与人沟通的技巧与人际关系：谦和诚恳，缩短距离，百战百胜

qiangongchengzhi，gaiduan。diyicijianmianshi，yongsanyanliangyuqiaruqifendibiaoshuniduilingyifangdeyoushanaiyi，huohaowuyiwenqizaojiu，huochengzanqizhiliang，bianhuishashijiannuanqixindi，ganqixinpi，bianhuishilingyifangyiyuyanbiaoyijianrugu、xinfengzhixinzhigan。yurengoutongdejiqiaoyounaxie？diyicijianmianshigoutongjiaoliuzuodaozheileishuipinghuiweirihoudeshencengcixiangchugaohaomaixiafubi。genmeijianguomianzhedianhuagoutongjiaoliushi，shidudixiaobiaoqingchuanyiyiyangnengshilingyifangshenshougandong。zenmeyanggenrengoutongjiqiao？

xuduoqingkuangxia，ruguonidejianyiyulingyifangchanshengfenqishi，nihuoxutexiangqieduanta。keshibubineibanzuo，neibanzuohenweixian。dangtayouhenduohuajizheshuoqideqingkuangxia，taburongyilinide。yiner，nixuyaonaixinditingzhe，chengzhidijilitachongzudijiangchuzishendeguandian。

chengxiangweizhengshichaoyeshangxiadouqinpeideguanyuan。dangchaowenwushuangquanjiqinpeitadecaihuahengyi，youqinpeitadezhiyanjinjian，tayinermingzaochaoye。shubuzhilishiminquebuganxiangxin，zongzhaojiyujiechuanweizheng。youyici，weizhengjinjian，tangtaizongxunwendao：“weiaiqing，nishixianchenhuoshiliangchen？”

 yurengoutongdejiqiaoyounaxie？weizhengjiushenshendixiatoushuo：“laochenyixiangweiguochidanzhongxin，wanghoumianziranyehuixinqingongzuo，bugufuhuangshangsuotuo。dan，qingbixiabuyaobalaochenshizuoxianchen，jiuzuoweishiliangchenba！”

yinci，lishiminbianxunwendao：“xianchenyuliangchenyoushenmebuyiyangni？”

“dangrangeyoubutong。shuobaileliangchen，budanqizishenkeshoudajiakuazan，bingqiehaikeyiweijunwangchanshengmingjundelongyu。danxianchenbudanzishenhuizaodaozhumiedefeilaihenghuo，bingqiejunwangyehuishenshangbaonvewudaodezuixing，woguoyehuiwangguo，zuizhonghuoxuzhiliuyou‘yiqianyouyiweixianchen’dezhimingduguangweiliuchuanzisunhoudai。bunankanchu，liangchenyuxianchenrutongqiankunzhibieni！”

lishimintinghoushifenqinpei，yebeiganxingyun：xingkuizishenchengzhitiwen，yaoburandoubuqingchuweizhengshineimegangzhengbuadezhongchen！

weizhenghaowuyiwenshihaoyunde，youyutapengdaoleyiweixianmingde、shanyugoutongjiaoliudehuangshang。zairichangrichangshenghuo，dajiayeyingdangzuoyigexianmingqiangongderen，suirandajiabingbushihuangshang。lirujiarunicongyetuixiaochanpingongzuozhong，neimabeitarenhuijuebianshiwukebimiandele。xuduoqingkuangxia，lingyifanghuijuenibingbingbushiyouyubuyuanmainideshangpin，zhishiyouyuyuniyoumoshenggan，zheileiqingkuangxianiyejiuhenbixuxiangbanfa，yongyizhongjiaoweiqiangongdexintailaiqingchuyulingyifangdemoshenggan。

chenxianshengshiyijiashengtaishipinqiyedexiaoshouyuan。yitian，tahuoshiyiruwangchang，baluhuijingdezuoyong、xiaoyingqianglietuijianjiyiweishengshudejiatingfunv，lingyifangyiyangmeiyouxingquaihao。chenxianshengzishendunang：“jinriyouwannianjumiele。”dangchenxianshengzhengtiqianzhunbeixianglingyifanggaobieshi，huranjiandaoyangtaishangbaizheyipenpiaoliangdelanziselvsezhiwu。chenxianshengyinciqiujiaolingyifangshuo：“henpiaoliangdepenzaizhiwua！pingshihaoxiangfeichangshaokandao。”

