军嫂出轨率有多高，出轨后为什么很难得到原谅？

panbiancuihuideshiduiyigerendezixinxin，jiqinisuoxinfengdewupinhuranbenkuidebiranqushi。junsaochuguilvyouduogao？guigenjiedi，nishizhongmeifachediyuanliang，yezhongjiubukenengzaijienazishen。mengjiannvpengyouchuguileyoushenmeyuzhaoni？

waiyudezaogaozhichubingbushiqinggandeliekai，zhishinimenzhongjianxinlaidehuihuai。ninengkandaonizaiyebuhuixinlaizheigerenle，tazuozhenibianshanghuoshishuizainidezhenxinshang，nizongganjuetazaigenjunikankanlingyigenvren。

最先要做的并不是抵抗，只是接纳。

junsaochuguilvyouduogao？yingduiyiqiekeguanshishi，zuixianyaozuodebianshichengxindirenkezheijianshiqingdequechuxianguo。waiyuyeshiyiyang，niyidingyaozaixinzhonggaozhizishen：“tachuguile，zheiyeshiqueshi，woyezhinengjianxin，zhiyoujiena。”

shuodongzishenjienatabixufeichangdadedanliang，bingbushimeiyigerendounengbaozhengde。dabufenqingkuangxia，dajiadediyifanyingshitamenbuganxiangxin。tamenjuedemeiyigerendounenggouwaiyu，danlingyibanbuhao，jibianshishishengyuxiongbian，shishiqingchu，wohaishiyouxiangxiang，qidaizheiyiqiedoubukenengchuxianzaiwodeshenshang。

现在是时候创建你的自信心了。

zuixian，renkenineixinshenchudetongchu。yucitongshi，niyinggaigoujianqinidezixinxin。huanjuhuashuo，ninengchuqu，suihoujianjiandiqingchutongchu，zuoyixieshiniyukuaideshier，shiniderichangshenghuochongchizhegeshigeyangdeshier。suihoutongchubianhuibeijiyashengcunhuanjing。

yiqiedoushibodongdeguanlian，richangshenghuochongmanlebiededewupin，yuelaiyuefengfu，tongchujiumeilerongshenzhidi。dabufenqingkuangxia，jiarunimeidingzhutongchudeshierkan，qianyinidemuguanghezhuanzhuli，niyejiuburongyiqueshichouqi。

zheiyidian，buguannanhaihenvhai，zhixuyingduibeiwaiyu，doushihuiliuyouxuduowufanizhuandexinlichuangshang。

1、duimeiyigerendousangshixinlai

zheiyeshizuipubiandeweihai，yigerenyidanwaiyu，feichangrongyicaiyicongciyihouquanbudeganqing。dangzheigerendezishenziwofangyujizhidakaishi，feichangrongyizaochengyixiejiduanhuadeniantou，nanyixiangxinsuoyouren。huanjuhuashuo，“wobuganzaidonglexin。”

2、造成消极悲观

xuduorendaowaiyuhouhuiyouyizhongxiaojibeiguandexinlizhuangtai，tamenhuiyiweizishenbutaihaozaochenglingyifangwaiyu。weilegenghaodituixiezeren，lingyifangyaoshuo“nibibushangta”。zheileizhuangkuangfeichangrongyijirenjingshenshizhishangdeyanlidaji，jinerzaochengyigerendebuzixin。

3、对付

zheibingxuduojian，youyutawaiyuhoubianchenglerenhuaxinnanyurenbaijinnv，juedezishenbeibierenshuale，tazhinenghetarenwan，chanshenglehendudebihuankongzhi，zuizhongtahuodebushangzhenzhengdeaiqing，haisunhailebiedewuguderen。

4、ziganduoluosangshidaodedixian

yidanbeiwaiyu，jiuhuiyouziganduoluodexinlizhuangtai，buzhengquediyiweizishenbuguanzenyangdoushihuiwaiyu，jinerjianshaoleduidangjinshehuishenxinjiankangdeqidai，chanshenglewaiqudexintai。

不宽容一个人，心理状态转变几个环节。

zaichuqi，quanburenyaoshifenbengjin，rentidemeiyigetixibaodoushihuichuzaiguodujinzhang。

daozhonghouqi，zheileixinyanghuijinyibudaoneizangqiguan，xueyehuiyuelaiyuegaomidunongchou，mianyinenglihuizaimeiyigejiaoluolipanghuang，qiangjingdemianyilihuiningjuchengdidangwaibushiqingdetianranpingzhang。

zaizhonghouqi，tamenxunzhaobaochibenzhijilvdepinghenggan，quanzidongpingbidiaozheixiebukeyuanliangdegenyuanshiqing，zhizhixinlizhuangtaizongliulianghuifuguolaiyunzuo。

zheijiuhaoxiangyicibijiaoyanzhongwaishanghourendedanaolinshishiqujiyi。genjuzheileiziwofangyujizhi，womenkeyizaiciyuquanqiulianluoqilai，shiziyiyoucunhuodehenyoukeneng。

bukuanrongyigeren，conglingyigeshijiaoeryan，shiyizhongzishenshifangdefangfa，shitiaoxuanhulvesunhailaibaohuziji。mengjiannvpengyouchuguileyoushenmeyuzhaoni？

tadejielunyingdangduizishenyouyi，shiziyibushoushang。

不宽容也有二种：病理性和隐匿性

binglixingbukuanrong：jibianzaizaiyiqidaiyitian，niyehuiganjuenanshouheexinxiangtu。

yinnixingbukuanrong：conglaimeiyouxiangguoyounaxieshizhidexingdong，xiguanxingmaiyuanhediaokan；

bukuanrongdetianxingqingxididingyilejiexian，lejiebicizhijianbutaikenengzaizhongjuzaiyiqi。yiner，tamennenggouzixinmanmandiwanbiyiduanguanlian，dakaizijiderichangshenghuo。

zhenzhenzhengzhengdeyiyishangdehuijuekuanrong：xinlizaoyizuodaoleyizhongpinghengzhuangtai，qingchudipieqinglejiexian，lejiexianghuzhijianzaiyebuhuizhihou；

kendingbukuanrongdelingyifangdeni：haixuyaozhemoziji，jinjinyouyunijinjinjieciweifangshikonghelaogong，shitabishangzuijinjinyinweiduifu，shitachibuguansanqiershiyijinjinweilegenghaodijitamenyigejingyanjiaoxun。mengjiannvpengyouchuguileyoushenmeyuzhaoni？

queshishizhongburongyikuanrong，meiyouxuyaogenjuduifulaixunzhaojingshenshizhishangdekuanwei。

tajianghuibianchengshenghuodedazhuanzhe，yejianghuibianchengyigebuzhengquedejieguo。

duirichangshenghuohuanshiyaoyouqidai，youyunifeichangzhidegengqiang，jinjinzheiyiquanguochenghuifeichangnaneryi；

xunzhaokuaile，bibushangyunyingxingfukuaile，aishangyigerenbudanbixukaoqinfen，yebixukaojingyu，xuduoquanshilaotianyedefenpei。

haohaozhenxinishenghuozhongdeneiren，shijishangxingfukuailejiuzainipangbian！

junsaochuguilvyouduogao？quanshijiederensuiduo，danzaixiayutiandeshengengbanyepeizhenihuijialede，shishishangzhiyouyige。