外遇：当婚姻出现裂痕时，我们如何面对？

 youwaiyuzenmeban？chuguilehebianxinzenmeban？quanshiyige“kunjing”，danzheidaibiaozhecunyoufengxiandelingwai，yeyunhanjiyu，youhenduoyiqinuliduguozheiyidekunjingdefufu，zuihoudedaolebiguoqugengxingfukuailedeaiqingguanlian。neijiaruchuxianlezheiyidahuoeryebuqidaijiandaodewaiyunanti，gaijiarujiejuehaozheiyikunjingni?

1.抚慰心态，尽可能不必牵扯进彼此亲人和小孩。

 chuguilehebianxinzenmeban？chuxianzheigewenti，shoushangyifangxintaihuihenyoufeichangdazhuanbian，jianghuihuibaofachuyixiejiduanhuadegerenxingwei，zheiyihuanjieyibankechixuxing2-wutian，zheiyihuanjieshoushangyifangmeifalixing、qingchudidulisikao，weifangzhizuochulingrenhouhuimojidejuece，yaojinkenengrangshoushangyifangchongzuxuanxiezishendexintai，fangzhishencengcitaolunnantidejiejue。

 lingwaizheiyihuanjieshoushangyifangyibianzhengshizishendekelian，feichangrongyilongluoqinren、xiaohaixingtongyizhanxian，zheihuirangzhonghouqinantinanyijiejue。yifangmianxiaohaidexintaizhuangtaifeichangrongyichuxiannanti，youyuxiaohaihaimeifalizaikeguandeshijiaoqulejienanti，feichangrongyichanshengxintaichuangshang;lingyifangmianqinrendeganyu，huitigaowaiyufangdefuzuiganheqingchunqipanni，bulizhonghouqigoutongjiaoliuhexinxingweimoshidechuangshe，zengjialenantijiejuedenanduxishu。

2.彼此沟通交流，确立另一方心态。

 zhenduiwaiyudeyifang，zuixianyaomashangzhongzhichugui，cizhishibiaoshuduilingyifangdesunhaideneijiuhehuihen。zheiyidianshizuijichude，yehenzhongyao。dangganshoudaowaiyudeyifanglejielaidaozishendebuzhengque，beiwaiyudeyifangyinwaiyuchanshengdewaishanghuigangkaishiquanyu。

 waiyudeyifangjiaruxiangkeshouzhuzheiyiduanqinggan，neimazaiyiduanshijianli，tayaobianchengganqingjiexiandebaoweizhe。taduizheijianshiqingdekaolv，bujinranglingyifangyibukunhuo，yeyaorangtawuxumeiridouxiangdaolianrenwaiyudeshi，neiyangcaikeyicongshizhishangzaicichuangjianqibicidexinlai。

 danzhenduizaoshoupanbiandeyifangeryan，zaicichuangjianzizunxinshishifenguanjiande。yaorangzishenzhishenhemuanquanxingdeziranhuanjingzhong，heshenbiandepengyoudaizaiyiqibaomingcanjiayixiezishenxiaidezhutihuodong，neiyangcaikeyizaicizhaodaokuaile，zhaodaorenshengdeyiyiheduizishendeguishugan。gengguanjiandeyidianshi，kongzhizhuzishenkekuzuanyanzheixiebukanrumuguanjiandiandeqiuzhiyu：dajianeishihoulaidaona?ganlenaxie?duojiuyici?zheizhongnantizongshidenichanshengdaliangdetongchu，jiniqinshinanan。

 duibiyuzheizhonghuirangzishentongchudenanti，shijishangbibushangwenyiwenzheizhonggengnengduidajiadeguanlianyouyidingdexiezhudenanti：ciciwaiyuduinieryandaibiaozhenaxie?youshenmeshijiushinihetazaiyiqideqingkuangxiaxiangyaoshuo，xiangyaozuode，quebukenzaigenwoyiqijinxingde?ruguonifanhuijiashishenmeqingxu?zainiyanliwomendeguanxizenyang?jiushizheiyanggaoyiduanluoninenggaoxingma?

3.接纳心态辅导，复建新的家中行为模式。

 zaibicidachengyizhidexintaiyihou，jiukeyitiaoxuanjienajishuzhuanyexintaifudao，xintaifudaonenggouzhengqueyindaotamenlejiedaoxianjieduancunzaidebuzu，xiezhutamenchuangjianhelideheshibicidejiazhongxingweimoshi。

 xintaifudaonenggoujuyouheliyinzhengdegongxiao，youyuzixunguwenzuoweiyigedandudegeren，xiezhuzixunzheduguoyiduankunjing，baituoyiduanjiongjing，duizixunzheeryanyouyizhonghenchonggaodejuede，zixunzhezaizixunguwenchudadaodexintaiqiyueyegengxiangyaozhixing。erzhenduixintaiyinyingdejiejue，yejinyouzixunguwendeyinzheng，zixunzhecaikeyifeichanghaodiyuyiwangdaobie，caikeyigengtanrandiqingzhuangqianxing。

 youwaiyuzenmeban？hunyinshenghuodebeipanzheshiyigeren，danshiniangzhizhequeshiliangren。zheiyibeizihenzhang，sheimeizoucuoguole，yaoshinengyoucuojiugaijiufeichangzhidekuanrong，zheiyibeizihenduan，gaiaixideaixi，gaisheqidesheqi，hebiyibianyigebuzhengqueercuihuizishenyibeizidekaixinni!