“dequehenshaojian。zheileilvsezhiwujiaojiadeliya，guishuyulancaodeyizhong。tademei，qujueyuneileiyazhidefengyun。”jiatingzhufutanrandibiaoshudao。

“queshiruci。shifouhuipianguini？”chenxianshengranhouxunwendao。

“henjiageanggui。zheipenpenzaizhiwujiuxuyao800yuanni！”jiatingzhufuranhoushuo。

“naxie？800yuan？”chenxianshengyangzhuangchayidixunwendao。

chenxianshengneixinxiang：“luhuijingyeshi800yuan，dayueyouqidaijiaoyiliang。”yincijianjiandibahuatitaolunzhuandaoguanjian：“meiridouxuyaojiaoguanma？”

“shide，meiridouxuyaozixifuyang。”

“neima，zheipenzaihuahuiyesuanzuojialideyifenzilou？”

zheimingjiatingfunvganjuechenxianshengjianzhiyongxin，yincizhujianqingnangjiaojiquanbuyouguanlancaodedaxuewen，erchenxianshengyezhuanxinzhizhiditing。

guoleyihuier，chenxianshenghendangrandibaganggangneixinsuogandeshiermingquetichulai：“furen，ninneimexiailancao，yidingduilvsezhiwuhenyoukexueyanjiu。ninshiyigeyouyaderen，yucitongshininhaowuyiwenyelejielvsezhiwudailairenmendezhuduoyichu：wennuan、shenxinjiankangheyuyue。dajiadeshengtaishipinqiahaoshiconglvsezhiwulihuoqudejingcui，shidanchundelvseyoujishipin。furen，jinrijiuzuoweimaiyipenlancaobashengtaishipinmaixiaba！”

jieguolingyifangjingtongkuaididayingxialai。

 gaibizuoshengyidejiaoyiliangdaduoshushiyouyuchenxianshengxintaiqiangong，jimeiyoujiansuankebodeqianghan，doumeiyoudishengxiaqilingrenqiaobuqi。zheiyijieguochuhuyiliao，danbingbushizaiqingyuliyiwai。shishishang，ruguoniyouqiangongdexintai，nixuyaobandeshiertongchanghuifenghuiluzhuan，naizhizainimeishenmeguanniantiqianzhunbeidezhuangkuangxiaqudechenggong。

huanweisikaoyixia，shuodegengqiang。

henduorentongchangxiguanxingjiangzishendeniantou、jianyiqiangjiayujitaren，zongganjuezishendezuofa、jianyicaisuanshizuihaoshide。jinguanlizudianquanshishanxinde，shiweilegenghaodibangzhutarenchuliyixienanti，keshiquezishizhizhongmeiyoulizailingyifangdeguandianshangxiangguoneiyangshibushiheshi。yincizaiwomenhetarenshangtaoshiershi，buyinggaixianzishenmingqueguifanhejieguo，yingdanglizailingyifangdeguandianxixinxiangyixiang，lejielingyifangduishierdeguandianheyingdangzenyangjiejuekunnan，erbushilijijiangyifandaolilaiposhilingyifangjiena。

zaiyurenxiangchushi，lizailingyifangguandianshang，caikeyirangtarentingzheshuner，ganjueshushi。lizailingyifangguandianshang，jiejinsuonengfeijinxinsi，jiejinsuonengdishuo。zheiban，budannengshibierenkaixin，yekeyishizishenkaixin。

lizailingyifangdeguandiankaolvdaonanti，ninengfajue，nigentayongyougongtonghuati，tasuoxiangsuogan、suoxisuoe，douyuelaiyuenenggoulejie。henduorenbumingbaizenyanglizailingyifangguandianshangsisuohejianghua，tashizaochengxuduoshierzuoshibaideyidayuangu。

