没有感情的婚姻还能继续吗：如何挽回婚姻

 xuduorenzaihunyinlixuehaolemengpianyupanbian,suihoujiganqingshengchanzhizaojiannankunku,jilianrenchanshengtongku。zhenduihunyinquanshiyaohaohaodiyunyingde,wulunjiehunqianliangrendeqingganzenyang,jiehunhoudoushibixunulishijiande，meiyouganqingdehunyinhainengjixuma?ruhe☞ wanhui hunyin?

一、没有感情的婚姻还能继续吗：如何挽回婚姻

1.采用平时攻坚

 (1)yikuaierzhaoxunxindexihao。xunzhaodajiaxiaiyikuaierzuodeshier，nenggouweinintigongzheizhongzhenguidefangfa，huashijianyiqi，lingwaishifangyalixinshen。shizhemouxieyeshibiedeyichudezhutihuodong，liruduanlianhuoshixiezhunitihuicijixinghenianqingdezhutihuodong，lirushoujiyouxi。

 (2)daorudangri2yue。1nianshangxia，niyingdanghuamouxieshijianzaiciaishanglenidezhixiqinshu。huiwangyixiaxianiyeshizenyanggenggaidajiade，jiqiwoxianzaiyuanyizourunideyishizhuxingde。huashangjigexingqishijian，rutongnichucizaiciyouhuilingyifangxiangtong。ninengchayitayouduoshaoxiezhunidehunyin。huoxu，taweibizaieryuefenchansheng。zuoyiqieheshinidegongzuozhong!

 (3)wanmouxieshoujiyouxi。qipaileiyouxiyijingzhongxinlaiguo，tamennenggoubianchengyunidezhixiqinshuronghebingwandekaixindehaofangshi。huoxuyoujingdian(pinziyouxi，dafuwengdeng)，danyeshimouxiefeichanghaodexinshou。shizhechengzuofeijipiao，katandingjuzhehuoguoqudeshijian。

 (4)jianlihuanliaoye。meiyouganqingdehunyinhainengjixuma?ruhewanhuihunyin?jieshimouxiexianghudepenyou，suihoucouzaiyiqidayouxizhiye，wanfanjuhuihuodong，yingpianhuobiedequweidezhutihuodong。zheijiangshinizaiyikuaierwandekaixin，tihuishejiaomeitiheshengji!ninhaikeyiyupenyouhe(tamende)penyoufenlihuanliao。

 (5)yiqiyueduyibenhaoshu。yiqiyueduyibenhaoshu，wulunshixiangtongzheishuhuanshicongzimiankan。zheinenggourangnimouxiehuatitaolun，bingduiwaikaifangnijianghuimeiyoudehua。ninnenggouyueduwenzhangyouguanshishiredian，yuerjiaoyuduice，lishishuji，naizhijinjinyigelingrenjidongdexiaoshuojideshujie!

 jiaruzuixihuandianshijihuoyingpian，keyikanlingyifangdezuixihuan。qukankanzuixindianyinghuotanyitannizuiaidezongyijiemuzhongfashengshenmeshi。ninengyouxiangtongdiantaolunnixiaideshier。

 (6)fengfuduocaizishendekeyushenghuo。bulunshibaomingcanjiawudaoke，xuexipeixunzenyangwanchuantongleqi，huanshixuexihuahua，zheibudannenggoujiniyouzhonglianjiedefangfa，bingqienenggouzaojiuyigejiechudeyishuchuangyi。xuexipeixunzheizhongchaojijinenghuijinijizijijuedeyinyiweihao，bingqieweilingyifangeryinyiweihao。

 (7)yiqiyigediqu。jiaruneng，yiqiqulvyou。tanaizhiwuxuchuguoliuxue; ninengchayiyuninengzaizishendeyuanzixunzhaonaxietanxian。yiqiekeyijinibaituodamendewupinnenggoubaozheng，queshi。zheijiangzaojiuxindeganshou，ninenggongxiangheronghe。

