单纯的女生不会谈恋爱，是我情商太低吗？

zairujindeshehui，henduoxinggeneixiangderenbuhuitanlianai，shijishangdanchundenvshengbuhuitanlianai，neixiangxingzhixuxunzhaoshihedefangfazhuiqiuwanmeinvsheng，jiunengqudechenggongtanlianai。nvhaitaineixiangbuhuitanlianaizhangwoxiabianjigefangmianxiezhuxinggeneixiangderenzaiganqingzhongwanchengyigejiechudefanzhuan？

第一，心态调整，不必太不自信

shijishang，dajiadoulejiedabufenxinggeneixiangderendoushiyoubuzixinqinghuai。nvhaitaineixiangbuhuitanlianai，nixuyaozuodeshilikainidexiuchigan，ruguonishiyigeyongyoumingxianxiuchigandeneixiangxingnanhaier，niwubizaizhuiruqingwangyiqianxianchulinidexiuchigan。jiarunijuedenizaizheierhuoneibianbutaihao，erqieganjuexiangwozheiyangdenanhaier，huichuxianxihuanwoneiyangdenvshengma？chufeishitaiyangguangcongximianranranshengqi。jiaruniduizishenyouneiyangdeguandian，nizhongjiuhuizaiganqingzhongbuchenggong。meitianzaoshang，woxinglai，chuanshangyifu，duizhejingzishuo：woshizuizande，woshiduyiwuerde，wojuedebianchengyigekaixindezishen，shizhongduanliannidejijizhudongluojisiwei。suihou，duohetarengoutongjiaoliu，wulunshinandehuoshinvde，dangyurengoutongjiaoliudeqingkuangxia，sisuoyixia，suihouchanshenglianghaodexiguan。jiandandianlaishuo，jiaruneixiangxingdenanhaieryaoxiangzhuiruqingwang，diyibubianshisheqibuzixinqinghuai。

第二，确立自身的总体目标

shijishang，zhuiruqingwangrutongdajiadexuexipeixun。jinyouzaiwomenyouyigejidingmubiaoshi，dajiacaikeyizhuiqiuwanmeibingyoufazhanqushideshineikongjian。biru，jiaruniyaozaizheigexuenianzhongmeikekechengdejunzhichengjichaochu８０fen，zheijiushinidezongtimubiao，nizhuiqiuwanmeidezongtimubiao，jiqifazhanqushidefangwei。yiner，zhuiqiunvshengdoubuchuwai。yaowanchengzheiyizongtimubiao，niwubishezhiyigezongtimubiao。jinyoudangmubiaomingqueshi，nicaikeyixiangqiwogairuhequzhuiqiuwanmeita，bingzaochengyixiliedezhuiqiuwanmeiniantou。zheijiushinizhujianfazhanqushidefangfa。

第三，对视

ninengrangtalejieniduitayouyigehaodejuede，zongtimubiaoshiquelide，zaoyijuecele，niyinggaiyongnideshuangyanjingjingdibiaoshunideqinggan，meiriguanxinta，nimeiyingdangxiangqiezeiyiyangqiaoqiaokanjianta，niyinggairangtalejienishibushixiaita。jiaruniqiaoqiaodingzhuta，nvshengbutaikenengjuededaonidegerenxingweishidichenerqingjingde。tadanxintaxiangyaozuodeshier，juedenihencaogao。tayingdangjinkenengbufashengzainisuoshudediqu。zuichu，nishizaidengtaxiangnibiaodaaiyi。shijianbeinixiaohaole，danzuihouhuodedejinjinyipiankongbaideniantou。yiner，jiarunixiaita，niwubirangtalejie，rangnideshuangyangaozhitanixiaita。jinyouneiyangnicaikeyibuduanjinbu。

四、多留意另一方

jiarunimeiyicidoujingjingdikanjianta，jiarutayejingjingdikanni，jiufangfotamenzaixianghuzhijianduiwang。zheishuomingtazhujianzhuyidaoniyeduiniyouganjue，suihouninengzaicixiayibu。yaoshimeiyou，neimanimeiyourangtalejienixiaitahuoshijihuidouhaimeilailin。zheishihou，niwubizuoyixiegongzuozhong。

五、找借口积极贴近

jiaruninengmingquetaduiniyouyidingdefanying，neimaniyinggaichangshitiejinta。jilao，cike，niyinggaikaijiangpitu，fengliutitang，xiangshandongtaishanyiyangxiangtazouqu。nimeiyingdangxianghuanlebingzhongyiyangxiangtazouqu，meijingdacai，chanruofali。yibandenvshengtaoyanxiuse、minganduoyi、xingzouxiangfengyiyang、suishisuididouhenyoukenengbeiguadaodenanhaier。fanguolai，taxiaixiangshandongtaishanyiyangyazhi、jinglichongpei、yingyong、anquanxingdenanhaier。yiner，nvshengtiaoxuannanyouyezaiyunishibushixiangshandongtaishan，yiyangpingwenkaopu，yinciniwubidandaditiejinta，yingduita。jiarunidebiaomianbingbushineimachuse，tahuibeinideqichang、nidefengcai、nidesatuoyunidefengfansuoxiyinzhu。

六、积极关注另一方

 meiyigerendouyouyuyixieshiereryoushang、tongchuhekunao。jiaruyouxierenjijikuanweiheguanzhuta，tahuiganjuenizhendehenhao。dangtayoushanghuomishishi，weiyounizuizhangwotazishendexin。shijianyizhang，dangtaxiangqimeiyiciyoushanghuoshiluodeshihou，niyizhineiyigekuanweita、guanzhutaderen。shijianyizhangnijiuyaotazaochengguishugan，bingxiwangnibianchengtadenanyou。

七、横着表述这份爱

ruguonikaiduozhishangjigeshi，danchundenvshengbuhuitanlianai，neimaninenggentashuo，“shiwomenzaiyiqiba。woyijingdaomeiyounijiumeifayongbaozirandechengdu，xiangnianzhanyoulewodequanbuneixin。”zaizheigeshihou，wojianxintahuihenkaixinditongyini“ng”，youyutayeyuniyouyiyangdejuede。neiyang，niyejiunenggouzaizhuiqiuwanmeidaoniaideren，niyebuhuizaishiyigelianaixinshoule。