婚姻咨询:完婚超出5年的女人害怕碰到这样的事情

免费 效果怎么样?大前天有一个访客来求教我难题，想听了是挺痛心的：贺教师，我老公出轨了，最可恶的是第三者还怀了孕逼老公跟我离异。我跟老公完婚13年了，有一个闺女还要上幼儿园。

 laogongchuguidabannianle，disanzheshigenrenmenloudixiayijialifadiandeyuangong，2019niancai25sui，hennianqing，wozhiqianyejingchangquneilizangbianzhizuo，yincizhiqianyekandaoguo。wanhunchaochu5niandenvrenhaipapengdaozheiyangdeshiqing：budanlaogongchugui，bingqiedisanzhehaijinu。mianfeihunyinzixunxiaoguozenmeyang?hunyinwentixintaizixunzenmeyang?

 2yueqian，laogonggenwoshuoshuotawaiyule，disanzhehuaileyun，tadebabamamabitaliyi，yaoburanjiunaodaojiazhong。wotinghou，mengranganjuexiangtiantadixianyiyang，haozhangshijiandoumeifanyinghuilai，naozhongyipiankongbai，zhinengleishuizaibuduandiliu。

 wogenlaogongtanlianaile5nian，wanhun13nian，wobayigenvrenzuizhenguideqingchunnianshaodoujilelaogong，duilaogongshineimadixinlai，congweicaiyiguotazaiwaimianhuiyounvren，yincineiyangdeyanlidajiduiwomenzhenshishizhimingxingde。wodexintaizhuangtaichedibenkuile。

 laogongyikaishiqiuwokuanrong，shuohuirangdisanzhedatai，gendisanzhezhanduanlianluo。dandisanzhebudanmeiyougentaduan，fandaohaifaxinxihedadianhua，duiwomenshuolaogongzaoyiduiwomenmeiaihaole，rujinaideshita。

 wodefumuyelejiezheijianshiqingle，qulifadianquzhaodisanzhe，xiangbudaodisanzhezaojiulizhile。wodemamadangzhongwodemian，henhenshanlelaogongjierguang，tahuijinzaochulizheijianshiqing，haohaodairenmenmunvliang，buxutaraobushangta。

 laogongyejihuibiaodagendisanzheyidaoliangduan，danmeiyicitachulaiyouhuijiayihou，quanshizaijiejue，bukeyiji，erdisanzhehaiyaochixufaxinxibangwo，duiwomenzhisangmahuai。wonazheizhongduanxiaoxijilaogongkan，tajuranshuo，tahuanshixiaoyatoupianzi，bubiyibanjianshi。

 zhihouwanwanquanquanshuo，tayeguanbuzhulerujinruhejuecequanshicuo，jiuzongrongshiersuiyifazhanqushiba，nayifangchechule，tajiugenlingyifangguoshenghuo。laogongdezheileijiejuexintaiyaowohanxin，keshiwoxinlihenguzhi，wobuxiangsuibiandifangqiwojianlidejiazhong，wobuyuanyijiushizheiyangsuibiandifushu，renkehunyinshenghuobuchenggong。

 woqianjiriqukanguoxintaike，dafushuowojiushizhongzhongdutongkuzhenghezhongzhongdujiaolvqingxuhuanjie，tiyiwochiyao。xianzaiwomeiridouchuyunanaodangzhong，suishisuididoujuedehuibenkui，wobuzhidaogaizenyangyingduineiyangdehunyinshenghuo。

 gairuhezhengqianjianglaideyishizhuxing，wofeichangaiwodehaizi，feichangaiwodejiatingshenghuo，duilaogongyeyoushiduoshaoshuoaiwobuqingxi，keshimeiyicixiangqilihun，neixinhuanshiwangbudiao。wanhunchaochu5niandenvrenhaipapengdaozheiyangdeshiqing：budanlaogongchugui，bingqiedisanzhehaijinu。

回应

 nideqingxuwohennenglejie，niyewuxuguodudanyou，niyaoquexinyidian，shanzhongshuifuyiwulu，liuanhuamingyouyicun。zhongjiusuoyourenyishengzhongdoushipengdaohuoduohuoshaodecuobai，nijupale，nidanqiele，bubazheiyiduanqingganjiejuehao，xiayiduanhaihuiziqiqiren。

 jianghuixuduorenyaotiyishuoliyi，dansuoyourendehunyinqingkuangdougebuxiangtong，tongchangbukeyiyigaierlun，hunyinshenghuojiushinide，yishizhuxingjiushinide，buguannitiaoxuanlihuanshilibule，wohaizhongshizishenqingkuangle。xiwangsuoyourenpengdaohunwailianlihunshi，dounengsisuoyixiazhei5genantizaizuochujuece：

yi、zheiyiduanhunyinshenghuolihaimeiai?

er、waiyuhoudenanrenhainengfouxinlai?

san、kefouchengdanjiatingjietihouchanshengdexintaizhuangtaiqifu?

si、lihunzhihougaizenyangxingfudeshenghuo?

wu、kefourangzishenzhenshididanduheqiangjingqilai?

