离婚一方不同意怎么办?好的夫妻，都是“各过各的”

 lihunyifangbutongyizenmeban?shutingzai《zhixiangshu》zhongxie：“dajiafentanhanliu、tianlei、pili;dajiagongxiangziyuanwuai、liulan、xingguang，zhangfuchuguilihunzenmepan?haoxiangshizhongfenlichulai，queyouzhongshengxiangshou。”xianghuzhijianjiezhu，queyoubicizhijiandandu，tashihunyinshenghuozhongbicizuixingfudejiaowangfangfa。dizhisanhebilihun,haodefufu，shijishangbianshi“geguogede”。

1、好的夫妇，明白给另一方留室内空间

suhuashuodehao，hesuoyourenzoudetaijin，quanshiyichangzaihuo。

夫妇也是这般。

 liangrenjieweiairen，yibeizigongxiangziyuanyijianfangjian、yizhangchuang，naizhiyitiaoruziyigezhenxin，youzhezhetiandijianzuimibukefendeguanlian，quebingbuyiweizhecihoubuhuizaibixuzishendeshineikongjian。

 zailianaihuozhemiyueqi，liangrenyexuhuihenbunengmeishimeikenizaiyiqi，qidailingyifangdaonaquganshenmedougenzishenshangbao，jinerbawoyouguanlingyifangdeyiqie。

 danzaihunhou，reqinghuizaiyouyanjiangcujilinggousuizhongjianjiandixiaoqian，yiqianruhekanquanshiyoushideren，xianrujinkandaotaluandiumianwajiufahuo，tingzhetataolaojiuxianfan。

zhangfuchuguilihunzenmepan?zheigeshihou，jilingyifangliuyigeyurenxiangchudeshineikongjianjiukanqilaifenwaiguanjian。

nuojianghuojiangzheduolisi·laixinzaizhuzuo《19haofangjian》lixushuleneiyangyigegushi。

 nvzhujiaohelaogongshiyiduifuqienai，tamenzhuzaikuankuoderubaisehuayuanyangfangli，bingfuyanglesigekeaidehaizi，youzhezaibierenlaikanzuizhidexianmuderichangshenghuo。

 dizhisanhebilihun,danjinyoulaopolejie，meiriyingduilaogongxiaohaihewanglaichixudeqinpenghaoyou，rangtajuedeshifenpibei，taqipanyouzheyigezhiguishuyuzishendesimikongjian。

 yikaishitahelaogongchengnuohao，zaijialipichuyijianfangjianjingongtayingyong，bierendoubukejindao。neiyangtajiukeyizaitaileileyitianyihoujindaoneiyigefangjian，zuoyixiezishenxianggandeshi。

kezheiyiniantouwufadedaoqinrendelejie：doushiyijiaren，weiheyaobajiexianhuadeneimeqingni?

yincilaopodechengchibeiqintun，neijianfangjianbianchengjiazhongdelingyigedaketing。

 laopozhinengzaiduzhaoxunyigeguishuyuzishendewuzi，tazaibeijinglixiangtaiyuandejiudiancantingzuleyigebianyide19haowuzi，meishierdeqingkuangxiajiuzijilaizheizuoxia。

kezuihou19haowuziyebeilaogongfajuele。

 dangbeilaogonghejiarenmenzhiyideqingkuangxia，laoponingyuanshuohuangshuozishenyongyouhunhouchugui，haiyaoshouweizheijianfangjian，baoweizishenyurenxiangchudezhipeiquan。

zheiyiduankanshangquxingfudehunyinshenghuo，zuihouyiliyishouwei。

《jinhun》liyouyijujingdiantaici：“qingganshishoushangdesha，zhuadeyuejin，shengdeyuedi。”

 zaihaodefufu，yedezaibicizhijianliuyitiaofeng，youyurenquanshibixu“chuanyikouqi”de，bidetaijin，zongshiranglingyifangyaoxiangtaochu。

 yinciconghuidefufu，doumingbaijilingyifangliuyouyigeshineikongjian，buqintun、dajiao，ranglingyifangzaitazijidexiaoshijielijingjingdezuoyihuierzishen，weizijichongdianchichongdian。

fuqijianzuihaoshidexiangchumoshi，bianshiqinmiwujianqueyoufenbiedandu。

2、好的夫妇，不容易强制更新改造另一方

yingpian《jiongma》deyikaiju，bianshinanzhujiaoxuaolifohelaopozhanglutanliyidejiemian。