zenmeyanggenrengoutongjiqiao？lizaibierendeguandianshangjianghua，nengjibierenyizhongweitakaolvdejuede，zheileishunshuituizhoudefangfajubeihenqiangdeganranli。yaobaozhengzheiyidian，“zhibizhiji”shifenguanjian，weixianzhibi，erhoucainengconglingyifangguandianshangkaolvdaonanti。qudechenggongdeyurenxiangchu，yilaiyufajuelingyifangdezhenzhengbixu，erqiezaiwanchengzishenzongtimubiaodeyucitongshijilingyifangqiangdiaoyitiaoxingdetongdetujing。

mougaojingmijixiezongchangshengchanzhizaomouzhongxinpin，jiangqiyibufengoujianshouquanweituoyijiaxiaoxinggongchangshengchanzhizao。danggaixiaoxinggongchangjianglingjiandebanchengpinjiagongchengshizonggongsishi，meixiangdaoquanbufubenchangguiding。yinweikeburonghuan，zonggongsizerenrenzhinenglingqijinzaozaicishengchanzhizao，danxiaoxingjiagongchangzerenrenjuedetamenshichedianzonggongsideguigexinghaoshengchanzhizaode，buyuanzaizaicishengchanzhizao，biciduizhilehenjiu。

zonggongsichangzhangzaiwenmingqianyinhouguohou，bianduixiaoxingjiagongchangzerenrenshuo：“wojuedezheijianshiqingchedishiyinweiqiyecengmianshejifanganbuzhoudaoerzhi，bingqiehailingnichiyabakui，queshihenbaoqian。jinrixingkuidajiabangzhu，caishiwomenfajuejuranyouneiyangdequexian。jinjinshidaorujin，shieryizhiyaojinxingde，dajiahebujiangtashengchanzhizaodegengjizhiyidian，neiyangduibicibiciquanshiyouyichude。”zheiweixiaoxingjiagongchangzerenrentingwan，dafangdaying。

zenmeyanggenrengoutongjiqiao？huoxuninengshuo：“lizailingyifangdeguandianshanglaishuofeichangrongyi，jutiyaozuodeqingkuangxiaquenanyi。”meiyoucuo，lizailingyifangguandianlaijianghuadequebuyi，danquebingbushibutaikeneng。henduoyanjiangkoucaifeichanghaoderendounengbaozhengzheiyidian。youyuruobuzheiban，jiaotanqudechenggongdeqidaijiuhenyoukenengbuda。zhenzhenzhengzhenghuishuohuaderen，shanyuqinfendilizaibierendeshijiaolaigouxiang，erqielezaiqizhong。shubuzhi，tamenyebingbushiyikaishijiunengzuodefeichanghao，zhishicongyicicideshuodongquanguochengzhongxiaohuaxishougongzuojingyan、jingyanjiaoxun，chixusuzaozishenpeiyangzheileixiguanxing。yiner，zhiyaoniyuanyi，zheibingbingbushijianhendadenanti。

lizailingyifangdeguandianshangsisuohejianghua，jiejinsuonengdiweitarenkaolv，tongchangnengranglingyifangshifendadong。rujinyouyigehenshixingdejiaofashi“lijiewansui”，yigerenjiaodadetongchuzhiyibianshimeiyourenlejie，ruguowomennenglizaitadeguandianshangjianghua，neizhenduitaeryanshiyizhongfeichangdadexingfukuaile。

yurengoutongdejiqiaoyounaxie？meiguoqichelaodafuteqicheshuoguo：“jiarushuoqudechenggongyouqiaomendehua，neibianshilizailingyifangguandianshanglejiehedulisikao。”jiaruniyutarenjianyibuyizhile，ruguokeyilizailingyifangdeguandianshanglejiehedulisikao，nihuoxuhuichajuezijibudui。bingqiejiarunikenjijirencuo，bianhuishifenqixunsuhuodechuli，hainenghuodebierendexiai。