离婚了怎么走出来？婚姻和婚外情他都放不下怎么办？

 dierciqisulihunhuipanlima？zheiduanshijian，wokuaiyibuxiaoxinlaogonggaodebengkuile。lihunlezenmezouchulai？tachuguile，wogentagoutongjiaoliuhoufajue，zheiyiduanhunyinshenghuozhizhong，wozuodeyeshiyoubugoudediqu，yinci，woxuanzejitamenjiyu，zhongxinzailai。lihunbulijiakeyima？renweitahuiaixicicijiyu，haohaodidehuiguozixin，nalejietagendisanzherengzailianluo。

 wojidedamata，tadoubuhaikou，dengzhewopingjingxialai，tagenwoshuo，juedezishendongdebukedisanzhe，tabingmeiyoufancuonaxie，shitaxiandezuideta，xianrujin，xiaosanaishangleta，taquexiangchoushen，juedezishenhenzha。

 wofanwendaota，panbianjiazhong，weifanhunyinshenghuoqiyueshu，xifuxiaohaibuguanbugu，qugaowaibiandenvxing，nandaoshuobingbushigengzhama?

tahenkeliandeshuo，juedezishenweirenchushihenbuchenggong，qidaiwojitamenyixieshijian，quziwofansiganqingwenti。

 lihunlezenmezouchulai？rujindoukuaiyigeyueguoqu，woxunwenta，jiujingyaozenmexuanze?tadehuiyingshi，shifoukeyishiliangcedoububifangkaishou?dengxiaosanzhenshizhaodaoxingfukuaile，tazaichoushen……

 woqizhale，zheibushinaoziyoubingma?tabuhuitouxiaosan，jilingyifangqidai，tayouzenmekenengzaicidakaiyiduanxinqinggan?tataifanqingle，chedishizhelemoyiyang，woqueshichibuxiao。

 tawaiyujiuzaoyishigehendiuliandeshier，jiaruzaiyouyuzheiyijianshierliyi，neishihou，haowuyiwenhuichuanchu，wodeqingmiandaobuzaihu，kewobudebuzaiyiwobabamamadeqingmian。

 wofumuyibeizi，quanshiyiwotizihao，suzaowodudaxue，duyan，wolaogonghuanshiwojingxintiaoxuande，jiarulihunle，tarenwenqilai，zishendeguinvbeipaoqi，tamengaiyouduonanguo?wobuyuanyirangtamenxinhan。

 erqie，lihunbulijiakeyima？wohenzhongqingyi，genlaogongwanhunshiernian，haiyouyige10suideguinv，woyixinyiyiweizheiyijiakaolv，youyuyigexiaosanhuilezheiyijia，woqueshiganjuebugan。danshitarujindeyifuhanhubuqingdexintai，woyougairuhequhuanqitadeliangxin?

yigeshenxianhunwailianzhongderen，feichangrongyibunengziba。

 waibiandenvxingwanzhongfengqing，feichangrongyicaokongnanrenxin，rangnanshengzaicijianqitanlianaidelanmanhedadong，youshihouzhuangqingchun，zhuangkelian，rangchuguizhehenbuxiaxinzuochurangtamennanguoxinhandeshier。

nilaogongganjuezishenzhuiqiuwanmeidelingyifang，xianrujinyaotatitichufenshou，juedebaoqianta，kuijiu，zheijiushiyizhongxinliniuqu。

 hunyinshenghuozhong，nanshengjiaoda debihuibianshi“meizhuyi”，sheidounenggoubizishendexifuguanjian，tashilingrenhenwunaideyidianer。youyulejie，yinciyuelaiyuesuiyi。

zheigeshihou，zuoweilaopo，buyinggaifangrentazheileiniantouweichixiaqu。

提议：

 diyi：bazijidexintaihedaodedixiangaozhijilaogong，ruguobuliyi，keshiyejuebuyunxutarenlaihuihuaizishendejiazhong，ninengbaozhengbuzhudongbusunhaidisanzhe，keshidisanzhelaishanghaidajiadejiazhongshi，niyeburongyiqingraota。

 dier：nijuedeliyihuishinibabamamameimianzi，quebuzhidao，nidexingfukuaile，caijiushinibabamamajiaoda deyuanwang。jiarunizaizheiliduanhunyinshenghuozhong，tihuibushangshiyongjiazhi，nibabamamahaowuyiwenhuishangxin，gensuicaolao。yinci，nixianyaokaolvdaoniyizhizaizheiyiduanqingganshiyongjiazhicunyou，zaikaolvdaoqinrendetihui。

 dierciqisulihunhuipanlima？disan：ziwofansihunyinshenghuozhongdebugou，zhaodaohunlianwentidegenbenyuanyin，wanshanziwo，bazijifengcaitigaoshanglai，wanjiuhunyindelingwai，jitamenchongyudeshijianzuojueding，jiarubukeyirangniyigelingrenmanyidehuida，haiyaogaohaoliyidetiqianzhunbei。weihubaoyangzishendeliyi，shoujitawaiyudezhijiezhengju，zhijiezhengjuyuduoyuhao，neiyangnicaikeyizaizhengdezichanzheifangmian，jinihexiaohaichushiyifenquebao。