 (8)weilingyifangpengzhishicai。lunzheweilingyifangpengzhimeiweikekoudewanfan。jiarudajiaquanshikongbudezhuchu，qingyikuaiershangpengzhike，huoshidedaomouxiemianfeizaixianxiezhu。zheiduinieryanshizheizhongnianhedefangfa，yehenheshifanmangdeshikebiao(niwubichi，duibudui?)。

2.学好解决分歧关联

 (1)xuehaojiejuemaodun。maodunzaiyiqieguanlianzhongquanshiyiqiezhengchangde。maodunnaizhinenggougenjujiliniyizhizainideguanlianshangxiezuobingzuihoudedaogengqiangdewupinlaishinigengweitiejin。zheizhongquanshizainijiejuemaodundeneishihou。kaifashejixiguanxingyixiezhuninyishenxinjiankang，youlidefangfajiejuemaodun，haowuyiwenhuigaijinnindehunyin。

 ruguonifahuoshibuyaoshuohua。suiranchuantongshijianjiejuedenizhongjiubuyingdang“tuojue”，dandangdajiazhongdelingyifanghuobicidoujuedezaodongbuanshi，changshitantaomouxieshierjianghuihuishizhuangkuangyuelaiyuehenzao。

 zheiyouyuruguonibukaixinshi，womendeshentihuiyinweishenshangxianjisuchongyiwomendeshentieryinqi“zuozhanhuotaozou”fanying。zheiqueshihuizulannisisuohelizhilixingdishuohuadegongzuonengli。liuyiwomendeshenti。dangniliuyidaonidexintiaoshangsheng，huxibuchang，huoshi“jiandaoxianhongse”，qinglinshitingzhu。

 zishenxiexiyixiaxia，bingzhongshinidezhixiqinshudeyaoqiu。dangnijuedetaishangxin，dajiazhongdeyiqiezijinenggoutongdianhuaxiexiyixiaxia。yizhongshidefangfabaozhengzheiyidianerhenguanjian。dangtidaonizishendetihuierqierenkezheiyinantihenguanjian，ninengzaishaohoutaoluntadeneishihou，erbingbushishuo“wonaizhibukeyigennvshengshuohua”。

 biru：“ruguonijuedeshifenxiaochen，bixuyidianershijianlaisoujiwodeniantou。wobutongyitashiyigeguanjiandeshierlaitantao。womenyiqizai1xiaoshineitantan，dangnishuilengqueyixiaxia。“neiyang，nidezhixiqinshulejienibuyuanhulvehuihua。yiyang，dangnidezhixiqinshuguidingxiexi，qingzhongshi。bubichangshizhuiqiutahuota，huotaolunnideairen。

 (2)gongxiangnindeyaoqiu。guanjiandeshibubijiangnidegujifangdaomaotanxia - tamenzuihouhuijiangnishuaidao。yiduiwaikaifang，zhenchengdefangfamingquetichukunhuonidewupinhuonibixudewupin。bubijixiwangyunidezhixiqinshu“lejie”nibixunaxie。

 ta/tabingbushiyigesiweiyonghu，yebingbushini!ruguonigongxiangnideyaoqiushi，bubiyingyongjifenghuokuijiu。jinliangyingyong“i”juzijianyibiaomingnanti。biru，“jinqiwoshizhonghaipagudu，youyurenmenmeiyouhuaguoduoshijianyiqi。dangnimeiyouzheileilianluoshi，worenweiwoduinilaijiangbingbushiguanjian，zheiyaowojuedeshangxin。“

 ruguonigongxianglenideyaoqiu，yaoyuenidezhixiqinshuyeneiyangzuo。bubirangzheibianchengyigedanfangdeshier。fanguolai，qingxiangnideairenlejietahuotadejianyi。“niganjueruhe?”huoshi“niganjuezheiyiruhe?”shijinigangkaishidefeichanghaodenanti。zhaoxunnijianghuihuiyunideairengongxiangde“xianghucezhongdian”。

