我无法原谅出轨的妻子怎么办？

nvrenchuguihoudebiaoxianyounaxie？zuoweiyimingzhengqilinrandexiaonanzihan，meixiangdaotangtangqichizhiqu，dajiadoutexiangyouyifanzuowei。gongzuoshanghuodedefazhanqushi，yingzaoleyigemeimanxingfudejiazhong，jiaoyu chuyiweichusedeernv，zheizhongdounenggoushiwomenganshoudaowuqiongdemanzugan。shubuzhi，womenzaiyingduishehuifazhanzheiyijingjichangshang，zheiban......

zuoweiyimingzhengqilinrandexiaonanzihan，meixiangdaotangtangqichizhiqu，dajiadoutexiangyouyifanzuowei。gongzuoshanghuodedefazhanqushi，yingzaoleyigemeimanxingfudejiazhong，jiaoyu chuyiweichusedeernv，zheizhongdounenggoushiwomenganshoudaowuqiongdemanzugan。shubuzhi，womenzaiyingduishehuifazhanzheiyijingjichangshang，zheibanshenxianshizu，youdeqingkuangxiaquejianghuizaoshouhouyuanqihuo。

zhenduiqiziwaiyu，yinweidajiashouzhecongguzhijinjiusixiangdeweihai，juedehendiumianzi，naizhiganjuezhenshishiyizhongwuru，dezuilezizun，yizhiyudajiananyishihuailaopo。zheishinisuozuodejuece，shiguannidefazhanqushi、jiazhongyeyouernv。

一、静下心，看一下难题出在哪儿。

fufudeqinggan，shiyouliangrenxianghuyunying。jiranxifuchuguile，neimadajiajiubukeyibafuqiganqinggeduankaikanlai。zuixian，womenyaoqueliyidian，bulunshinanshenghuanshichuguinvren，zheizaiqizhonghuichuxianyixiemeiyourongqiahaodeyaosu。neimadajiajiuxuxianzhaoyizhao，shizenmehuishizaochengqizichugui?nantichuzainaer?shinameiyourongqiahao?huiwangyixiaqianyiduanshijiandefuqixingshenghuo，shichangchangzhengchao?huanshiyouyugongzuozhonghushiletadetihui?shilaidaoqinianzhiyang?huanshijinqidenannvguanxibutaihemuzheixie，zhuduodeyuangubixudajiazuozhuyidepouxi。kenengzaigenjuyiduanshijiandesisuoyihouyongyoujieguo，zhenduibuyiyangyouyindewaiyu，chulidefangshi dangranyebuyiyang。

jiaruyingongzuozhonghushilelaopo，neimaninengduopeibanta，nvxingduilengdandechengshoushihendide;jiarudajiachangchangzhengchao，neimaxuehuifangxiayiyi，buxiangganbiaozhundenantinenggourenrangliangbu。jiarulaidaoqinianzhiyang，zenenggouyijutadeaihaoshengchanzhizaoyixielanmandeyuansu。ruguoshinannvguanxibutaihemu，neimanenggouhuanyixiexinxiandeziranhuanjing。zongeryanzhipengdaoxifuchugui，xianbiezhejishuoliyi，yixieyuanguchedibianshimouleiyaosuzhishiweirongqiajishibale。yinciduizhengzhiliaoshijiejuekunnandezhongyao。

二、人和人之间不一样，慧眼识才是重要的阶段之一。

yixiezhuangkuangxiaqiziwaiyu，tamenhuitianmankuijiu，juedezishenbaoqianlaogong。danrenherenzhijianfazhanziranhuanjingbuyiyang，yaoqiubianbuyiyang，kanqingyigerendeshizhicaikeyihuodegengmeimanhunyin。zhenduixialiejilei，dajialiyingjinshentiaoxuan：

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1、tanliannanse。zheishijieshangbujinshinanrenxihuanrongmaodenvren，yiyangnvxingyehuiduirongmaojunxiudexiaohuozaochengzhiaizhiqing。yibanzhuangkuangxiadaojiehunhoudoushijinjinshangxibale，danbuqingchuyouxinlibutaichengshuderen，zaichongdongdeposhixiahuichuxianshentilixing。

