分手后选择消失的一方，快速教你如何前任顺利复合！

 nanrenfenshouweihebushanweixin？fenshouweihenandehaijiedianhua？zheixiedouweinitigonglewanhuidejihui，danshibunengbaozhengtahaiaini，jiuxiangfenshouhouxuanzexiaoshideyifangyebuyidingshitaoyanni。jianxinyitidao“jiaruheimingdan”“shandiao”“wanhui”zheizhongguanjianzi，dahuoerdiyifanyingbianshi：qianrengenwo“duanlian”，qianrenyiqingbielianle，qianrenyijianshilengmole，duibudui?shijishang，genwanhuiyouguandejibenyuanli、fangshi，dajiazaoyitinglexuduole，tingdeqingkuangxiaganjuezishenrenhedongxidoudong，danjutizuoqilai，genqianrenquemeiyoubandianerjindu。keniqueshilejie，fenshouhouqianrentiaoxuan“jiaruheimingdan、duanlian”，zheishenhoudeshencengcihanyima?

 yejiushishuo，zheilibian“duan”deshisha？tijide“lian”youdaibiaoshenmeyisini？jihaola：“duan”dejiushinigenqianrenyiqianweichihaodeqinglvguanlian；“lian”deshiyiwangnimenliangyitongjingliguodemeihaojiyi。jianyanzhi，“duanlian”bianshishiniduanqineinei，genlingyifangbaochijuli，duankaiyiqieqingganguanlian，rangshijianququanyubicizhijiandetongchu，dengliangrenpingjingxialai，genjuyiqiannanwangdehuiyi，huoshinibenshenchanshengdegenggai，zaicixiufulianluo。niyehaowuyiwenchangchangtingjianyizhongjiaofa：“xiangwanhui，jiuyidingdexianduanlian，shihouzaiquxiufuganqing”。shishishang，zheihaiyaofenbuyiyangdefenshouqingkuang！

➊、挽回一般的分手情况：分辨前任分手情况。

➀:qianrenmingbaizhegennishuo“qingbielaizhaowoliao，wojuedejingyijing”。

 zheibiaomingdajiazhongjiandenanti，shijishangzaoyihenyanzhongle，yishibanhuiyenanyijiejue。neimelaoshiyebutiyinizaiquzhiqian，jiuchanbuqingle，zhishi“xianfazhirenyouxi”，jijigenqianrenduanlian。shayisini?

 ruguonibiaoshuyitong，qianrenxianzhebukaixinle，jianmole，nizuihaoxianqianrenyibumingquetichuduanlianyaoqiu。neiyangzuo，jinenggourangqianrenganshoudaonidezhongshi，yourangnikongchuleshijian，sikaoyixiadajiazhongjianjiujingchuleshenmewenti，rangtatilefenshou?

 jugeshili，gangfenshou，niyizhijiuchanbuqingqianren，jieguoshucibeijujue。neinijiunenggouxiangyixia，qianrenrujindexinlizhuangtaizhuanbian：

①：zhijiedejingshiqingbiedajiaota，biaomingtaduinihuoshihendichu，bixujingyijing。

②：niquyueqianren，talisuodangrandexiangyou，keyitidaoqingganjiubulini。

 wulunnayizhongqingkuang，doubiaomingniyiqianjiuchanbuqingdegerenxingwei，zaoyirangtaganjuenihenbianyile，meiyouyaoxiangfuhexingdechongdong。jiaruzaizheilierzhongqingkuangxia，nijijimingquetichuleduanliandeyaoqiu，qianrenfandaohuiduini“yichangdegerenxingwei”zhuomobutou，zaiciguanxinni。

jiranjijiduanlianyoushijixiaoguo，gaizenmexiangqianrentizheiyi“duanlian”yaoqiuni？

你能那样说:

 “jinqibicizhijianchanshengdeshiguoduo，worenweiyuqishuoxianrujiangju，bibushangxianlizhiyiduanshijian，zhaozhaofenshoudeyuangu。jinqiyinweiwozaisikao，shifouwoyiqianaidetailisuodangran，hushilenidetihui?shifouwotaijiaoaoziman，wangjileganqinghaiyaoyunying?shijishangnigengbixuwodelejieheshouhouduima?womingbairujinshuozheizhongyouyixiewanle，wulunjieguozenyang，ganxienijiaohuiwoxiangzhenxi。”

 shijishangnidemeiyijuhua，quanshizaigenqianrentonglixin，qianrentingjianhoujiufeichangrongyigandong，jiusuanshizaiduanlianqinei，tanaoziliyehuiyizhizaixiangqinggandeshi。

➁：qianrennaxiedoubujiang，danfangjiangnilaheishanchule。

 zheibiaomingqianrenduinideyinxiangzaoyihenchale，yebuhuizaiduiqingganbaoyouxiwangle。jiaruzheishihou，nizaicijiuchanbuqing，dabufenjiumeiyoufuhexingdehenyoukenengle，nilei，yejinjinzaibaqingganwangsilushangbi，gaoqingchuma?

 danjiarunizhongshiqianrendejuece，meiqujiuchanbuqing，yunyonghaozheiyiduankongdang，yingyongyixiefangfa，fandaohuirangqianrendongxin，youkenenghuilijijiahuilainidelianxidianhua。

suiranbeiqianrenjiaruheimingdandenihenchuyubeidong，danzaiwanhuishi，nidejiagoua，zishia，haidelashengyidian。

 laoshijiaoniyigefangshi，jiaruheimingdanhou，ninengzaifenshouhoudeyizhouhuoshilianggexingqideshijianli，huanyigetongxunfangshi，fatiaojianxunjita，yidingyaoneiyangshuo：

 diyiju：“shibushiniyibuxiaoxinjiangwolajinxinyongheimingdanle”，jiagewugudebiaoqing，suihouwuluntahuibuhuini，nidouqianwanbiefaguo，denggebanxiaoshishangxia，zuoxiezishendeshiqing。

 dierju：“wojuedetongle，henyoukenengjiushiwoyiqianganlenaxiechunshi，shininanguole，baoqian，neizuobuleqinglv，zuopengyoushijishangyemanhaode”，zaizaijiashangmingzhidexiaobiaoqing。

 jilao，xiangshuodehua，yaoyijuyijudeshuo，xinxiyaoyitiaoyitiaodefa，jiqianrenshezhiyige“niyizhizaisikao，hengaoduzhongshizheiyiduanqinggan”dejuede。budannengrangnizhengdedianhaoyinxiang，niyongzhenxinshiyiyouqianxundeyudiaoa，hainengjifaqianrenhuiyingnidechongdong。

 ruguonizhenzhenzhengzhengkangaoqingchu，laoshiganggangshuodezheizhongqingkuanghefulianguanjiandian，neimeyingduiyixieyibande“duanlian”deqingkuangjiuchongzule。

➋、挽回独特的分手情况：分辨前任性情生长习性。

 danzaijutirichangshenghuoni，fenshoudeqingkuang、qianrendexintaibutaihaobakong，keyishuo，yiqianduiqinglvfenshou，jiuyouyiqianbaizhongnanti。shishishang，quanbudefenshouqingkuang，yequanshiyouguanlianxingkexun。

conglaoshihenduoniandegongzuojingyankanlaia，dagainenggoubafenshouzhongleifencheng2zhong：

“lengmoxing”&“duilixing”

➀:冷漠型分手

 fenshouhou，nijiqianrentongdianhua，talijiguadiao;nijitafaxinxi，tahuiyingdeneirongyehenlengmo，dabufenbianshiniwenyiju，tadayiju，henfuyanleshidejuede。

 neimeyouxierenhuijiangle，qianrenneimelengmo，shifoumeiyoufuliandehenyoukenengleni?shijishanga，tiandimeiyoushenmeganqingguanlianshiwanhuibushangde。