因而是我几个方面提议：

 yi，xintaiguoduan。nidelaogongburongzhiyi，huanshiaizhenide，jinjinyishidezhaobudaofangxiang，xianrujinyaolangzihuitou，jinjindisanzhemanhengwuli，xuanyongmengliedefangshilaiqiangzou。gengshizaizheiyangdeshiqingxia，niyulaogonggengshiyaotongyizhenxian，xintaiguoduan，bujilingyifangjiandaoyiqienenggoudisanzhechazudejiyu，neiyangdanglingyifangnaolejihuiyihou，juedeshushouwucedeshi，daziranhuizhinanertuile。

 er，bubibeiyiqiedeyanyuhuogerenxingweirenao，bubizaiyuwanghenaonudeqingkuangxiazuochuduizishenpinpaixingxianghuoshenfenbuhaodexingwei。andilitishengduilaogongjingjifazhanhuaxiaoqingkuangdewangluojiankong，yigenanrenmeiyouleqianjia，zheiyiduanmeitusimianbaodeganqingyounengdingduozhangshijian?

 juedaduoshudedisanzhedoubukehuoqueqiancaidezhichengdian，tongchangyoushihuaileyunjinjinyibiantishengtuqiandezhulizijin，shuobailedequandoubuqiudaoshidaziranyuanxingbilu。wanhunchaochu5niandenvrenhaipapengdaozheiyangdeshiqing：budanlaogongchugui，bingqiedisanzhehaijinu。

 san，rangwaiannei，shunlijinxing。laogongchugui，yiweizhezhehunyinshenghuozaoyishanshuolelvdeng。hunyinpoliechuxiandejiaodananti，buqujueyudisanzhe，disanzhejinjinbaofahunyinpoliededaohuoxian，daozhizheileijushideguanjianyuanguhaiqujueyulaogongdebenshennanti。hunyinwentixintaizixunzenmeyang?

 yinci，duilaogongdefuweihegaizheng，zhengqueyindaotazhongguidaoduijiazhongdeyiwushangqu，caisuanshitoudengdashi，chulizheizhongnanti，yaoenweibingshi，yifangmianyaozhuyaobiaoxianwaiduilaogongdeyuanlianghekuanrong，lingyifangmianyaodalijiaqiangduilaogongzerenganshiminggandepindejiaoyu。jiqitaduizhengshideneijiuheduijiazhongdeyiwu，huoshengcaikeyishunlichengzhang。

 si，ziqiangzili，duocuobingju。jibaidisanzhe，zhenqingpaishishenqi，youyipaishiwuqizhuangbei。hexiebabamamagonggongpopo、qinpenghaoyouzuolinyoushedengquanbunenggouhexiedenengliang，zaitamenyanqianhuodeyinxiangfen、pinpaixingxiangfen，huodelianminheshipei。

 neiyangdisanzhehaipalainao，laogonghaipaluanlai，zheileijiangjushiqiadangbakongzaizishenshouli。huoxu，zuiweiguanjiandehuanshi，ziliziqiangqilai，tigaobenshendefengcaizonghexingzhishuzhi，huabeidongjinengweijiji，ranglaogongzhihouweizhunizhuan，danyouhaipanideliquheyijuyidong，zheicaisuanshibaoweihunyinshenghuozuihoudewangzheyingxiongzhifa。

 wu，bixushiyikaodisanfangdenengliang，lirujishuzhuanyeqieyuelifengfuderenlaijiejuezheizhongshier。youtamenjiangzheizhong“disanzhe”jieguhuofenlichulai。youyibufendisanzhe，tongchanghuiyouyuyuanshengjiatingdeyuangufeichangrongyizaochengrengequexian，jiazhiguannianwubiwaiquxingbian。

 yincizheizhongrendelianmianfeichanghou，yidanmouyinanrenbeitamenkanshang，tamenrutongtiaoxuexichongyiyang，laolaodiditiezainanrenshoushang，bujiangnanrenzhemodaosi，bujiangnanrenjiazhongchaimodaokuajuebubashou。

 hunyinshenghuoshifufuliangrenhoubanshengdexianghugongzuo，bixuxianghudeyongxinweihubaoyang，shangxianyinumadekankankekedouzaoyitaguole，xianrujindenantichuxianle，bixufufubicixianghuquchengdanheyingdui，yongxinpouxinantichuxiandeyuangu，xianghusikaozenyangjinkuaijianquanheweihubaoyangzheiyiduanhunyinshenghuo。

 jilao，xiebuyazheng，zhengshicaisuanshiliangzhideyifang。bubiyuantianyouren，qingbiezaihunyinshenghuoyanqiantiaoxuanduobi，libuliyi，zishenlaiguan，zheicaisuanshiyingduihunyinshenghuozuizhonghuanjiexuyoudexintaihedaodedixian。