2、buganjimo。dajiameiyigerendoushiyouzishengerenaihao，zaikeyushijianyehenyuanyiquzuohenganxingqudeshier，jinerdedaoxinlidefengfu。shubuzhizheishijieshangyedouhuiyouyixierenhunhunee，banshisanfenzhongdeguanzhudu，haochilanzuo，duirenshengdaolumeishenmezhuiqiuwanmei。yincizheigeshihoujiufeichangrongyixunzhaocijixingyimibuneixinkongxu，yuyixingjiaowangzhenmi。

3、baijinzhuyi。xianrujinzheiyishehuifazhanqiancaidenengliangjianzhiguoduqiangjingle。“youqiannengshiguituimo”bianchengxianrujinweiyidexinyang，wulunbenrenshibushixinshan，yaoshizijinbugoubianzaishehuifazhanjubuweijian。zaineiyangdeqingkuangxia，renxingdeyoudianchongfenfahuidehanchanglinli。yibiankaolvbenshengaohuaxuewuzhideyaoqiu，kaolvaimuxurong，jiarulaogongmeifagonghuodaliangdezichan，xiangduidehunlianwentibianhuizaocheng。xianrujindehunyinshenghuoshiyijingjifazhanweigenjizaishangmiandajiande，yinciyidanhuijichuxiannanti，zehunyinshenghuonanyichucun。

4、bubianshifei。youyixierenshizaibabamamadejiaoguanzhizhongzhangdalede，zaizheileishenghuohuanjingxia，tamenzaoyichanshengleyiziwoweizhongxindemingxianxingqing，zheigeshihoujiaruyongkeguanrangqibianbieshifeishiyijianjibenshangbutaikenengjinxingdeshier。zheizhongrentongchangmeishenmeqiadangdejiazhiguannian，yiqiejuedezishenbianshiduide，yinciwaiyuyetongchangburongyiziwofansi，meishenmeyanegan，fandaohuijuedezheiyiquanshijiequanbuderendoubaoqianta。daozhizairichangshenghuozhizhongnanyiyougongtonghuati，yaoshiyijutanbulong，bianfashengzhengzhi，zhangciyiwangdaozhiwaiyu。

5、danchunxingdenandiyinyou。“nanhaierqiongyang，nvshengfuyang!”zheihuazaoyibianchengzhongsuozhouzhidejingdianmingyan。zhenduiershirichangshenghuojingkuangbudahaodexiaohaieryan，zaizhangdayihouhaowuyiwenhuiduitongniankaizhanpeichang。zheigeshihoutamenbianhendanchunxingdetingxintaren，youweiqinshenjinglichenshidemolian，dangtarenquchuyidiandianyinyoubianhuimeifazidonghuakongzhi，jineryinqiyibuyibumaixiangwuruqitu，weihaifuqiguanxi。

zhenduixiangzhishangjileihuanshiyaojinshentiaoxuande。youyurendebenxingshiyouquediande，chongdongyeshiqiuhenantiande，fufujiazhiguandebuyizhi，tongchangzaigerenxingweishangshibenmodaozhide。chuziyufangfanyishidebiaozhun，dajiayingbaochilixing。

三、聆听自身内心深处。

nvrenchuguihoudebiaoxianyounaxie？dajiaaiyigeren，jiuhenbunenghuibazijidequanbudoushijita。dandajiazaodaodaoqiziwaiyuhou，nanyibimiandehuiyinqifuqijiandeyulunyali。nisuozuodeyiqie，nidelaopoburongyitihuibushang，tayidinghuijizhuniduitadehao。zaidajiapouxichulingyifangwaiyudeyuanguhou，nishibushihaineimadeqinaoni?shijishangyixienantibuhuitainanfajue，xuduo zhuangkuangxiashilaopodeyishihulihutu。nvxing，shiyigelixingderenqun，feichangshaokeyizhuyaobiaoxiandebinanshenggengweikeguan。tamenzhongshijuede，xiailanman，xiaigediao。yincizaikeguandeaibutaijianxiaodeqingkuangxia，qingshizheyixiashengchanzhizaoaideqifen，zaibeizheileiqifenbaonangdenvshi，huishishikekedeganshoudaonidewennuan。danshi，jiarulaopoqueshishanglenideai，chuangjinlexintaizhuangtaideleiqu，juedenanyishihuai，neimazaihengliangduozhongyaosuyihou，zuncongneixindezhaohuan，keguandezuochunidejueceba。