怎么跟女生聊天 跟女生聊天的不正确心理状态

 xianliaoshirenherenzhijianxiangchuzhongzuizhongyaodegoutongfangshi，shibushiliaodelai，shiliangrenguanliangengjinyibudeqiantitiaojian。bulunshitongxingzhijianhuoshiyixingpengyouzhongjian，liangrenliaodelai，liaodaogaoxing，guanliandefazhanqushihuihenkuaisu，lianggenvshenghuiyouyuliaodelaikuaisubianchengzuihaodepengyou、haojiemei，ernvshenghenanshengjiaruliaodelai，guanlianyehuixunsushengji。ruheliaomeizhaohuati，zenmegennvshengliaotian？

xuduonanhaizizhuiqiunvsheng、huozhegennvhaijiaowangshidebushunli，zuilijidefanyingbianshizaixianliaoshang。

gennvhaixiangchuzhong，ninyoupengdaoxialienantima？

xiangzhaonvhaijianghua，youbuqingchuyingdangshuoxieshenme，nachushoujishangyouxuehuifangxia，xuehuifangxiayounachu，xinfanjiaolv。

gennvshengliaotiandeqingkuangxiayizhihenjiaolvbuan，haipazheijuhuashuodecuowurangnvhaidichu。

zongganjuezishenbuzuyouyisi，gennvshengliaotianliaodaoganbiede，meiyouyisi。

 ruheliaomeizhaohuati，gennvshengliaotian，zishenhuiweiwuqiong，dannvhaifangfoyizhimeiyoushenmexingquaihao，meiyiciquanshicongcongwanbihuihua。

 xuduonanhaizizaiyunvshengliaotiandequanguochengshangdouhuipengdaozheizhongnanti，zhujianshidedanxin，quanguochengzhongdejiaolvbuan、jiaolvqingxu、wanbishideyumen，xianliaobianchengleyijianpobudeyizuo，youlingrenjuedeshifentongchudeshier。

yincizaicuozhezhongyulaiyuburongyigennvshengliaotian，yuebushanyancijiuyuehaipazhaonvhai，exunhuan，weihaigaobiedanshen。

 yixienanhaizidoujuedezishengaobiedanshennandeyuangushiqianqueliaotiandejiqiao，qidaitongguoxuexiyixiexianliaodefangshi、fangfalaichulizishendenanti。

 zaiwangshangjiaozenyanggennvshengliaotiandeneirongyouhenduo，daduoshushifangfaleide，liru“nvshengshuoele，gaizenmehuifu？”、“nvshengshuoyaoshuizhelegaizenmehuifu？”、“nvshengshuoyaojianfeishoushen，gaizenmefengquhuiying？”……

yi“nvshengshuoyaoshuizhelezenyanghuiying”weilizi：

huiyingyi：bietaixiangwoe，panishuibuzhejue。

huiyinger：qiahao，yinweiwoleile，neiwomenyiqishuijuejue。

huiyingsan：duibiwanan，wogengxiangdiyigegenniwanan。

 zheizhonghuiyingkanqilaidouhenhao，juedehenfengquyounenglajinlianggerenjianju。yincinibuguansanqiershiyi，naguolaijiuyong，suihoufajuebingmeiyouzuodaoniyaoxiangdeshijixiaoguo，nvhaihuoshiduiniaidabuli。

 suihounijuedekenengshizishenmeixuejing，huozhemeizhaodaogengqiangdefangfa，yincigengweipinmingdizhaogezhonggeyangfangshi、gezhonggeyangfangfa、xiaoshouhuashu，zuizhongbeizheizhongfangfabijiaoyanzhongweihai，chedibuqingchugaizenyanggennvshengliaotian。

shijishanggennvshengliaotianliaodaobutaihaozhijieyuanyinbuqujueyufangfashang，zhishixinlizhuangtaishang。

shexiangniyizhizaigenqinren、penyouxianliaodeqingkuangxiahuiganjuegoutongjiaoliubuchangshunma？huichuxiangennvshengliaotianshidezheixienantima？

 yaoshimeiyou，neibiaomingnidegoutongxiediaonenglishimeiyouhendadenanti，chedinenggougenbierenyiqiezhengchanggoutongjiaoliu，wangwanggennvshengliaotianliaobutaihao，genbenyuanyinzaixinlizhuangtaishang。