 meiyouganqingdehunyinhainengjixuma?ruhewanhuihunyin?bubi“weichichengji”。rujinbubinazhenidezhixiqinshuqunianxiatianduitamenzuodeyiqieshier，yebubibaocunzheifenquanbuxiaoshierdemanpaowenjianmulu。mashangweichizhankuang，jiangnidedadangbianweinidediren。niyizhizaixiangtongjingyingtuanduizhong!zhongjiubiewangji。

 meixingqide“maodunjiejue”huihuajianghuihuishifenyouxiezhu。tanenggoushiyigejinijuedeanquanxingdediqu，nenggoubiaoshunideyoulv，erqienilejieninengzaoshouzhongshiheyouhaodeqingting。ninnenggoujiangcishineikongjianzuoweibicixiezuochulizheizhongnantidechangdi。

 xunzhaoshihedeshijianhedizhi。nibutaikenengchangchangxunzhaolixianghuadeshijianhedizhikaizhanyongxindehuihua，danjinliangfangzhizoushen。dangdajiazhongdezijishenxinpibeihuobeiqitawupinfensanhuajizhongzhuyilishi，bubichangshijiuyigenantikaizhanshencengcidetantao。zhaoyigeshijian，dajianenggouzhiliyulingtinghegongxiang。

 (3)gezichulimeiyinanti。dangnideairenchanshengleyixieta/tabutaihaodewupin，bubichangshi“yige，danwozuorinenggou......”lainiuquta。“ dangnidezhixiqinshubutaihao，ninengzailingwaishijianmingquetichuzheiyinanti。chufeishilingyifangyuduifanglijiyouguan，buranbukejiangyigezuoyoudenantimingquetichuzhengzhi。

 yiyang，jiaruniyaogongxiangyigenanti，bubiyatanidezhixiqinshu，youyutamenhuimaiyuanhenduodejubao。guanxinzheijianjinidanyoudeshier。zheijiangxiezhudajialiangrenjuedeninengzhenshichulizheiyinanti。

 (4)fangzhichize。zeguaiyuyanhuijinidezhixiqinshuchuzaifangyuliqingkuang，erqiedangta/tajuedeta/tazaoshoujingongshi，ta/tabutaikenengtingjiannaizhishihelidetiyi。dangninmingquetichugulvshi，qingbaozhengbubisuzhu“wuru”huozhizenindezhixiqinshu。

 biru，bubishuo“niweiheyibuxiangyiwo?”neiyangshuo：“woqueshihenxiaiyuniweiyi。woxiangyaogengjingchangdizuo。youheganxiang?“diyileifangfazhizenidezhixiqinshu，juedehaoxiangyihuijingong。dierleijiaofashi，nishifenduiniyouganjuedezhixiqinshu，ninaizhiyuanyidaliang。

3.做为一个总体

 (1)xianghuzhidingbiaozhun。youmouxiejichubiaozhunnenggouqingchuxuduonanti。lejieyixianiyaozenyangjiejuenanti，lirutiaoxuanzaishujialiuyoushei，sheiyingdangchengdanqingchunaxie，zheixie。zaijiadingchanshengyiqian(naizhixiechutamen)tantaojiadingnenggouxiezhunilejienidezhixiqinshuhuiduijuececaiquxingdong，bingqieweininjieyuechuxianyiwaijiaoluanlingyifangdebubian。

 jiazhongyiwutebieshizaitongchu。henduojiazhongyouzheshuangxiangyanglaobaoxianjin，danqiangjingdeshehuiguifandaibiaonvshiyibanyiranbeijuedeshijiawuhuo，zhufan，zaojiaotuobandengshierdezerenren。kexueyanjiushuoming，yi**zhongdenvshishixing67%dejiawuhuohe91%defanshi。genjuyunidezhixiqinshutanyitandajiasuoyourenhuiganshenme，baochishenxinjiankangdejunheng。

 kexueyanjiushuoming，jianliyigexitongruanjianlaiguanlifangfayiwudefufubizheixiebuneiyangzuodefufumingxiankaixin。zheijianghuiyouyu2gehezuofangfentanyiwu，yincitamenganjuegengxiangyigejingyingtuandui。

 jiangcishizuoxiezuo，erbingbushidajiazhongdelingyifangduiduifangmingquetichuchize。yijunindegongzuonengli，zhuanyejinengheyiyongxingjueceyaoganshenme。nihaikeyijuecejiaoti，lunzhezuozheizhongdoutaoyandesuoshi。zheijiangyouliyudajia2gejuedebuhelidechengdan。

