90%的婚姻都会因四个地方而产生矛盾

　　dananzizhuyizhudongfenshouhoudexinlishiyigefuzaqieshencengcihuodongdezhuti。zaizheiyangdeqingkuangxia，neixieyongyoudananzizhuyiquxiangdenanshikenengqinshenjingliyixiliefanzadeneixinzhengzhaheqingxubodong。tamenyexugandaoshiwang、naonu、wunaihezize，erqietamendezizunshoudaoleshanghai。yucitongshi，tamenyeyoukenengchangshiyanshizijineixintongchu，biaoxianchulelengmowanqiang。zheileixintaikenengzaochengtamenduiguoqudeguanlian、benshenderenshijiqiweilaidezouxiangzaochengshenzhongkaolv。dananzizhuyizhudongfenshouhoudexinlishiyigezhidetantaoyulijietaolundehuati，youyutashejidaonanshizaixinliyanqiandemimanghefenqi。

　　迷途自尊心：分手后大男子主义的内心挣扎

　　dananzizhuyizhudongfenshouhoudexinli，zaiyiduanganqingguanlianwanchenghou，youqishizaidananzizhuyizhejijijuedingfenshoudeqingxingxia，neixindezhengzhahehunluanjingchangshizaisuonanmiande。zheiyiguochengqianshedaoduiyuzishenrenzhizizunxinzhongyaochongjixing，yaomianduibingzhangwozaiqizhongdexintainandian。

　　被动接受失望愤怒

　　fenshouhoudediyiganshishiwangfennu，zheishiyigechangjiandeqingxufanying。dananzizhuyizhehenyoukenenggandaobeiduishoupaoxiahuopanbian，zheizhijieshanghailetadezizun。tamenyexugandaonaonu，duilingyibangenzijichanshengzhiyi，naizhiduiyuzhenggeguanliantichuzhiyi。zheileibeidongjieshouxinlixianxiangnengshitamengandaoshifenyumenhexianrujuejing。

　　愧疚与不知所措的自我反思

　　zaitongchufennuyihou，dananzizhuyizhewangwangrongyixianruzizebuzhisuocuodeziwofansizhong。tamenhuisikaobenshendexingweiherenwujiaose，bingsouxunkenengxingdeguoshi。zheizhongneixinzhengzhakenengzaochengtamengandaotazaifenshoushangbanyanleyigefumiande、bufuzerenrenwujiaose，naizhirenweizijizaiguanlianzhongdezhongzhongbuzudaozhilefenshouchansheng。zheileizizewuliganhuijiashentadeneixintongchu，shitamenzaiqingxufangmiangengweimangran。

　　现象坚强和冷漠

　　weilebaohuzijizizunxinhelianmian，dananzizhuyiderenzaifenshouhoutongchanghuichangshibiaoxianchulejianqianghelengdandexintai。tamenyexuweizhuangzijineixindekuchu，biaoxianchulebuzaihu、bimianshanghaixingxiang。danshi，zheizhishiyizhongyangai，qibeihoudeneixinqingganheneixinzhengzhayirancunzai。zheileixianxiangjianqianghelengmohuiyanzhongyingxiangtadeshejiaoherenjijiaowang，jinyibujiashentadewuligan。

　　对过去的担心、将来的无助

　　dananzizhuyiderenzaifenshouhouhaihuiduiguoqudeguanlianzaochengdanxin，tamenwufajieshousangshilingyifangdeshiji。zheileidanxinhuirangtamenduiyufenshouyuanyinfanfuzhuomo，shituxunzhaowanliudegailv。yucitongshi，guanyuweilai，tamenyexugandaowunaihemimang，buquedingxingzijigaizenmemianduijiqizenyangquzhongxinjianliguanlian。

　　迈向成长与接纳的改变

　　jinguandananzizhuyiderenzaifenshouhouyaojingliyixiliedeneixinzhengzhayutongku，danzheigeguochengyenengchengweitamenchengzhangyujienadejihui。genjusikaoyuxuexipeixun，tamennenggougenghaodelejiezijideqingxuxuqiuyuzishencunzaidewenti。zheiyiguochenghenyoukenengxuyaoshijianlaiquanyuneixindewaishang，danshizuizhongnengshitamenzaicishenshiziwo，chuangjiangengjiajiankang、gongpingdeguanximoxing。

　　dananzizhuyizhudongfenshouhoudexinli，zhenduidananzizhuyizheeryan，fenshouhoudexintaizhengzhabujinshiyigeziwodenanti，yeshejidaoyizhongtedingtaierxingbiewenhuasixiangdekaoyanhechedigaibian。weiyoutongguorenzhihejienazijideneixin，tamencainenggenghaodebaituotongchu，zhongshipinghenghexingfukuaile。