婚姻咨询:婚姻悲剧闯入第三者，那样解决最合理

免费 效果怎么样?近期一位咨询者说：”穆木教师，我老公外遇了。我与老公完婚20年了，孩子2019年17岁，在上普通高中，我们一家人这两年觉得愈来愈生疏，家里的那时候基本上没有什么老话。倘若婚姻悲剧闯入第三者，那样解决最合理。

 tazaijiazhongjiushishuoshangwaiwang，yigerenzaijiajiushishuokandianshiju，haizijialijiushishuodayouxi。chukaiyongcandeneishihou，keyiweijuzaiyiqi，shuoyiliangjudaibiaoxingdekeqihua，biededejiumeigongtongyuyanle。mianfeihunyinzixunxiaoguozenmeyang?hunyinwentixintaizixunzenmeyang?

 shangnianzhongqiujiajieyihou，woxianzhudijuededaotatongdianhuahuijialeshuogongchu、jiabanjiadianhuochuwaijiaojidepincizengjiale，jingqishenganjingyechongyule。woqiaoqiaodizuoguozhuizongdiaocha，fajuetagentaqiyedeqingnianrennvyouguimimiqiexiangguan，changchangzaiyiqishuoshuoxiaoxiao。

 jinguanyemeiyoufajuetawaiyudezhijiezhengju，danwohuanshijuedeleyizhongjidagongzuoyali。woranglaogongzhanduanhewodewanglai，buranwoyezhaotamenqiyelingdaoganbu，rangtamenlaiweiwozuozhu。laogongdanxinle，tongyiwokeyimashangduanjueguanxi，yaoshiwobieluanlai。

 tamenzhongjianbiaocengshangmeiyoulianluole，laogongyezhunshihuijia。keshiwoyulaogongdeguanlianfandaogengweishengshule。woyulaiyujuededao，zaitadeneixin，fangfodoumeiyoulewozheigerendecunyou。zheiyiduanhunyinyuelaiyuehenbingliang，wozhenjihuidoumingquetichuleliyi，tayebuyunxu，haishuowojiushinvxinggengnianqi，bugenwoyibanzaihu。

 keshi，tadoubuzhidao，wozheiyiduanqinei，zhaogerenzuoguodiaoyan，shoushangzaoyibawoletawaiyuqingnianrennvyouguimidezhijiezhengjuhexiangpianle，jinjinwojitamenliuyoudianzuizhongdemianzi，jinjindadanaonao，ermeiyoubazheijianshiqingtongchulai。

 wojinjinxiangjihaiziyigehaodechengcaishineikongjian，buyuantahuiyouyubabadewaiyulailiuyouxintaichuangshang。cengjingdewowenguohaizi，jiarufumuliyi，tahuigenshei?tajuranshuobuzaihu，shenpanzhangpanjishei，woyegenshei。zheihuayaowoyizhenzhendetongxin。

 yigejiazhongnongdaorujinzheiyichengdu，qianchuangbaikong，lengruobingshuang，wochukailiyi，wodounengruhezuo，neiyangdeqifenyaowoshixi。woshuimianzhiliangbuhao，xinqingfanzaobuan，shuohuayechangchangjiejiebaba，youchongfenkaolvbabamamadeyoulv，youguanianxiaohai，dequebuzhidaogaizenmeban，meiridouyizhihusiluanxiangde，yemeisixugongzuozhong，qidainengbangbangwo“。tangruohunyinbeijuchuangrudisanzhe，neiyangjiejuezuiheli。

教师回应

 xiexiexinlai，xiangyaodakaixinfeixiangwoshushuo。shijishangxiangduinishuodeshi，hunyinzoulaidaozheiyibu，tongchangshilingrenbeitongde，zhongjiuyiqianshuoyibeizizhishandaizijiyigerendenanrenquehuishenqudonglexintaren，neileibeipanbiandeweidaodequeshibaizhuazhuaxina。

 jinriwojieduyixiadanglaogongwaiyu，hunyinyoudisanzhechuangru，gaizenyangyingdui，zenyangjiejue?qidaiwomenjianyinengxiezhudaoni，baituojiongjingzaicidedaoxingfukuaile。

 zuixian，yikuernaosandiaosidegerenxingwei，zongshisunhuaibenshendepinpaixingxiang，jianggezishendezizun，bingqiejibianbuguanbuguzizunxin，yebuyidingjiunengquhuinanrendexin，zongshirangnanrenganjueyanjuan，yulaiyujianshaolaopozailaogongxinzhongzhongdeyingxiangliheshiyongjiazhi。paoqugendisanzhehumahuoshiwuru，yeshizidiaoshenjia，zuodeshaohuohaijianghuiweifanguojiadexiangguanfalvfagui。

 cizhi，naoxiuchengnuliyi，kanqilaixiaosa，shijishangjinjinyizhongsheqi，shiyizhonghaipazhenmianyishizhuxingjianxinderuanruo，bingqiejibianlilehun，huasuanledisanzhe，wanmeichengxianledisanzhe，zishenyounengganyuanma?ganqinghehunyinquanshizisizilide，kenyuzheibanxiangrang，fouzejubeidaxiongjinzhanlveyanguang，buranzhiyoubiaomingcongmeiaini，huoshizaoyimeiyoudonglexin。

