婚姻咨询：老公外遇后一定要懂得这几个

免费 效果怎么样?上星期有一个访客来求教我难题，想听了是挺痛心的：贺教师，我老公出轨了，最可恶的是第三者还怀了孕逼老公跟我离异。我跟老公完婚13年了，有一个闺女还要上幼儿园。

 laogongwaiyudabannianle，disanzheshigenrenmenloudixiayijialifadiandeyuangong，2019niancai25sui，hennianqing，wozhiqianyejingchangquneilizangbianzhizuo，yincizhiqianyekandaoguo。laogongwaiyuhou，wojiuhuorankailang：yingduihunwailian，yidingyaodongdezheijige。mianfeihunyinzixunxiaoguozenmeyang?hunyinwentixintaizixunzenmeyang?

 2yueqian，laogonggenwoshuoshuotawaiyule，disanzhehuaileyun，tadebabamamabitaliyi，yaoburanjiunaodaojiazhong。wotinghou，mengranganjuexiangtiantadixianyiyang，haozhangshijiandoumeifanyinghuilai，naozhongyipiankongbai，zhinengleishuizaibuduandiliu。

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教师回应

 nideqingxuwohennenglejie，niyewuxuguodudanyou，niyaoquexinyidian，shanzhongshuifuyiwulu，liuanhuamingyouyicun。zhongjiusuoyourenyishengzhongdoushipengdaohuoduohuoshaodecuobai，nijupale，nidanqiele，bubazheiyiduanqingganjiejuehao，xiayiduanhaihuiziqiqiren。

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yi、zheiyiduanhunyinlihaimeiai?

er、waiyuhoudenanrenhainengfouxinlai?

san、kefouchengdanjiatingjietihouchanshengdexintaizhuangtaiqifu?

si、lihunzhihougaizenyangxingfudeshenghuo?

wu、kefourangzishenzhenshididanduheqiangjingqilai?

yinershiwojigefangmiantiyi：

 yi，xintaiguoduan。nidelaogongburongzhiyi，huanshiaizhenide，jinjinyishidezhaobudaofangxiang，xianrujinyaolangzihuitou，jinjindisanzhemanhengwuli，xuanyongmengliedefangshilaiqiangzou。

 gengshizaizheiyangdeshiqingxia，niyulaogonggengshiyaotongyizhenxian，xintaiguoduan，bujilingyifangjiandaoyiqienenggoudisanzhechazudejiyu，neiyangdanglingyifangnaolejihuiyihou，juedeshushouwucedeshi，daziranhuizhinanertuile。

 er，bubibeiyiqiedeyanyuhuogerenxingweirenao，bubizaiyuwanghenaonudeqingkuangxiazuochuduizishenpinpaixingxianghuoshenfenbuhaodexingwei。andilitishengduilaogongjingjifazhanhuaxiaoqingkuangdewangluojiankong，yigenanrenmeiyouleqianjia，zheiyiduanmeitusimianbaodeganqingyounengdingduozhangshijian?

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 san，rangwaiannei，shunlijinxing。laogongwaiyu，yiweizhezhehunyinzaoyishanshuolelvdeng。hunyinweijichuxiandejiaodananti，buqujueyudisanzhe，disanzhejinjinbaofahunyinweijidedaohuoxian，daozhizheileijushideguanjianyuanguhaiqujueyulaogongdebenshennanti。

 yinci，duilaogongdefuweihegaizheng，zhengqueyindaotazhongguidaoduijiazhongdeyiwushangqu，caisuanshitoudengdashi，chulizheizhongnanti，yaoenweibingshi，yifangmianyaozhuyaobiaoxianwaiduilaogongdeyuanlianghekuanrong，lingyifangmianyaodalijiaqiangduilaogongzerenganshiminggandepindejiaoyu。jiqitaduizhengshideneijiuheduijiazhongdeyiwu，huoshengcaikeyishunlichengzhang。

 si，ziqiangzili，duocuobingju。jibaidisanzhe，zhenqingpaishishenqi，youyipaishiwuqizhuangbei。hexiebabamamagonggongpopo、qinpenghaoyouzuolinyoushedengquanbunenggouhexiedenengliang，zaitamenyanqianhuodeyinxiangfen、pinpaixingxiangfen，huodelianminheshipei。

 neiyangdisanzhehaipalainao，laogonghaipaluanlai，zheileijiangjushiqiadangbakongzaizishenshouli。huoxu，zuiweiguanjiandehuanshi，ziliziqiangqilai，tigaobenshendefengcaizonghexingzhishuzhi，huabeidongjinengweijiji，ranglaogongzhihouweizhunizhuan，danyouhaipanideliquheyijuyidong，zheicaisuanshibaoweihunyinzuihoudewangzheyingxiongzhifa。

 wu，bixushiyikaodisanfangdenengliang，lirujishuzhuanyeqieyuelifengfuderenlaijiejuezheizhongshier。youtamenjiangzheizhong“disanzhe”jieguhuofenlichulai。youyibufendisanzhe，tongchanghuiyouyuyuanshengjiatingdeyuangufeichangrongyizaochengrengequexian，jiazhiguannianwubiwaiquxingbian。

 yincizheizhongrendelianmianfeichanghou，yidanmouyinanrenbeitamenkanshang，tamenrutongtiaoxuexichongyiyang，laolaodiditiezainanrenshoushang，bujiangnanrenzhemodaosi，bujiangnanrenjiazhongchaimodaokuajuebubashou。

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 jilao，xiebuyazheng，zhengshicaisuanshiliangzhideyifang。bubiyuantianyouren，qingbiezaihunyinyanqiantiaoxuanduobi，libuliyi，zishenlaiguan，zheicaisuanshiyingduihunyinzuizhonghuanjiexuyoudexintaihedaodedixian。hunyinwentixintaizixunzenmeyang?