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 guji《mozi》zhongyouyiduanjixu：ziqinwenmozi：“duojianghuayouyichuma?”mozishuo“meiyou。nikankanrenshijiandewenchong，baitianheheiyemingjiao，shubuzhiconglaimeiyourentingtamende。nikankanneixiongji，pingchangmeidongbuti，quezhizailimingshifenmingjiao，tiandizhendong，dajiazhunshizhanqixinqinlaodong。duojianghuayounaxiehaochunini？guanjiandeshijianghuajinmijiehejihui。”huatizhongjiezheshiqingshangdima？tongguoqingshanggaoderenliaotianjietu，weinifenxizenmeliaotian。

jinmijiehejihuiyejiushiwomenyaozainaxiedechangsuoshuonaxiedehua，yejiushisuhuashuodehaode，jianrenshuoshihua，zhuangguishuoguihua。

 meiyigerendaobuyiyangdeshikebuyiyangdediqu，xiangshuodehuahenyoukenengquanshibuyiyangde，ruguowomenyizhiqianpianyilv，shuozheyiyangdewupin，henkenenghuilingrenhendichu。

 shubuzhi，wulunshizaihunyinguanxihuoshizaizhuiqiuwanmeideqingkuangzhizhong，dajiadouqidaikeyihelingyifangduojiang，keshixuduoqingkuangxia，quebingbingbushidajiaxiangduojiangsuihoujiukeyiduojiangde。

 huatizhongjiezheshiqingshangdima？youyuwomenkeyiguanliziji，quekongzhibuletaren。nenggourangzijishuoxuduo，quemeifarangtarenyexiangdajiayiyangshuoxuduo。

rutongxuduoqingkuangxia，dajiahuipengdaoneiyangdenanti，shangyicihelingyifangxianliao，liaoxitangguzhenliaodaohenkaixin。

 keshizheiyicizaihelingyifangshuozheiyihuatitaolundeqingkuangxia，nixunwenta：“nihaowuyiwenlaiguoxitangguzhenba？”，lingyifangquekanqilaixingquaihaoyiban，naizhibuyuanzaiciduojiangle。

youxierenhuiganjueguaiyi，weihetazhiqianbenlaihenxihuanliaozheiyi，zheiyiciqueruanyingbuchi，lengmoqilaileni？

 zheijiushishiyishiyi，lingyifangyezaichixudezhuanbianzhizhong，erdajiameiyoubawozhutacishizuinengliaodehuatitaolun，meiyouxunzhaotazuixiangshuodedian。

taweishenmebuduojiangyidianni？

jiandaozheier，nihenyoukenengyaoshuo，neiyaozenyangxunzhaotarenzuixiangshuodehuatini？

 woyouyigexueshengduiwoshuo，qingfengjiaoshi，meiyiciwoxunwentachifanlemeiyou，tadouyizhizhihuiwojiangchiwan，suihoujiumeiyoushihoule。

danshiwoxunwenzheiyijinjinxiangzhaoyigehuatitaolunlaihetaxianliaoa，tajiuburongyiduojiangyidianma？

 shijishangxuduoqingkuangxiawomenshineiyang，wenlingyifangyigenantiqueshijinjinyaoxiangdakaiyigeliaotianhuati，naizhishiqidailingyifangkeyiduoduidajiashuoyidian。

danshidajiawenlingyifangdenantiqumingjiujinjinjilelingyifangerzhongtiaoxuan。

 huanjuhuashuo，dajiawenlingyifangdenantidabufenquanshimibishidehuatitaolun，ranglingyifangzhiyoucongdajiadechudetiaoxuanzhizhongkaizhanhuiying。

zaixianliaozhizhong，xuduoqingkuangxiadajiawenlingyifangdenanti，shijishangquanshiyigefengbishidenanti。

 shenmejiaozuofengbixingnantini？bianshizainantizhizhongjilelingyifangyigetiaoxuan，ranglingyifangfeiheijibai，zhiyoutiaoxuan“shi”huoshi“bingbushi”，“you”huoshi“meiyou”，“hao”huoshi“butaihao”zheixie。

liru，“nixiaichichengzima？”

zheijiushiyigefengbixingdehuatitaolun，youyulingyifangjinyou“xiai”huoshi“taoyan”erzhongtiaoxuan。

kaifangshihuatitaolun，xiaochuxianliaozhizhongshoudongshidetiaoxuan

 dajiahenyoukenenghuiwenlingyifang：“nihaowuyiwenlaiguoxitangguzhenba？”，zheiyihuatitaolunjilingyifangdehuiyingbianshilaiguo，huoshimeiyoulaiguo。

 keshiruguowomenhuanweichangkaishihuatitaolun，neimajiukeyiwen：“nijuedeheshiquxitangguzhenzuihaokanya？nilaideqingkuangxiashishenmeshihouya？”

 kaifangshihuatitaolunzeshiranglingyifangjijishuochulai，erbushichuyubeidongdetiaoxuan，kaifangshihuatitaolunranglingyifangyoudaliangbiaoshudehenyoukeneng，erbushizaizaoyidechudetiaoxuanzhizhongzuochujianyidehuiying。

liru：“kanzhenilaidaoneimeduodiqu，nizuixihuandeshinaerya？”。

zheigewentibianshiyigekaifangshidenanti，tagengfeichangrongyiranglingyifangjiangchuzishenzuiaidediqu，naizhijiangchuxiaideyuanyin。

ziran，zhenduifengbixingdehuatitaolun，jiarulingyifanghenhuixianliao，tayehenyoukenengburongyixunguidaojudehuiying。

keshi，ruguowomenpengdaoneiyanghuixianliaoderen，henyoukenengyejiubuyongwakongxinsijiaojinnaozhiquzuoneimeduole。

liru：nihenyoukenenghuiwen“nilibaitiandeqingkuangxiahuiquyundongjianshenma？”。

jilingyifangerzhongtiaoxuan，huihuoshiburongyi。

 keshijiarunihuanwei“nixiuxitiandeqingkuangxia，yibanzuiaizuoshenmea？”，jiujilelingyifangchongfenfahuideshineikongjian，jiletachengqianshangwandehenyoukeneng。

 huanjuhuashuo，zaibuqingchulingyifangzuixiangshuodehuatishishenmedeshihou，jinkenengyongkaifangshihuatitaolunqutanxunzhaoxun，bubijilingyifangxianzhifanchou，shitazhiyouchuyubeidongcongzhizhongtiaoxuan。

 shiwomendeluojisiweicongyigefengbishideshineikongjianjindaodaoyigeduiwaikaifangdeshineikongjian，yeshijiwomenderichangshenghuozaicikaiguoyishanmen。

 neimeshuohuoxuniyaobingbushihengaoqingchu，woweinitiqianzhunbeileyibaigeganqingfangfa，yicixingchuliniconglejienvhaidaohunyinguanxidequanbuyihuo。

 tongguoqingshanggaoderenliaotianjietu，weinifenxizenmeliaotian。wulunnishizhaobuzheshengjidefangshi、pengdaonvhaijiujiaolvbuan、buqingchuliaoshenme、burongyiqinta、burongyidaitahuijiale，wohaijiniyiyizuohaozhunbei。zuizhongyaodeshi，wodouhuijiaonizenyangweihubaoyangyiduanguanlian，zenyangbuduandefazhanheyuelaiyuegengweichuse，shinibudanxuehaoxianliao，youhui，hainengzhenzhenzhengzhengyouzheyiduanganqing。