 xuaolifonianfuliqiang，baishouqijiachuangyebazuoshengyiyilubaozhengleyingguo，kegongzuoshanghaiyouzaojiu，huidaojiadenghoutadehuanshicangengshengfanlengzao，heyigejianchilihunledelaopo。

 youyutayouyigezhimingxingdequexian，bianshixiaicaozong、gengxingaizaolingyifang，taqidaiqizideyiqiedouyizhaozishendeqingyizou，huochuzishenyaoxiangdemoyang。

zheiyeshitamendehunyinshenghuomaixiangzhongdiandejiaoda yuangu。

 zailaopotiqianzhunbeilikaijiadeqingkuangxia，xuaolifonazheyigexiaotaidengzhuishangtajiang：“nijiangxiaotaidengquzou，wojinixiuwanle。”

tarenwei，xiaotaidengshiweilaopoxiude，tashizishenbiaoshuzaiyidefangfa。

 kezhanglujiushuo：“woyaogaosuni，wojihuyemeiyouxiaiguozheiyixiaotaideng，congtajinjiamenkoudediyitianqi，woyeganjuetakanqilaihenjiaoqing。”

chenzhezheiyixiaotaideng，zhanglucaizongsuanbarenlehenduoniandebumanyijianglechuqu。

 “nikankan，zheijiushiwomenliangzhongjiandenanti。nineixinmianzhangleyigexiangxiangdexifu，tayingdangxihuanshenme，fangannaxie，gaizenmeliaotian，nidoushezhihaola。

 henijiehunzheixienian，niweiheyaojianchibuxiedigengxingaizaowoni?douzheixienianle，ninandaoshuodouhaimeiyishidao，wobushinixiangdeneirenma?”

 meiyigerenquanshidandudegeren，yongyou zishendeguannian、xihaohexingweiguifan，guidinglingyifangsheqizishenlaishuncongzishen，shijishangshiyizhongbianxiangdeyuyanbaoli。

 liangrenrichangshenghuozaiyiqi，chabiehefenqishizaisuonanmiande。jinjinconghuidefufuhuitiaoxuanhuxiangguanzhemoheqi，erbushizisizilididanfangguidinglingyifangyizhaozishendeyixiangguorizi。

 mayilizaigendengchaojiehun9zhounianliuniandedangrifaguoyitiaoxinlangweibo，zhiyantamen2genengrichangshenghuozaiyiqi，shijishangtingbuyide。

 youyutamenyigepagaowen，yigeweileng;yigehualao，yigechenwen;yigexiaijingchangaoye，yigexiaizaoshuizaoqi;yigexila，yigeyinshiqingdan……

shubuzhijiushizheiyang2gexingqingheshenghuoxiguandoutianrangzhibiederen，zaoyizaiyiqixiangzhixiangxidirichangshenghuole9nian。

youyutamenyizhizaibicizhijianguanzhe，weilegenghaodilingyifangergenggai，weileaiergenggai。

haodefufudoumingbai，aishizhongshi，shijieshou，shilejie。

3、好的夫妇，不容易把另一方当做受气包

wobiaomeizaishiwusuiyiqianyizhiyouyigexiguanxing：yidaoyeliliudianban，jiuhuinaerzhaobazijideerduolimianjifengzhu。

 yuangufeichangjiandan，liudianbanshitabahuijialedeshijian。zhixutabadeyizhijiaocaijinlejiamenkou，chubulaisanshimiao，jiazhonghaowuyiwenhuichuxianyichangzhanshi。

 tababashishichangxiaoshou，zaiqiyehuishougukedeqi;muqinjiatingfunv，zaijialihuishoujiapodeqi。liangkouzidoushifenxinyoulingxidibalingyifangzuoweizishendeshouqibao，genjuchizemanmalingyifang，laixuanxiebieleyitiandefumianqingxu。

jinriweihewanhuijialewufenzhong，tuodiaodexieweishenmebubaifang，wancandeyanfangduole，dounengbianchengliangrendachaoyijiadebaofadian。

biaomeishiwusuiyihou，tamenzongsuanbuchaole，youyusheidouganjuezheiyiriziguodezhenmeiyisi，lihundiaojiele。

keliangrenhaidouganjueyuan，zaibuyiyangdechangsuogenbuyiyangderendoushuoguoyiyangdehua：

 lihunyifangbutongyizenmeban?“womendoushifuqiliang，woneixinzheixiebiequbuduizhetafaduizhesheifaya?woyitiantianneimelei，baoyuanjijuzenmela，tabuyinggaiduoqianjiuwoma?”