinxinlizhuangtaiyouhuilingrenzaochengyixiangxinlizhuangtai。yixiangxinlizhuangtaiyouhuilingrenduimeiwentideqingkuangheshierzaochengguodujieduheguoduolejie，huirangrenyizhizaiyiqiezhengchangdeshiqingdangzhongjiandaokunjinghefengxianxing。zheicongerzaochengrenzaochengzaoyukunjinghefengxianxingshidejiaolvgan。jiaolvganyouhuinongluanrendezhengchangluojisiwei，rangrenmeifachangguidedulisikao，rangrenjuedezigederendedanaobuhuishoudaozishencaokong。erzheihuirangrenjuedehentongchu。

第四个层面，缄默的自我反思下不愿意摆脱自身舒适圈造成的自身分歧心理状态

dangnanrenfajueqizichuguiyihou，jinguantajuedeziyishigeshouhairenjiqitayejuedeshixifuzuocuoshi。dantayehuizaizishendeneineixinjingjingdikaizhanziwofansi。youyutazhidaoxifuwangwangwaiyubidingyoutazijizuodecuowudediqu。bingqietayeqingchuzishengaizenmezuocaikeyihuashetianzufangzhixifuzaiduwaiyu。dantabingbuyuanyiqueshineibanzuo。

youyuchangchangzaitafajueqizichuguiyiqian，tajiuzaoyizaitadeshenghuofangshishenghuoxiguanhetadexingqushangchanshengletadezishenshushiquan。tazhidaojiarutayaoxiangfangzhixifuzaiduwaiyu，neitajiuwubiyaogaibianxianzhuangmuqiandeshenghuofangshishenghuoxiguanjiqitamuqiandegerenaihaobaituotadezishenshushiquan，batadeshijianhuolihetaduirichangshenghuodezhuanzhulifendaoxifudeshenshangdadaoxifudeqingganxuqiu。dantahenxihuanchenjinzaizishenshushiquanli，yincitayagenbuyuanyiyebushedegengwufarongruwufazhangjiujianchibuxie。yinertajibuyuanyigaibianxianzhuangmuqiandeshenghuofangshishenghuoxiguanhegerenaihao。

yincizaitafajueqizichuguiyihou，tazhidaozishencuozailenaeryelejieziyigaizenmezuocaikeyifangzhixifuzaiduwaiyu，dantaquezhenbuyuanneibanzuo。tazaineiyangdewentixinlizhuangtaixia，tadeneixinshidanxindedanyoude，yincitahentongchu。

第五个层面，担心被亲戚朋友了解后遭到亲戚朋友的取笑造成的痛楚不舒服

dangnanrenfajueqizichuguiyihou，tajiudanxinbeiqinqipengyoulejiecongerpobudeyizaodaoqinqipengyoudequxiao。youyutazhidaojiaruqinqipengyoubuqingchuzheiyijianshiqingjiuyagenburongyiquxiaota，danjiaruqinqipengyoulejiezheishiqingjiubidinghuiquxiaota。erqiedangtagenqinqipengyouzaiyiqideqingkuangxia，tabutaikenengguidingqinqipengyoububitizheixieshiqing，eryidanqinqipengyoutileneiyigeshiqing，neimatazaiqinqipengyouyanqianjiusuanshidiushilianmianhenbuhaokan。

zaishehuixinlixueshangeryan，dajiarenwangwangdanxinbeibierenquxiao，shiyouyudajiamorenshezhibeibierenquxiaobianhuirangrendichubianhuibeibierenhushibianhuibeibierenyousuochayi。zheihuishiwomenzairenjiyingxiangzhongyuelaiyuechuyubeidongqieyizhizhibubuqian。yincidanxinbeibierenquxiaodexinlizhuangtaihuijirenshengchanzhizaoshejiaojiaolv，erzheileishejiaojiaolvhuirangrenzaijiaojiqingjingxiayuelaiyuebuzixinbijiaomingan，huirangrenduishejiaomeitiguanlianzaochenghaipa，yekechengzuoshejiaokongjuzhengxinlizhuangtai。

yincizaitafajueqizichuguiyihou，tajiuzaochengleshejiaojiaolv，zheijiuzaochengtazaishejiaomeitiqingjingxianengjuedebuzixinbijiaomingan，haihuijixulingtazaochengshejiaokongjuzhengxinlizhuangtaizaochengtabikaipenyouhuijueshejiaomeiti，yinertajuedehentongchu。

