婚姻咨询：为何爱得越长越难放下?最后造成另一方外遇!

免费 效果怎么样?不清楚你有木有留意到，在人们的生活起居中，经常会出現一些应当“放下”却“忘不掉”的状况。为何爱得越长越难放下?最后造成另一方外遇!

 liru，yichulizhuangmanlemaihuilaiyihouzhichuanlejihuihuoshizaoyiyiguoshi，queruheyeshebuderengdeyifukuzi。mianfeihunyinzixunxiaoguozenmeyang?hunyinwentixintaizixunzenmeyang?

 huoshishi，nimailaiyizhangpianguideyanzouhuidemenpiaofei，tingjianyibanfajueshijishangyidianerhanyiyemeiyou，danyouyuyaowukuiyuzishenhuadeqian，yincijianchibuxieliudaoyanzouhuishangzhizhibiaoyanwanbi。

zailiru，jianghuijiushiniduwan4niandedaxuedezhuanye，jinguanzishentaoyan，danyouhaipashizhexindefangwei、xindexingye。

dangran，yeyouxuduorenqinshenjinglide“wangbudiao”，shiheganqingyouguande。

 zuidianxingxingdedayuejiushishuo，liangrentanlehaojinianlianqingyihou，quehuranfajueyixieyuangu，ganqingzaicibuxialaile，liangrenyibushihele。zheiyineishihou，jianghuixuduorenyaoyouyubushedehekeshi，meifajianjuedijiangchu“fenshou”liangzi。

 dangniyeshiguozheizhong“wangbudiao”deqinshenjingli，buqingchuxiangxinyouyitian，daodishizenmehuishi?shishawomenyiqizaiyingduiyingdangfangkaishoudezhuangkuangxia，quewomenyiqidexinlizaochengle“wangbudiao”dejuedeni?

zheiyinantidecankaodaan，jiuherenmenjinriyaotantaodexintaixuexiaoyingyouguan，yejiushishuo“chenmeichengbenxiaoyong”。

 shijishang，“chenmeichengben”laizizhengzhijingjixue。zaizhengzhijingjixuezhong，zheixiezaoyichanshenglede、wufamibudekaizhidoubeichengzuoshi“chenmeichengben”。

neimeshuofangfohaishitinggainianxingde。

 neima，ninengshizhexiangxiangyixia，ruguoniweimoushiqing、huoshishimouyirennulishijian、qiancaihuohuolideneishihou，jiufangfoshibazheizhongnulideshijian、qiancaidouquandoupaoruhaiyang。

 eryidanrengchuqu，zheizhongquanbudenulizongshiyidiandiandichenrushenhai，tamenshihennanshoubuhuijiade。neiyangshuo，shifouhaolejieyixieleni?

 jinguan「chenmeichengben」zuichushiyigezhengzhijingjixuededingyi，keshiyihoua，taqueyinqileshehuixuejiahegerenxingweijingjishidepubiantantaoyukexueyanjiu。

 zheiyouyu，「chenmeichengben」duiyigerendegerenxingweisuozaochengdeweihai，hejingjishimenyuweijingdiande「zhengzhijingjixueshitimoxing」，yongyouxiangbeidediqu。

 dianxingxingde「zhengzhijingjixueshitimoxing」huigaozhirenmen，renmenmeiyigerenquanshikeguanderen。renmenzongshiyijushierjianglaidezhuangkuangquzuochufenbianhetiaoxuan。

 er「chenmeichengben」jiushizhizheixiezaiguanlijueceshixia，zaoyichansheng、qiewufamibudezijintouru。neimayijudianxingxingde「zhengzhijingjixueshitimoxing」，「chenmeichengben」bingburongyiduirenmenshibushizuochujuece，jiqizuochunaxiedejuecedaozhiyiqiedeweihai。

 renmenjulishuoming，jiadingzaishangyue，nihuale20wanyuanmailaiyiliangxinqiche。danshirujin，nidejingjifazhanqingkuangchuxianleyixienanti，yincijinqinizaikaolvdaoshuo，shifouyaomaichugailiangxinqiche。

 neimacong「zhengzhijingjixueshijiao」kanlai，shibushizuochumaixinchedejueceyuzishengoucheshihualehaoduoqian，shijishangbingmeiyoulijideguanlian，nigoucheshide20wanzheishishoubuhuijiadezijintouru，guishuyuchenmeichengben。