 (2)bianchengtongyizhanxian。ruguoniyouxiaohaishi，zheiyidianertebieshizaiguanjian。taolunshierbingjueceniyaozenyangjiejuebuyiyangdezhuangkuang，neiyangwoyenenggoutuanjieyizhinisuozuodeshier。juedewoyiweidezhixiqinshudangzhongfoudingnijianghuihuijuedenankanhezaochengjiaolvbuan。nidebabamamashejifenggejianghuibingbushiyizhizaitonggeyemianbiaomian，tashinenggouyiliaode。guanjiandeshinikeyirongqianidefangshi，bianyunidexiaohaiburongyibeimaodundexinxineirongsuoyihuo，huoshijuedenimeiyouyikuaiergongzuozhong。

 (3)youmouxiedulideshijian。zhenduidajialiangreneryan，guanjiandeshiyaojilao，dajiayiranshidanduderen，bixudajiaquankaozishenjinxing。duziyigerenzhiliyuzishenhezishendeyaoqiushihenguanjiande。baozhengdajiachangyoujiyuneiyangzuo。zhenduibabamamaeryan，zheijianghuidaibiaodajiazhongdeyigewubiayi，bianyubierennenggouxiexiguoduanshijian。

 (4)zaihuijishangxiezuo。qiancainantishiliyizuipubiandeyuanguzhishou。xianghuzhidingmouxiemeigerennenggourenkedejichubiaozhun。yaoqinfenweichizishendeyingxiangli，bubidanyouqiancainanti，bingqienantihuiyuelaiyueshao。

 youguanqiancaidezhengzhibujinxianyumouyigongzishuipingderen。nizhuanyaoduoshaoqianhuoshiyoushiduoshaofuzhaibingbukeyiyucefenxinihunyindequdechenggong。nizenyangjiejuenidehuijicengmiandexiezuojiqinizenyangtaolunqiancaijiangjuecetashibushihuidaozhiweihai。

4.解决某些情感阻碍

 (1)xunzhaogangweihunyinzixun。meiyouganqingdehunyinhainengjixuma?ruhewanhuihunyin?nidehunlianwentiduinieryanhaoxiangtaida。haoyundeshi，laiyuanyulinweibuluandezhuanyerenyuandehunyinzixunnenggouxiezhuninxuexipeixunzenyangjiejuemaodunhemaodun，zaimeiyouzuozhandezhuangkuangxiakaizhanzhuzhongshixiaodetanhuaneirong，bingchengxianninduizhixiqinshudeaiheganxie。jiaruninpengdaoxialieyiqienanti，ninjianghuishicongjishuzhuanyezixunzhonghuoyi。

 (2)dedaoxiezhujiejuewaishang。kexueyanjiugongzuorenyuangangkaishizhangwoyiwangshiduoshaowaishangbingfazhengnenggouzaihunyinzhongchansheng。jiarudajiazhongdelingyifanghuoshishuangfangdouchengdanzhemeijingjiejuedewaishang，tajianghuiyinqinaonuhuotongku，bingqieyizheizhongshenxinjiankangdefangfakaizhangoutongjiaoliushifenjiannan。xunzhaoxinlijiankangquanweizhuanjiadexiezhu。

 (3)lejiedaoluanyong。zaiyixiezhuangkuangxia，buguanninzaiwenzhongzhongzhixingzhuanyejinengheduicedefangfazenyang。dangnidezhixiqinshuluanyongni，neibushinidecuo。nimeiyou“rang”nidezhixiqinshulingnveni，nibukeyigenjuliuyou“weixiu”ta。qiuzhu。lingnvenenggoushixintaishangde，jingshenshizhishangdehe/huorentishangde。