jiejuefangan：weichiyigepingjingdexinlizhuangtai

①：bubisheqiulingyifangjininhaodehuifu。

②：yaoshizhegenqianrentongbuganqingqingkuang。

 jianyanzhi，jishiqianrenhenzhangqicaihuiyingni，jiedaoxinxineironghou，niyeyaoshidulengyixiata，qianwanbuyaomiaohui。zhidaoqianrenduinidexintaizhuanhaole，neinijiunenggoujiqingdianduita。zongeryanzhia，yaozishizhizhonggenqianrentongbuxintai，jiangditadetifangxin。

 liru，zailianluoyiqian，genjuweixinpengyouquandeyixiemaixiafubi，zhanxiannijijizhudongrichangshenghuodedongtaixing，shijianzhangle，qianrenjianjiandidejiuburongyineimedangxinnini，zheishihoua，womenzaiyunyongyixieqianrenyouxingqudehuatitaolun，dakaixianliaofandaofeichangrongyi。

➁：对立型分手

 lengmoxingdezengqiangban，jianyanzhibianshi，nigenqianrenduanlian、fulianhenshucile，kezuizhongdejieguo，huoshibubeitaxihuan，naizhihaiweixieyaojiaruheimingdanni。neimeqianrenyouneiyangdefanyinga，jiudouguishuyuduilizhonglei。

jiejuefangan：ziwofansheng+“fulianduanxiaoxi”

zaifuliandequanguochengzhonga，ninengziwofanshengyixia：

①：qianrendichunideyuangujiujingshishenme？

②：niyoumeiyoulijidequgaizheng？

③：duanlianzheiduanshijianli，niyoumeiyoutigaohegenggai？

 shishishang，qianrenyanjuannidezuizhijieyuanyin，bianshinimeiyougaoduzhongshiyiwangdenanti，gaoqingchuma?yincia，weiyounixianxunzhaofenshouyuangu，zaigenjuqiadangdefangshi，quxiaochuzhiqianrenneixindefumianxinxiyinxiang，caikeyiyoushijixiaoguo。

neimelaoshijidefangshibianshi：“fulianxiaoxi”!

 jianyishuoya，bianshiyiduan100zishangxiadezisu。ninenglunshuyiwangqingganbuchenggongdeyuangu，haikeyibiaoshuzishendeqianjiu，naizhihainenggouzhanxianxiazishenrujindegenggaihetihuixinde。

xiamiana，nayigeqiadangde“fulianduanxiaoxi”weilizi，jutipouxiyixia：

案例：

 “jinqiwokaolvdaolexuduo，yuanlainiyiqianjilewozheimeduojiyu，wohaimeihaohaozhenxi。fanershifenshouhou，.wogaoqingchu，zhiqianshiwobugouhao，zaizheierwogennizhiqian。dajiajinglilezheimeduo，rujinyinweiwogaoqingchuguolaile，zhongshibicizhijiandeyixiangshiduomedeguanjian，yiwangdejiuchanbuqingzhirangnituzengfannao，yagennanyijiejuenanti，yinciwoyuanzuochugenggai，buzaidaraoni，qidaidajiadounengpingjingxialai，zhihouhaiyoujihuizuoxialaihaohaodiliaoyiliao，yiqijiejuekunnan，nikankankeyima?”

剖析：

 1.duanxindekaitou，shijishangshixiangaohaomaixiafubide。jigenqianrenbiaoshufenshouhoubulianxidezheiduanshijianlia，niyizhidouzaisikaofenshoudeshi，youjiqianrenliuyouyigenihengaoduzhongshiqinggandeyinxiang。

 2.duanxiaoxiyongle“xianyihouyang”debiaodaxingshi，haowuyiwenqianrendegongxian，lingwaini，haijijirenkelezishendebuzhengque，bingyincizhiqian，tuxianlechengxin。

 3.zailiaoshuozishenduiqinggandeguandian，mingquetichuyixiezishendejiejuefangan，rutongcizulishuodeneiban：zuoxialaihaohaodilizhideliaoyiliao，jiejuekunnanhaome？xuehaoyongfanwendaodeyudiao，bagoutongjiaoliu，yaoqingdenantipaojiqianren，tajiunanyihuijuele。

 nikankan，faneiyangdeyitiaoduanxiaoxi，luojixingqingxi，helibujumingxi，qianrenjiandaohoua，jiunanyizaiduini“sayno”le。

➌、挽回异常的分手情况：自身调节，防止做备用胎。

shuobaile“yichang”defenshouqingkuang：

➀:fenshouhou，nijinbuzhulianluoqianren，jijijiqianrenfaxinxi：“yaobunijiangwoshandiaoba!”

