婚后发现老公有外遇该如何处理呢？

 hunyinshenghuozhongjiaruyifangyouhunhouchugui，mingquetichu，zuoweiwushouhaifangdenixuyaosoujiyouguandezhijiezhengjulaizhengshishitazijiyongyouhunhouchugui，guoshizaita，neiyangjiukeyizaifufuyigongyoudeqingkuangxia，xiangniwaixie。xiabian，woweidahuoerxiangxijieshaolaogongyouwaiyugairuhechuli。laogongjingshenchuguihainengyaoma？

老公有外遇该如何处理？

一、妥善处置自身的心态

 yidanquedinglaogongchugui，pingchangrendoushihuifashengnaonu、wuru、cuozhe、jiaolvqingxu、biequdengfuxingqingxu。zheizhongxintaidefashenghesuochanshengdeshiqingxiangduixingying，shiyiqiezhengchangde。yinci，dajiadiyibuyaojienazijizheizhongxintai。zaiwodezixungongzuojingyanzhong，xuduolaopozaizheigeshihouweilegenghaodizaicikangzheng，eranweizishen：“wobunanguo，wobushengqi，woshigelixingderen”。jieguozaochengdaliangdenaonu、wuru、cuozhe、jiaolvqingxu、biequdejilei，zaiyingduizhangfuhehunhouchuguishiqingshigengqianquekeguanheconghui。dierbubixuyouyigeanquanxingdexintaishifangchulai，lirunenggouheguimiqingtuzishencishidezheizhonghuaiqingxu，huoshixierijikonggao，huoshizhanyazhangfudezhenxin。

二、在三个月内不必做一切大的决策

 sangeyueguishuyuyajixingxinliyinyingqi，cihuanjienizuodeyiqiejuecedoukenengshiyizhongqingxubuwendingdejuece。zheiyijuecebingbushiyongyujiejuenanti，zhishiyongyujiejueqingxude。zheiyihuanjie，ninenglinshitaobinanti，zouniangjiazhuyiduanshijian，huoshichuqulvyou。xianjizijidexintaihexinlikongchushineikongjianlai。

三、给自己做一个决策

 hunhouchuguizaoyifashengle。nirujinjinyouliangtiaodaolunenggouxuan：diyi、liyi：jiarunixuyaoweichizishenweimeiyijingdelianaiguan，yaozuoyigewanmeizhuyi，conglaiburongxuzishenhuotarenzaihunyinshenghuozhongfancuowu，neimejiutiaoxuanliyi。buhuiyouduiyucuo，nichediyouzizhihequanlihexuanzezijiyaodeshenghuoxiguanhehunyinshenghuoqingkuang。jinjin，neiyangdeninengjiaoweijianxin，duizhangfuheguanliandeyankehenyoukenenghuizaochengxiangjinnantifashengzaizhihoudeguanlianzhong。dier、jiena：jienazhangfudequeshihunhouchuguile，gengjienazheijinjinduinimenhunyinshenghuodeyigetiaozhan，weizijiyigesikaodejiyu，jiguanlianyigefazhandejiyu．

四、和丈夫挑明

 jiarujinglilezhishangsanbu。nenggoutiaogeshijianhediquhezhangfuhaohaodidetanyitanzheiyishi。shijiantiyibuyaozaidabaitian，dabaitianrendeqingxuyejiaoweidantiao，dizhitiyibubizaijiali，youyujiafeichangrongyijijingshengqing，zaochengqingxubuwendingdegoutongjiaoliu。zuihaozaiwanshang，zaiwaimiandechashe。gaozhizhangfunidejuece。jiarunidejueceshiliyi，neijiuxuyaozoudebianshisifachengxule。jiarunidejueceshijiena，qidaizaicizheiyiduanfuqiguanxi。neizheigewentibianshi“dajiayitongdenanti”，bixuyitongquyingdui。

五、让丈夫自身去解决他与第三者的关联

 zuipingwendeguanlianbianshisanjiaoguanxi。wangwangfashenghunhouchugui，shiyouyunihezhangfudeguanlianbupinghengle，weilegenghaodifangzhigengebiandejieguofasheng，lirubulizhi、baolixingweihuoshiliyi，caitiaoxuanlelingyigerenzuoweiguanliandejunhengdian。jiarucishiniyouzaijuanjinzhangfuhedisanzhedeguanlianzhong，jiujiegoujiagulezheiyisanjiaoguanxidelaoguhua。yinci，zheigeshihou，dajiayitongyingduideyisishi，nijizhangfuxinlai、shiyong、shijianqujiejuetayudisanzhederenwujiaose，erbushilijiganyu，yulingyifanglianluohuoshishijiaoshe。

六、常见问题

 haohaoaiziji：buguanzainagehuanjie，doububizuochusunhaizishendexingwei。niderichangshenghuobujinyouzhangfu，yeyouxiaohaibabamama，qinpenghaoyou。xingmingzhongyebujinyouhunyinshenghuo，yeyougongzuozhong，yeyouqitayouyisideshi，zhaoguzijidexintaiherenti，caiyounengliangzaicizuochujuecehexiangqian。

 fangzhi“jijicushihunhouchugui”：zaiwodezixungongzuojingyan，baifenzhiwushizhishangdehunhouchuguizhijiezhengjuquanshilaopojijisoujierchengde：tongxunjilu、duanxiaoxi、hulianwangjiluzheixie。laogongjingshenchuguihainengyaoma？wenguoshifei、fengshengheli。zheiyijudongjiqinhailetarendegerenyinsi，rangzhangfuganjuebuxinren、gongzuoyali，youyouyigeqidaixiaoying，haoma，nijiranxiwangruci，woyedadaonia！zuizhongcushihunhouchuguiruyuanyichang！