 erweihainizuochuguanlijuecede，yingdangjiushinixianjieduandebenrenjingyingqingkuang，jiqimaixincheshibushinengxiezhuni，yuanmandiduguoyigezheiyiduanjiannandeshijian。

 danshijishang，yiju“chenmeichengbenxiaoyong”，zairichangshenghuozhong，renmenbingburongyidouyizhaojingjishimenmingquetichude“keguanzhe”deniantoulaitongyixingdong。

 fanguolaide，renmenzuochuguanlijueceshi，changchanghuibuzaizhidaodizhuangkuangxiaguanxindaozaoyizijintouruhuonulidechengbenfei，jinerrang「chenmeichengben」weihaidaozishendegerenxingwei。

 shehuixuejiamenyegenjuxuduodeshiyan，renzhengle「chenmeichengbenxiaoyong」decunyou。zaizheiqizhongdeyixiangkexueyanjiuli，jinguancanjiazhedouchuzaichibaodeqingkuang。

 danshi，dangkexueyanjiugongzuorenyuanbayikuaizaizhoubiandedangaofanglimaidehuasuandeshengridangaoheyikuaizaitaiyuandedangaofanglimaidejiageangguideshengridangao，lingwaifangjintamenyanqianshi，dabufencanjiazhehaihuitiaoxuantundiaoneipianjiageangguideshengridangao，jiusuanchiwanrangtamenchengdehenbushufu。

 yincishuo，ninenggoukanjian，wangwangzheizhongcanjiazhebenlaizaoyichidehenchengle，querengrantiaoxuantundiaoneipianguideshengridangao，youyutamenzaiqianyishizhongliganjue，zheifangmianshengridangaoneimedegui，youshiyineimayuandediqumaihuilaide，jiaruchishaojiushechilangfeile。

henxianeryijian，zheijiushishuozaoshoule「chenmeichengben」deweihai。weiheaideyuezhangyuenanfangxia?zuihouzaochenglingyifangwaiyu!

 neima，daodiweiherenmendegerenxingweihuiweifanzhengzhijingjixuezhongde“keguan”，beibenlaizaoyininiuruhaidechenmeichengbensuoweihaini?neizaishehuixintaixueshang，yeshiyixiebiaoshu。renmenyigeyigekanlai。

zuixian，renmenzaoshou「chenmeichengbenxiaoyong」weihaidediyigeyuangu，jiushishuorenmendoushijizijidegerenxingweizhaoxunzhengdangxing。

 jianyieryan，jiushishuodangnifajue，xianshizhuangkuanghezishendelixianghuayuguyouchabiedeneishihou，renmenhuibuzhudongdiqubiaoshuzheizhongchabie，weicilaishuodongzishen：“woyiqiandejuecemeiyoucuo”，“woyiqiandenuliquanshizuigaide”zheixie。

neizheileibiaoshutongchangshigenjukuadaqicizishenhuodedeyichu，erhulvelezishenyijingchengdandesunhai。

 liru，nizaichileneiyikuaishengridangaoyihou，weilishifenchengdeneishihou，nijianghuihuigaozhizishenshuo：“zheifangmianshengridangaobaoguile，kenanmailaidao，wowuxutaoqianyewuxupaizhangduijiunengchichu，zhenshijiushishuozhuanlaidao”。

duile，nidequeshihuodeleyixieyichu，keshiniquejianghuilijihulvelezishenweiliyijingchengdandebushigan。

lingwaia，shehuixuejiahaifajue，renmengengfeichangrongyiba“genggai”dangzuoshiyizhongsunhai，erbingbushiyizhongdedao。

 huanjuhuashuo，zaigenggaijianghuihuichanshengdeneishihou，renmenhuidaliangdiquguanxin，“ei，ganlecicigenggaiyihou，wokeyisunhainaxie”;erburongyiquguanxin：“ganlecicigenggaiyihou，wokeyidedaonaxiexindejiyu”。

 neihaiyouyigeyuangujiushishuo，renmenhuichuziyuduikebianxingdehaipa，erquxiangyuweichixiankuang。mangranhejiaolvqingxu，shirenmenzaiyingduibuminghebuquedingxingshi，changchanghuitihuidaode。

