怎么跟女生聊天 不必让他人感觉你很聪慧

 juedaduoshurendouqinpeigaoshou，keshishizhongburongyiqidaizishenshenbianderenbizishenchuse。fanguolai，zhenduizheixiebingbuneimatuxianderen，fandaogengxiangyaoqinmijiechu，youyunenggoudadaozishendeaimuxurong。huanjuhuashuo，ninengjuedezishenhenconghui，keshibubirangtarenganjuenihenconghui。ruheliaomeizhaohuati，zenmegennvshengliaotian？

 huiyixianianshushidebanjitidiyi，shijishangmeihaoduogezhenxinpengyou；yiqunpenyouzhong，zuichusedeneiyigetongchangshizuifeichangrongyibeigulide；erzheixiezaizhirenyuanchangshangaizhuyaobiaoxianzishenderen，kendinghuibeidahuoerjidui。

 shejiaomeitishiweilegenghaodihuodexinxihuoshikaizhanganqinglianjie，erbushiweilegenghaodijiaowei，guoduchuleibacui，zongshirerenyanjuan，sangshigongpinggoutongjiaoliudezizhi。

5、让给一部分决定权

 goutongjiaoliuzhongzhanyouzhudaoxingdequeduizishenyouyi，keshineiyanghuiranglingyifangjuedebushigan，jinerxiangjinzaowanbixianliao。yincizaigoutongjiaoliuzhong，bayibufendejuedingquanyongyouweizijidegoutongjiaoliumubiao，ranglingyifangyouzhetiaoxuandequanli，juedebeizhongshi，erxiangyaoyunishenliaoxialai。

 ruheliaomeizhaohuati，cike，yidingbubizhuyaobiaoxianchujiushiniaichiriliao，yaobiaoshuchunishiyiduitaderichangrichangshenghuodeguanxin，caifajuetadeaihao。yibanjiarunvhaishixiangyaoyuniyouhui，douburongyihuijuenideqingqiu。

chishabingbushiguanjian，guanjianshiyaoranglingyifanglejie，nihenzaihuta。

 xianliaoshizaishejiaomeiti，bingbushizaiboyi，yincimeibiyaozhushidouzhanyouzhudaoxing。zaiyixieshenghuochangjingzhong，nachuyibufenjuedingquan，fandaokeyirangbicideguanliangengjinyibu。

 tebieshizaizhendui「tiaoxuankunnanhu」eryan，heyigemingbaizenyangrangjiyibufenjuedingquanderenjiaowang，shizuishushide。youyutamenjiburongyichediduozouzishentiaoxuandequanli，youbianxiaoletiaoxuandefanchou，rangzishenbuhuizaidanxin。

6、饰演好「倾听者」的人物角色

 qingting，shihelixianliaodeqiantitiaojian，youyumingbailingtinghuiranglingyifanggengweixinrenni，jinerzaixinzhongmorenshezhinishitadetiexinren。

keshi，jiaruyouxierenyueniqingtu，niquemeiyoujiyuqiadangdehuiying，zongshiranglingyifanggengweibuyue。

dangnidepengyoufenshou，yidingbunengyongshangbianneiyangdefangfalaigoutongjiaoliu，yigedabiaode「qingtingzhe」bixubaozheng：

①做一个龙套。

 tinglingyifangshuo，bubi「jiaxi」。tarenzaiqingtushi，xiangzuodaodeshiqingxufaxie，erbushiyaotingniraowanzi。lirushangbiandezheiyiduanxianliao，lingyifangbiaoshushangxinxintai，danniyifukandanyiqiedenianzhangzhexintai，zongshirangxianliaoshenxiannankanchujing。

②guanchalingyifangtihuiheyaoqiu。

 zhangwolingyifangyunigoutongjiaoliushidanchunxingweilegenghaodifaxiehuoshiqidaihuodehuifu，liuyilingyifangqingtushidexintai，jinerzuochuqiadangdehuifu，lirurentong、jilihuoshikuanwei。

③适度给与意见反馈

 zaixianliaoquanguochengzhong，muguang、shentihuoshiyuyanbiaodadejianyiyijianfankui，quanshihuifu。liru，tingbierenshuomouyijianjieshi，yigediandiantou，dounengjifalingyifangzaicishuoxialaidechongdong。

rutong，daixizaiqinfenshuchugaopinzhineirongshi，dajiawuyijiandishuangjishubiaoxianshiping，dounengyaowogaoxingyizhengtian。