第六个层面，关联困境产生之时亲戚朋友的不正确站位造成他很痛楚

dangnanrenfajueqizichuguihou，tayuxifudelianxijiufashenglekunjing。zheishihoulianggerenzhongjiandeguanliankunjingguanjianfanyingweilianggerenliyihuoshibuliyijiqigaizenmezuocaikeyijixifuyigejingyanjiaoxuncongeranweiziji。

erzheishi，nanshengzuiqidaizishendeqinqipengyoukeyilizaiziyizheiyibianzhuisuizishendejianjiehejuece。jiarutadeqinqipengyoubusuitadejianjiehejuece，naizhishichedigentafankaolvchangfandiao。neitabianhuiduizishendeqinqipengyouzaochengxinhanhecaiyi。tahuiyiweizishendeqinqipengyougenzishenbingbushiyitiaoxin，tahuiyiweitadeqinqipengyoubumingbaitabuzaiyitadetihui。naizhitahuijuedetabeizishendeqinqipengyousuopaoxiale。

erzaishehuixinlixueshangeryan，zaiwomenpengdaokunjingbixuqinqipengyougenzishenzhanzaiyiqizhuisuizishendejianjiehejuecehuoshikeyishiyongzishenshi，jiaruqinqipengyoubudanbuzishenyitiaoxin，fanershichedigenzishenfankaolvchangfandiao，neidajiabianhuiduiqinqipengyouchongchizhexinhanhecaiyi。erzheijiubianchengdajianeixinzhongdetongchu。

zaizheiliyiyuanguxia，tongchangduojianyunanshengfajueqizichuguiyihouyaoxianggenqizitiliyi，dantadebabamamaquejielidizhi。congerlingtajuedezigedebabamamagenzishenbingbushiyitiaoxin，lingtaduibabamamajuedeshiwangzhiji。

第七个层面，觉得被媳妇不合理看待以后的消极心态造成的痛楚

dangnanrenfajueqizichuguihou，jiarutakandaoxifukandaiwaiyumubiaodejutifangfabikandaizishendefangfangshihaoxiexuduonaizhilingtayanxianhuoshitafajueneiyigewaiyumubiaokandaizishenxifudejutifangfabizishenchaxuduonaizhihenbukandanxifudounengjiena。neimatabianhuiganjuetabeixifubuhelikandaile，yinertabianhuizaochengxiaojixintai。zheileixiaojixintaileisizishengentarenmaiyiyangdewupin，danquebitarenmaiguilehuoshileisitarenhualeyuelaiyueshaodeqianquemaidaogengqiangdewupin。laopochuguilezenmekefuxinlizhangai？

zaizheileixiaojixintaixia，tayaobuyanxianxifuduineiyigewaiyumubiaoheduizishengengqiang，yaobutahuitaoyanzishenduixifutaihaoyagenbuzhi。danwuluntashineileixiaojixintai，doushihuilingtagandaokongju。

zaizheiliyidianshangeryan，jiarunanshengfajuexifudewaiyumubiaobizishenduixifuhaixuyaohao，neimatazaiqizichuguizheiyijianshiqingshangdenanshoubianhuishaoxuduo。jiarutakandaoxifudewaiyumubiaobizishenduixifuhaixuyaohencha，neimatazaiqizichuguizheiyijianshiqingshangdenanshoujiuduoxuduo。jiarutakandaoxifudewaiyumubiaobiziyichusexuduo，neimatazaiqizichuguizheiyijianshiqingshangdenanshoujiushaoxuduo。jiarutakandaoxifudewaiyumubiaodouhaimeizishenchuse，neimatazaiqizichuguizheiyijianshiqingshangdenanshoujiuduoxuduo。

第八个层面，媳妇肯定承认错误心态额外没有底线的承担摧残下产生的一同可悲气氛造成的痛楚

dangnanrenfajueqizichuguihou，jiarutadexifukendingchengrencuowumeiyouyiqiebianbo，erqietadexifumeiyoudixiandechengdantadechufahecuicanduitameishenmedikang。neimatayuxifuzhongjianbianhuichanshengyizhongxianghudekebeiqifen。erzheileiyitongkebeiqifenhuizhishitahentongchuhennanshou。laopochuguilezenmekefuxinlizhangai？

shehuixinlixueshangeryan，renherenzhijiandelianxigoujianzaierrenzhongjiandexiangtongganqingqifenshang。zheileixiangtongdeqingxuqifenqifenjijizhudongxinghexiaochenxing。jijizhudongxingdeyitongqifenkeyijibicizhijianshengchanzhizaofenfaxiangshangdexinlitihuiheweichibicizhijianduirichangshenghuodezhudongxing。xiaochenxingdeyitongqifenhuizaochengbicizhijiandeneineixinchixuzaochengxiaojibeishangdefumianqingxuhuizaochengbicizhijianduixianzaideshenghuosangshizhudongxing。

zenyangpanduannvrenchuguile？yinci，qizichuguiyihoulianggerenzhongjianzaochengdeyitongkebeiqifenshizhishinanshengchenjinzaitongchudangzhongzhangqixingtongchu。