分手后千万别主动联系，最后只能徒劳无功

 guniang，niyiweiyizhibuduandeku，tajiuhuiyouyunideyanleihuijiama？niyiweiniyizhikukuwanliu，tajiuhuihehaoruchuhuidaonishenbianma？niyiweiniyizhibuduandefaxinxi、tongdianhua，tajiuhuixiangdaozhiqiandechengnuo，zaicihuidaonishenbianma？fenshouhouqianwanbiezhudonglianxi？congnanrenfenshou20tianxinlifenxichu，shidangshuoxiefenshouhoufuhegandongdeqinghuanengrangtamenhuiyicengjing。

 wushuqiheideyewanzaoyijueqingdegaozhilenihuida：burongyide。nihuoshizhiyouyigeren，nidequanbuwanliufangfazaitayanzhongjinjinnidemanbujiangli，tazaoyiyanjuan，burongyizaiguanzhenini。shijishangtanbaishuo，nijiaruqueshiwangbudiaota，niwubizishenxianrenqingdajiadeganqingfashengleshenmewenti，jiaruwentibuda，neimebuyaoqinei，meiyoujingliguofengchuiyudadeganqingburongyinanyiwanghuai。

最先，不可以苦了自身

 bujiufenleshouma，meiyoushenmelebuqide，nanrenquanshidazhutizi，bubiweilegenghaodiyigenanrentongkuzishen，neiyangbuzhi，xuduoqingkuangxianiyuebananrendangyihuishi，tajiuyueburongyiaixi，youyutahuodeniduitadehaotaifeichangrongyi，feichangrongyidaobuhaoyisiyihaodeqili，xiangrangnanrenzaiduduinilingyanxiangkan，jiububiduitataihao，zheishijiebujinyoutayigenanren。

次之，寻找提出分手难题才算是重要

 jiranfenshoujiuhaowuyiwenyoufenshoudeyuanyin，erqiejinyouzhidaofenshouyuanyinle，caikeyiduizhengzhiliao，ernanrenhenvrenyibandefenshouyuanyin：diyizhongbianshiyifangduilingyifangmeiyouganjue；dierzhongmeiyougangzaiyiqideqingkuangxiayoureqing；jiarupengdaozheileizhuangkuangsipilailianshibukequde，zaiyiduanganqingzhong，nanhaizixiangduilaishuoshijiaoweizhanshangfengde，erzheishihounizhiyouyuqinguzong，zaicishengchanzhizaoliangdianxiyinzhunanrendeyanguang。

最终，给彼此学会思考的时间和空间

 youxierenjiuhuishuojiaruzaizheiduanshijiantazhaolexinhuangaizenmeban？woyexiang，jiarunidisanxiasidequqiqiu，zongshirangzishendezhenshishenfenjiangjia，shitagengweiyanfanni。niyaonenghuodenaxie？fuhexing？chaoxiao。nanrenrutongyizhigangxuehaofeideniaoeryiyang，kewangziyou，keshiyouxiangjiale。yaoxiangwanliunanren，nideyanlei、congming、shanjierenyiquanshimeiyouyong。