怎样看清出轨变心的人？

 nvrenchuguigaizenmeban：jinxietianzaiwangluoshangyouyigexiaoshipin，lingrenhenshitongxin。jiemianshangyiweiwaimaiyuanzaimalubianshishengtongku，haigesanchawuyongtouquzhuangmalubiandetiezhalan。nvrenbianxinguolurenjingxiangyilv，jiujingshishenmeshierrangxiaoxiaonianjidexiaohuozineimetongkuyujue?zaidahuoerdeyizaibiwenxia。

近些天在网络上有一个小视频，令人很是痛心。界面上一位外卖员在马路边失声痛哭，还隔三差五用头去撞马路边的铁栅栏。过路人竞相疑虑，究竟是什么事儿让小小年纪的小伙子那么痛苦欲绝?

zaidahuoerdeyizaibiwenxia，xiaohuozizongsuankenjiangchuzhenshiqingkuang。

 yuanxian，tashoudaodan，songyigewaimaisongcandaomouyijiudiancantingjiyigenanxiaofeizhe，zheigezaipingshishizaiyibandanshideshile。dandengtaqiaolejiudiankefangmenhoutajiubengkuile，youyukaiguanmendegengshizishendenvyou。

 tingshuotashixiaohuozizuihouyitianwaimaisongcan，youyutayaoxiashoutiqianzhunbeihenagedenvshengdehunyan，meiyouxiangqijuranfashengleneiyangbeitongdeshier。

 yingduineiyangdechangjing，henduorengangkaishi“kuanwei”ta：“kaigedian，zheishijishangshiyijianhaoshi，yaoburannihaibuzhidaoyaobeilvduozhangshijianni!”yeyouxierenweiwaimaiyuanmingbuping，shuo：“zheinvdezhenbingbushiwupin，zheixiaohuoleisileihuo、laokubenmangyibianzheiyijia。buxihuantajiufangtazou，weiheyaoneiyangsunhaiyigeren。”

 fangfoshuodedouyanzhiyouli，rujindajiapingxinjingqidequduidaiyixiazheigewenti。jubaodao，zheimingwaimaiyuanqianbujiujiuzaoyiheqinvpengyoudinghaolewanhundeshijian，lianggerenjiulianqingjiandouzaoyifaguochulai。

 yibiankeyizaijiehunhoujinvpengyouyigewendingshufudejia，waimaiyuanjiumeiriqizaotanheidegongzuozhong，danshishitawanwanxiangbudaodeshi，zishenderenzhengongzuohuandedequeshinvyoudechugui。

wojuedechukaiduiwaimaiyuandelianminheduiqinvpengyoudepengji(ruma)yiwai，youneimejigefangmianfeichangzhidewomendajiasisuo：

1.nvyouchuguigaizenmeban，doulaidaowanhundechengdu，weihewaimaiyuandoujuebuzhiqingren?

2.jiehunqianfajuezongbijiehunhoucaifajueyaohaohenduo?

3.zheiyiduanhunyinshenghuogaizenmeban?

4.ruhefangzhineiyangdebuxingchanshengzaiwomenzijideshenshang?

xiabian，womenyiqilaipouxiyixiazheisigedian。

1.女友出轨，都来到完婚的程度，为何外卖员都绝不知情人?

 qianbiandajiazaoyitiguo，xiaohuomeiridouxinkugongzuo，qizaotanheide。zheishijishanghehudajiajuedaduoshurendeshenghuozhuangtai，quanshiqizaotanhei，jinjincongyedegongzuozhongbuyiyangbale。huanjuhuashuo，yitianershisixiaoshi，jianghuidajiahelingyibanjiaowangdeshijianbingbushihenduo。

neishifoudaibiaozhejiumeiyoushijianshouhouni?bu，xixiangyixia。dajiachukaigongzuozhongzhiwaideshijian，douganshenmelaidao?