gennvshengliaotiandebuzhengquexinlizhuangtai：

1、过度注重結果，得失心重。

nanhaizizhuiqiunvsheng、gennvhaixiangchushidedeshixintaizhong，taiyaoxiangyouhaodejieguo，weihaiyiqiezhengchangdebiaoshu。

 jiuhaoxiangkaoshi，daxueshidaidoujingliguokaoshi，kaoshideqingkuangxianiyuefadianjizheyaohuodeyouyichengji，yuefabukeyijingxialaishuati，huinankaochuhaochengji。

fanguolai，jiarunibuzaihujieguo，jinjinzhiliyugaohaomeiyidaoti，tongchangkaoshichengjihuigenghao。

 gennvshengliaotianyeshiyiyang，niyuefazaihunvhaiduizishendeguandian，jiuyuemeifazhiliyuxianliaozishen，bukeyitihuinvhaizhenzhenzhengzhengyaoxiangbiaoshude，dangranmeifadechuheshideganenhuikui，liangrendegoutongjiaoliubianhuizaochengzuai。

2、针对性太强。

 nanhaizigennvshengliaotianshijishangshiweilegenghaodigengqiangdezhangwolingyifang，yicujinganqing，danbubisheqiuyicihaodexianliaojiunengrangliangrendeguanlianchanshengzhidezhuanbian。

 xianliaojinjinliangxingjiaowangzhongshifenguanjiandeyihuan，danbingbushiweiyidegoutongfangshi，chufeishinijinjinyaoxiangyidilian，caijinyouxianliaozheiyizhongjiaowangfangfa。

 yiqiezhengchangdelianaiguanxizhong，xianliao、youhuiquanshiyiyangguanjian，zongshixianliao，zongshiyongzuishuo，xingdongwufagenshang，yeshimeiyouyongde。

 yincibubidianjizhemeiyicigennvshengliaotiandounengliaodaofeichanghao，dounengrangnvhaiduiniyinxianggengqiang，gengduiniyouganjue，shifangyalixinlizhuangtai，nidebiaoshuhuigengweidangran。

3、要想掩藏自身。

buqingchuweishenmeyouzheiduodenanhaizidoujuedexianliaojiuxuyaofengqu，nvhaicaihuixiai，zheishijishangshifeichangdadecuowuguannian。

 yigerendefengqushikezaineixinshenchude，shiwuyijianliuluchulaide，erbushiyouyiweilegenghaodifengquerfengqu，gengbubiquxiaofangfengqu。

 jiuhaoxiangqianbianshuode，“nvshengshuoyaoshuile，gaizenmefengquhuiying？”ruguonishigeyoumoderen，nidangranlejiegaizenmehuifu，jiarunibingbushi，yeqianwanbielanyongzheixiexiaoshouhuashu，jieguohuidebuchangshi。

 liruniyuanbenbianshiyigechenmoguayan，haolehuabuduoshuoderen，yiqiangennvhaidexianliaoyizhiyebutaishunli，youyixienankan，cikenvshengshuo“woyaoshuile。”nihuranshuo：“bubitaixiangwoe，paninengshuibuzhejue。”

zheiyagenyebufengquhaome？zongshirangnvhaiganjuehenshengying，naizhihuiganjuezheirenyoumaobing。

 zheijiuhaoxiangyigenvshengxinggewaixiang，jianghuaxinzhikoukuaihenhaofang，huranzainiyanqianniuniunienieqilai，niyejiuhuijuedehenweihegan，nanshou。

 shijishangnanrenhenvrenxianliao，yaoxiangliaodaohao，biezhejixiangzheixiefangfa、fangshi，xianxuehaofangzhengzishendexinlizhuangtai，nicaikeyishifangyali，caikeyigengweizhiliyuxianliaozishen，keyitingdedongnvhaidehua，dechuxiangduiyingdeyijianfankui。

 zenmegennvshengliaotian，duiyuzheixieliaomeitaolu，kangelehejiukeyile，xianliaofenweihaodeqingkuangxia，keyidiaozhengfenwei。danqianwanbierenweiyiliangjunuanxinqinghuajiunengchulixianliaonankandenanti，buyaokanjihui、bukaolvdaoguanlian，naguolaijiuyong，zongshirangxianliaogengnankan。