erweilefangzhizheileibushigandetihuihexintai，renmenhuigengxiaizhiliuzaizaoyilejiexiangxiqingkuangdetiaoxuanshang。

neitidaozheier，nihuoxuzaoyidongle，aideyuezhangyuenanfangxia，jianghuijiushishuo「chenmeichengben」zaiweihaizheni。

 dangnizaiyigerenshoushangzaoyihuaxiaolehenduoshijian、huoliheai，queyiranmeifazoudaozuihoushi，nijiyoukenengzaizaiqianyishizhongzhizhong，huibuduankuadaqicilingyifangweizijichanshengdehao。

 liru，“tashijishangduiwomenhaitingbucuode”，“renmenpingchangzongdelaishuo，haitingshihede”zheixie，bingshizhehushidajiazhongjianchanshengdezhuduomaodunhefenqi。

shijishang，zheiquanshinizaiweizijidegerenxingwei，zhaoxunkanqilaiqiadangeryouxiaodebiaoshu。

 youyudangniyidanrenkeliangrenzoubushangzuizhong，jiuxiangdangyurenkezishendangshikancuoren。xuduohuaxinnanzhanvjiushishuoyunyonglenizheidianer，yincitanenggouhensuibiandejiaocailiangtiaochuan，daorujinniyaobuqingchujuewuma?

 yeyoujianghuishi，zainibixuzuochushibushiyao“liqu”huo“fenshou”dejueceshi，nidaliangguanxindeshi“fenshoule，jiuxiangdangyuzishenyiwangliangniandenulidoutulaole”，erbingbushishuo“fenlishijilexianghuyigexunzhaogengshihederendejiyu。”

 huoshishi“wogaizaifenshouzhihourenqingdaozishendenantibinggaidiaota。”dangran，niyeshijianghuiyouyuduibumingdehaipaerzaoshouchenmeichengbendeweihai。

 nijianghuihuixiang，“fenshouyihouwodounengpengdaogengqiangderenma?”“jiarupengdaoyigexinderen，yiguoliangnianhuanshifajueyouwenti，shifouhaibibushangrujinbufenshouni?”

zuizhongnizongshifajue，huoxuderuanruo，zaochengtadewaiyu，zaochengtajueqingdejiangnibaifangzaiyigenenggourentachulidebuweishang!

danshijishang，nixixinxiangyixiang，bujiutijidezheizhongniantou，daliangdidoushiyiyige「guanxinyiwang」dejiaoduxiazaochengde。

 yiwangzaoyichanshengdekeguanshishi，renmensheiyemeifagenggai，jiaruyiweidichenjinyuyiwang，zheizongshijinimeifazhenshidixiangqianzou，jinershechilangfeidiaojianglaidaliangdeshijianyujiyu。

 yemeifazaiganqingfenqizhongchoulichuqu，neima，dajiadenantiyejiumeibanfahuodechuli，neima，dajiadeganqingshijishangbingbushizhenshidezouzaixingfukuailedelumianshang，jinjincouhecouhuoguoshenghuobale!

 haodeganqingyingdangshixianghuchengcai，gongtongfendou，tonggankutongronghuafuguide!weiheaideyuezhangyuenanfangxia?zuihouzaochenglingyifangwaiyu!

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 liangjingrudegezhongyouyijugequgecishineimechangde：“huibiecuode，caikeyiheduidexiangyu”。dangnirang“zaiyiqideshijianjiule”，huozhe“zijintourudeganqingzhendeshitaiduole”zheiyileidetuoci，bianchenglenixunzhaozhenshixingfukuailelumianshangdelanluhu，neizheicaisuanshizhenshidekeshi。

 huoxutashuo，zaiganqingzhizhongwoyebuzhidaozishenshifouzaoshouleyiwangdeweihai，neimaninengshizhewenyiwenzishen，“xianzaiwosuozuochudeyouguanganqingdejuece，shidaliangdigenjuxianzaiwodetihui?huanshiyiwangzishendenulini?