7、让闲聊目标觉得「形式化」

yibanzhuangkuangxia，zaixianliaoquanguochengzhong，jiarulingyifangganjuezishenzainixinlishiyouqide，beirentongde，neimazhenghaoni

youenyutashi，tayidinghuizewupangdaidibangni。

 yiqianyouyigepenyouzhaowoliaobangzhushibiaoshidao，「shiwoyipianwenzhangbixunibangwokanyixia，wolejiederenli，weiyounifabiaowenzhangzuizan，bingqieyuwoguanlianzuihaoshi，yincidiyigejiuxiangqinini。」

 jihaowuyiwenlewodegongzuonengli，youmorenshezhiwoshitadepenyou，zhuzhongdiyigexiangqiwo，suoyiwoyagenmeiyouhuijuedeyuanyin，yehenyuanyibangzheiyimang。

 jinguanmudishitongyangde，keshishangbianzheileitarenqianlenishangbaiwandeyudiao，queshilingrenhendichu，jibianlingyifangnenggoubangni，yebuhuixiangyaozainideshenshanghaofeiyidingdianshijian。

yinci，zairichangxianliaozhong，ranglingyifangjuedetazainixinlishidutede，yidinghuijiazhongniyizhizaitaxinlideyingxiangli。

8、防止「索魂连坏问」

 zheiyiduanhuihuashifouyouyizhongjiyuanqiaohedejuede，zheijiushizaiwangshangbeiguangfandiaokande「zhinantuxianliao」，xiaineiyangxianliaodedabufenzhangqitangzaijipinnvshendexinyongheimingdanlikanbudaotianri。

yinciyingdangruhewen，caikanqilaididiaoshehuayoupinweini？

①目的性闲聊。

xianxuehaofenbianyigerendezhonglei，nenggoucongweixinpengyouquanxunzhaoxianliaodetupokou，fenbianlingyifangxihuanshenme，shunshuituizhou。

②预测另一方念头。

yijulingyifangxingqing，tuilunlingyifanghenyoukenenghuichuxianruhedehuiying，suihougengqiangdezhuazhulingyifangdehua。

③shaoliaofengbixingdenanti。

 xianliaozhongtarenzhiyouhuiying「shi」he「fou」，zongshirangxianliaoxunsudewanbi。xiangwenlingyifangchilemei，bibushanglijixunwentaxiawuyibandouxihuanchishenmewupin，hainengshenchulingyifangdeaihao。

9、少用否认、多多的赞扬

hetarengoutongjiaoliushi，yonghaowuyiwenlaitidaifouren。

 liru「xiaozhao，nihenyougongzuonengli，keshinigongzuozhongbuzuyongxin」，he「xiaozhao，nizhuanyenenglihenqiang，ruguozaiyongxindianjiugengjizhile」xiangjiaowei，henxianzhuhouyijuhuilingrenjuedegengshushi。

 jiaruniqidaiyigerenyouzhemouleiyoushi，nijiuyaozanyangta。liruniqidaixiabanlechidaoshuangkoudefanshi，niyejiunenggouzainidelingyibanzhufanshizhenxinshiyidezanyangta，zheiyizhaoduinanhaiershifenyouyong，nanhaizishigeaizhuyaobiaoxiandeweishengwu，jinbuzhukua。

 jinridezhongbangxiaoxiganhuozhishi，jiujifasongdaozheier。xianliaoshinenggouxuexipeixunde，xianliaogongzuonengliyeshinenggousuzaode，bumingbaijiuxuyaoxue，burongyijiuxuyaowen。erbuguanxueshenmelingyu，kuaidefangshibianshigenyuelifengfudejishuzhuanyedelingyujiaoshixuexipeixun！

 zenmegennvshengliaotian，keshi，nimeixue，niyejiushizhongzhiyouzhiliuzaiyuandibudong，shizhongburongyi！muqianshehuifazhan，qingshanggaodongjianghuazhendeshiyimenbujiandandejishuhuo，meiyigerendouyingdangtishengzijibiaoshugoutongxiediaonengli，haideyouzishendedulisikao。