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zaizaodaochuguideshanghaiyihou，dajiadesuoyoufanyingquanshiyouliyoujude。yaoxiangbaituotongchudeheiying，dajiajiuwubiyaojieshoubingzhengshizijizaizheiduanshijiansuolijingdeyiqie。

weihenvrenyaoxiangxiubuyiduanduichuguidenanrendexinlai，huizheiyangdenan？

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yibanzhuangkuangxia，guanliandexiubu，youxialiejicengmianbixujiqigaoduzhongshi：

1、提高自己，调节好自身的心态

yikaishifajuebierenwaiyushi，beiwaiyufanghaowuyiwenhuichuxianshifenmengliedexinlixianxiang，zheiyeshichangguide，nenggoushidangbiaoshu，ranglingyifangrenshizijidesunshanghetongchu，haikeyigenjuzhuanyizhuyili，laidalianghuanjiezishendexintai。danxianglnvxingneiyangguoyuqiangliedenaonuhechize，erqiejiangjin5nianyemeiyoubianhuadezhengzhao，yaobushizhangfutiqiliyiyexutayeburongyiquzhenshidejiejuekunnan。

2、变化角度，解决受害人心理状态

guanlianchunanti，yidingshiliangrendenanti，fenbieyoufenbiedeyiwu，jiaruyiweidibazijifangdaoshouhairendeshijiao，ganjuelingyifangbaoqianzishen，shishishangshizaiduobizishenzaiguanlianzhongdeyiwu，buyuanyiquduidaizigedenanti。

yucitongshi，waiyuhourengrantiaoxuanzhonggui，youcikejian，zaibierenneixin，zheiyiduanguanlianyujiatinghuoshizuizhongyaode，jiusuanzuoyige“qianguzuiren”，yekeyiquduidaizigedezuixing，peizainishenbian。

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3、以诚相待沟通交流，分别思考

lingyifangwaiyu，yidingyouqiwaiyudeyuangu，haowuyiwenyouyixiexinlixuqiuzaizheiliduanyingxiangzhongwufadedaoxiangduixingyingdedadao，zheizhongdouxuyaogenjugoutongjiaoliu，laizuodaoxianghuxinren，jinyouxunzhaonimenguanliannantidezhengjiesuozai，suihoumudexingdewanchenggaizheng，caikeyizhenzhengdechulinimenzhongjiandenanti，fangzhiyicuozaicuo。

goutongjiaoliushichuangjianxinrengandejiben，jinyougaozhilingyifangxinlitihui，buyouyimanbao，caikeyifujianqibicizhijiandexinlai。

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wangwanghuiwaiyu，guanjianyeshiyouyufufuyiqiandexiangchumoshibushihe，rangyifangqingganxuqiubukeyikaolvdaohunyinshenghuowaixunzhao，yincizaixindeguanlianxia，yidingshishencengzhangwolingyifangyaoqiu，gaijinzishendenanti，yongshuangfangdouganjueshufudexingshiquyunying，bingbushihuidaocongqian，zhishidajianxindejianglai。

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zaizheigehuanjiezhong，fanfushichangguidecunyou，jinriliangrenfangfozhongguiyuhao，mingriqueyoulengchaorefeng……yinci，bicizhijianyaoduoyixiexixinheyizhi。

jiarushangmianhaoduogecengmian，shuangfangdounengbaozheng，neimashengyudejiujiaoyoushijian，zheiyishijianduandezhangdu，yinrenyousuobutongde。

zuizhonghaixuyaotebietishiyidian，lijinghunhouchuguidehunyinshenghuo，jiaruyaoxiangfujianhunyinguanxi，yubicideqingshangzhishang、zhili、xingqing、xingzi、weirenchushidefangshi，naizhisanguan、weirenzheixiejunyouguanlian，bingbushisuibiannengjinxingde。

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