 (fouzewaiyudelaogong，shiyigehenzhadenanren，changchangduinijiatingbaoli，duiqinrenxiaohaidoubuwenbuwenderen，yaoburanwobushitaitiyiliyide，zhongjiuyiduanhunyinlaidaoyiqidequebuyi，chuxianlehunwailian，shijishangbiciquanshiyouyidingdeyiwude，qiexingqiezhenxi，meigerendoufancuowu，guanjiankanzheiyirenshibushizuigainizaiduaizhe)

 ruguonidehunyinbeijuchuangrudisanzheshi，wuxusheqi，yewuxudanqie。laotianyerangniguandiaoyishanmendeneishihou，yehuirangnidakaiyishanchuang。zuoweihelihefaxuanbudelaopo，yongyouhenduodisanzhebujuyoudeyoudian，yaoshiduiceqiadang，changchangzhanshengdisanzhe，huodebaojiaweihundehuosheng。tangruohunyinbeijuchuangrudisanzhe，neiyangjiejuezuiheli。

因而有几个方面提议：

 yi、bubirangnaonudengxiaojiqingxushengji。rangxintaizhuangtaiweichipingjing，weichilixinglizhi。jiaruyaozhenxinshiyidigaijinzheiyiduanhunyinguanlian，bixuniyulaogongdegongtongfendou。

 dajiabixutuixinzhifuditanchenggoutongjiaoliuhegoutongjiaoliu，dadaogaijinhunyinpinzhidezhengtiguihua。xianghuzhijianchengnuo：dangdajiazhongyiqieyigegangkaishiyuelaiyuexingfenshi，bixudongdejinkuaidetiaochulainaonudeluojisiwei。pingjingxialai，zaicisisuojiejuefangan。

 er，jinguannibukeyigenggailaogongdegongzuotaidu，bukeyizulanhewolianrendepengmian，danninengdiaojieniduizheiyiduanhunyindexintaiheguandian，huanjuhuashuo，nichedinenggougaoshengdigenlaogongshuo：“xianzaikaishilidianlaoguijule。”

 yishoubangzi，jiushishuosuishisuidibaodingguoduanliyirangqijingshenchuhudeguandian;yishouhongluobu，jiushishuoranglaogongjijiditongyizunxun“jiaxun”，yiwangdeshinenggoujiwangbujiu，rujindeshinenggouzuoweimeichansheng，zhihoudeshijiuanlaoguijulai……hunyinwentixintaizixunzenmeyang?

 san，yishouweigong。shoujiushishuoshouzuye。yishiyaojinzaobajiazhongdechuxu、fangben、qiyecaichandengguanlifangfahao，renweinilaogongbeidisanzhemengbi，bacaichandouzhejinqu。

 ershiyaozailaogongyebuguideneishihou，youshihoujiazhuangjiazhonghenbixutademoyang，gentatongdianhua，tanbaijinriguinvzenmela，haizizenmela，gongpozenmela，tahui“huijiakankan”。danshizheileifangfabubitaipinmi，yifanggongkuiyikui。

 si，shizhongbubixiaokandisanzhedeqianzaixingweixie，hairenbuqiandexinbunengyou，fangrenzhixinbunengwu，qinggandeshihenbicizhijian，qinggenshenzhong，jiuchanbuqing，fenshoufuhedeqingkuangdoushishubushengshu，hunyinyaozhangqi，meibanfajiezhunanrendezikongnenglicaozongzhubiciqinggandefazhanqushi。

 shuyujingerfengbuzhi，zhongzhongzhizhong，yeyaoqingyougongzuojingyanderenduilaogongdelianrenkaizhanquandao，shiqijijisheqizheiyiduanqinggan。neiyangzaibicizhengzhongjianshedingyidaoxintaizhuangtaishangdegelilan，zuishaokeyizujueyiduanshijian。

 wu，zhengshinenggouxiangdisanzhexuexipeixun，zheibingbushinaxiemeimianzihuobuhaoyisideshi。gudairenshuo，shiyizhangjiyizhiyi，xiangdisanzhexuexipeixun，yifangmian，zhibizhijibaizhanbaisheng，yuanpeihedisanzheyaobushiyifangdanqie，neimabiranyaoyouyifangliqu。

 tashiyichangyusiwangpodezhanshi，buzhidaoxuexipeixun，meiqujijitigaozijidezhuanyejineng，zhiyoushishichuchubeidongjineng，fouzezishenxinlizaoyixiangsheqizheiyiduanqinggan。buran，haiyaoshanyuxiangdirenxuexipeixun，xuexipeixundirendefangfaheyoushi，caikeyihelidiyanlidajidiren，dashengdiren。

 hunyinguanhuliangrendejiaowang，shiyimendaxuewen，yebixuxuexipeixun，qinshenjingliguohunyinweijidefufu，gengbixuzaicuozhezhongchengzhang，zaijiannankunkuzhongwanshanyishizhuxingmeiyouhuitoulu。jirantiaoxuanlezheiyiduanhunyin，qiexingqiezhenxi，henduoniandenuli，zongsuanhuodewanman，jiushizheiyangsuibiansheqi，yehuilingrenjuedetongxi。