我不会掌握除开工作中，她们平时究竟在做些哪些。但我能毫无疑问的是，她们沟通交流太少，观查太少，关心太少。

 nvrenbianxindanfanduogoutongjiaoliu、duogoutongjiaoliu，duokankanliangyanlingyifangdemuguang，zonggaiyousuofajue。youyuzaidajiayanqiande，jinjingepingpingchangchangdesanxian，bingbushigegequanshiyingdiyinghou，nenggouyandeluhuochunqing。yaoshiduoliuyilingyifangdeyixieyantanjuzhi，kendingnenggoukandechutaquanbuxianlu。buhuijuebuzhiqingren，laidaocuobujifangdechengdu。

2.结婚前发觉总比结婚后才发觉好些的多?

 burongzhiyi，tashihaowuyiwende。rutongwangminshuodeyiyang：“kaigedian，zheishijishangshiyijianhaoshi，yaoburannihaibuzhidaoyaobeilvduozhangshijianni!”jinguanqingjianchuanchulaidao，keshizheihunhaowuyiwenjiebulele。zuishaolinshishi。danzheiyijingshibeijuzhongdedaxing。shexiang，ruoshizaijiehunhoufajue，jianghuihuishigegengdadeyanlidaji!

 ziran，youdewangminnaizhimingquetichu“jianghuitashijiehunqianzuihouyici，jiehunhoujiuburongyile”neiyangdejianjie。zhenduizheileixinkoukaihederen，dajiazhiyouzhiyousongtamaoci《niannujiao·niaoerwenda》lideyiju——“buxufangpi!”

3.这一段婚姻生活该怎么办?

 jinguanyoudianerxianchiluobudancaolao，keshihaikeyitanyitanjianjie。zheilibianzuizhongyaodeziranhuanshixukanwaimaiyuandeniantou，zhongjiuchengjianexingshijiandeyuanyin、neimu、guanjiandian，dajiazheizhongwangluopenzibingbushifenqingxi。

 youkenengdeshi，hun，linshibuyichuxian，yiyigewenguoshifeideyuanyinchexiaodiao。danlijingyiduanshijianhuoshishihenzhangqidexiaoqianhemolian，waimaiyuanyounengjienataneigenvpengyou，zaidubanhunliyebuyiding。

wanqianshijie，qianqibaiguai。renxinweiwei，wufachuaimo。

4.如何防止那样的不幸产生在我们自己的身上?

shijishangzheicaisuanshidajiazuiyingdangsisuo，yeshizuigengyouyiyidenanti。

ronghewomenzaidiyidianzhongdepouxijieguo，dajiadazhinenggouzhangwodaoyixiecuoshi。

一、多讲话

 paokaishouji，rengxiasuosui。jinyouduojiangduotingting，dajiacaikeyilejielingyifangzhenshizaixiangganshenme、xuyaoshenme，dajiayecaiyoukenenggengweiquanfangweidequai。erburongyizaocheng zheixieqianque、queshideai，rang“taren”qumibu。

二、多观查

 qianbianshuoguo，dandanfangepingchangren，ruguoyouwaiyudekeguanshishi，kendingnenggoufeichangrongyifajue。jinjinzheibixuxinideguancha，yigezishi，yijuhua，yigemuguang，yigexiguanxing……

三、多关注

 shijishangliangrenzaiyiqi，zuizhongyaodehuanshiyaoyouqinggan。meiyouganqingjichudeai，tongchangcuiluogebukanyiji。yinci，jiranliangrenzaiyiqi，neimejiuduorenzhenquailingyifang。haohaodiyunyingdelaibuyideqinggan，zheibishuoxieshenmedaolidougengguanjian。

四、多勤奋

 nvrenchuguimeiyousheihuixiaibuqiushangjinderen，jinyouchixudequtigaoziji，tishengzishen，qinfenrangzishenyuelaiyuegengchuse、gengyoushiyongjiazhicaishiyingdaoli。