“jiarurenmenbingbushitanlehaojinian，zhishigangzaiyiqiyigeyue，neiyingduizheiyinanti，wodouhuizheibandanxinma?”

 zaisisuozheizhongnantidequanguochengzhong，niyebixukanyikan，zishenshibushiyoukuadaqiciliangrenganqingzhongdehaodeyibufen，erhulveleliangrenzhongjianbunengrongqiadenanti。zheiliyaoxiangtishiniyidiandeshi，zhuiyishihuikengrende。

congyejiyilikexueyanjiuhenduoniandeshehuixuejiaqueyan·luofutesijiujuede，rendejiyilibingfeiduizhenshigushidexiaojie。

 shijishang，zhuiyidaliangdeshiduizishen“yiqiansisuoguode”jiqi“suojianxin”deexingshijiandezongshu。huanjuhua，zhuiyishiyijianhenzhuguanxingdewupin，binixiangxiangdeyeyaozhuguanxing。

 ruguonizhuguanxingshangganjueganqingmanpaobukeyijiuneimewanbishi，neima，nizaihuailianguoqudeneishihou，yehuidaliangdixiangqizheixiexingfudejingcaipianduan，suihoubatamenpinjiezaiyiqi，jinerrangganqingzhanxianchuyizhong“zongdelaishuohaifeichanghaode”deyinxiang。

 huoshidajiazaoyifenshou，youyuchenmeichengbenxiaoyongdeweihai，ninengdaliangdexiangqidajiazheixiebutaihaodejingcaipianduan，suihoubatamenpinjiezaiyiqi，jinizishenmeifacongzheidangzhongchoulichuqu，neima，dajiadefenqiyejiunanyichuli。

yincishuo，nizaihuailianguoqushi，qingjinkenengdixiangqiganqingdequanjingtu，tebieshizaishizheixie，huibeinihulvedeyibufen。

neiciwai，zaishixianigengweibixuzuode，shipingdingyixia，xianjieduanliangrendeganqingqingkuangdaodishinaxiede。

liru，dajianenggoutaolunyixia：“xianghujiandenantijiujingshishenme?bijiaoyanzhongma?bijiaoyanzhonglaidaonaxiedeshuiping”。

 “neizheiyinantikeyixiubuma?”“jiaruyaoxiangxiuburujindeguanlian，dajiagezibixuzuochunaxiedeqinfen?neiyangdeqinfenyoujianghuibaochima?”zheizhongnanti，quanshinenggoujinkuaibangdajiafenbian，jiexiaqudaodigaizenmeban。

 shijishang，buguanzainaliyiduanganqingzhong，dajiadoubixujijisikaozishenguanlianzhizhongdedeal breaker。shuobailedealbreaker，jiushishuo“daodedixian”，shizheixieyidinghuijinitingzhizheiyiduanguanliandeyaosu。

 huoxu，suoyourenjueduisiburencuodewupinbingbushiwanquanyizhi，liru，nijianghuimeifarenshoulingyifangduiguanliandebuzhongshi、youjiatingbaolishi、shijiuzheixie。

 yinci，yeqidaidahuoerbubiyibianxuyanyiduanganqing，yiduanhunyinshenghuo，huoshiyibianxianghudexiaohaierxuanzexishengzishendeyisheng!

 neima，ruguoniqingxilezishendedaodedixianyihou，jiubixuhelingyifanggoutongjiaoliuzheizhongneirong，ranglingyifangquelidilejienidedaodedixianzainaer。erdangdaodedixianbeitishengshi，yeshinigaikaolvdao“fangxia”huoshishi“haiji”deneishihoule。

 neiyangnizaizuochuguanlijueceshi，kaolvdaodejiushishuozishensuobuxiadedealbreaker，erbingbushikunhuoni、jinidanxinde「chenmeichengben」le。

zuizhongxiangduinishuodeshi，“meiyiduanganqingchangyoutadexiaocaidan，zheikexiaocaidandexingmingchengweichengcai。”

 wulunshiwanjiuyiduanganqing，huanshiyuyiwangdeganqingzuoyicidaobie，wohaizhenxinshiyidiqidai，meiyigeqinshenjingliguoganqingfengyudeni，dounengzaihaikuotiankongyihou，huodeguishuyuzishendechengcai。zhinengzaimeiyiduanganqingzhonghuodechengcai，neimanidexiayiduanganqingcaiyizhiyuziqiqiren!hunyinwentixintaizixunzenmeyang?