发现对方出轨被背叛了应该怎么办？

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大家必须三个流程：

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 ②nenggouheziyipengyoufalaosao，neiyangdehuatamennenggoubangnijiangnixintaijizhenglihao，ruguoqueshifaxianwentidehua，qingshinijianxinderenlaigongbuzainideshenshangchanshengdeshier，nidepengyoushidiyishijianlejiede，zheiyangderenduinieryanniqueshishierwujiazhibaode。

ninenggentatantaode，yaorangzishenyingduizheizhongshijidehua，niyejiuhuishenxianlesunhaihejiaqinhen。

③ninengsidixiaduininanpengyouhuonvpengyou：

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