➁：fenshouhou，dajiayouyifangmingquetichuzuohuitongxueguanxi。

 benlaifenshouhou，niyuqianrenyinggaishiduanlian，bulianxide，danhurandajiadeguanlianyongyoufanzhuan，neizheigeshihou，jiarujiejuebutaihaodajiazhongjiandeguanlian，nizuihoudoushihuilunluoyigejieju：qianrendebeiyongtai！

neimeweilegenghaodifangzhibianchengbeiyongtai，niyejiuyouerzhongtiaoxuan：

 ①：jiaruniduitameiyouganqingle，neimegankuailikai；huanjuhuashuo，nijinguanyouqinggan，danlejiedaobukeyizaizaicijiuchanbuqingxialai，neimeyingzhetoupibizishenwanquanlejiezuihaoshi。

②：niyaoxiaita，wangbudiaota，rengranyaoxiangzaiyiqi。zheigeshihou，yidingyaolijifanzhuanlianggerenzhongjiandeguanlian。

 xianjieduannimendeqingkuanghenxianzhe，xiangfuhexingdenichuzaidiwei，diaozhunideneiyigetajiuchuzaishangwei。jiarugaoaiweideshizhiguanlian，bufashenggaibian，neimenizishizhizhongdoushihuibeitadaizhezou，chulexiajuexinliqu。

jiarushuoniyaofanzhuanrujindeguanlian：

diyibu：bixutishengzijideyouhuoli，rangtazhuyidaoni。

 liru，gongzuofangmiandezaojiu、sixiangguanniandetisheng、fengcaishangdejianli。baozhengsuiyiyidian，nideyingxianglidangranjiushenggaole，dajiazhongjianyejiujunhengle。

dierbu：tigaonide“bukedexing”，rangtameiyouhuijuedeyuanyin。

 ruguonizhishendiwei，taduinihulaixunchishi，taburongyizhenxi，dadaolifeichangjiandan，feichangrongyihuodededouburongyibeiaixi，yincicaishinishidangtishengbukedexing。

 liru，tazaiyuenibangzhu，huoshiwuqushiyuenidafashijian，niyejiubuyaozaiyanzhetale，changchangliangzheta，fandaonengrangqianrenjuedenanshou，fanguodulaixunwennideqingkuang，jinerzuodaofanzhuanbuwei。

 wulunfenshouhou，dajiashifouyoujiaruheimingdan、shandiao、duanlian，yewulundajiaxianzaishipenyouhuoshiluren，douguishuyurenjijiaowangdefanwei。

 shizhishang，quanshishiyongjiazhihuhuandejieguo，yinciniyaowanhui，xianggenqianrenxiufulianluo，jianyanzhi，huoshiyaoyunyongganggangshuodaodefangshi，rangqianrenganjueninyoushiyongjiazhi，gennixiufulianluonaizhifuhexingtazhuanle。

 zhongjiu，fenshoule，qianrenlinshibawozhudaoquan，xiangbuxiangfuhexingdingduodeshita，danzhengqueyindaoqianrenjiandaonidegenggai，rangqianrenganxinqingyuandebianhualengdandexintai，duinizaicijiqing，zheiyijuecequanquezainizijishouli。fenshoubingbukongbu，yongduifangshiwanhuishijishangbingbuhuitainan！fenshouhouxuanzexiaoshideyifangwangwangbushiaidezuishen，jiushishangdezuishen。nanrenfenshouweihebushanweixinyeyoukenengxiangjixuguanzhunideshenghuo。fenshouweihenandehaijiedianhuayeyoukenengdanxinniyoujishi，suoyidadanquwanhuiba！