情感维系：老公生病压力大，我还应该生孩子吗？

　　zaiaiqingshijieli，youshihoufenkaizhishiyizhongzanshixingdedaobie，erfuhejiuchengweileyizhongkeneng。renmenduifenshouhoushifouhuifuhesihudouyouzheyisixiwang，tongshihaiyouyifenyouyuhezaodongbuan。fenshouhouhaihuifuhedeceshitiyingshiersheng，tamenjishiyigexinliyouxi，yeshiyiciduixianghuzhijianzhenzhengaiqingdetiaozhan。zheizhongkaoshitihuorangrenchanshengqidai，huotuxianweisuifengerqu。buguanzenyang，tamenbianchenglefenshouhoulianggerenzhijiandexinlai、goutongyuxiangliandeyizhongfangshi。bushisuoyourendoutiaoxuanchangshizheiyikaoshiti，dantamendequenengzaiyidingchengdushangbangwomenshuliziyideqingganhepanduan。fenshouhouhaihuifuhedeceshitiyexumeiyoudaan，danshitamennengbangzhuwomengengqingchudilejiezishengenduifang，zuihouzaijuedingshifoujiyubicizhijianyicizaixuqingyuandehaojihui。

　　fenshouhouhuifuhedezhenshizhengzhao

　　改变自我，修补痛苦

　　fenkaiduiyumeigerenlaishuodoushiyiciyanlidaji，shiyizhongshenglixinliqingganzaochengdeshanghai。danshi，zhendexiangyaofuhederenhuichangshigaibianziwo，quchaoguoyiwangdeshangtong。tamenhuixunzhaozhihaodefangfa，ruzixunxinlixuezhuanjia、canjiachengzhangjiaoyukechengneironghuoshizhaodaoyizhongshihezijifangsongfangfa。tongguozheizhongqinfen，tamenkeyizengqiangneixindeliliang，zaicigoujianqiduiweilaidexiangwang。

　　重新建立友情，平稳情感基本

　　fenshouhou，2gedoubuzaishilianrenguanxi，danzheibingbudaibiaotamenbunengzuopengyou。zhenzhenzhengzhengqipanfuhederenhuichangshizhongxinjianliyouqing，yiwendingqingganjiben。tamenhuizunzhongduifangkongjian，jijikaizhanyitonghuodong，manmanhuifutamenzhijiandehudongxinlai。jianligengshencengcideyouqing，tamenkeyigenghaodelejiebici，bingbawojihuiranqiaiqinghuohua。

　　积极主动处理问题，提高沟通协调能力

　　fenshouhoudefuhelibulelianggerenzhijiandegoutongjiaoliu。weilekefucongqiandenanti，zhenzhenzhengzhengqidaifuhederenhuibangzhujiejueyiqiandemaodunhechongtu。tamenhuiqingtingduifangdexuqiuhejianyi，bingxunzhaojiejuewentidebanfa。tongguojijidejiaoliu，tabujinkeyigaishanyiyoudeguanlian，haikeyizengqiangxianghuzhijiandelejieherenke，congertuidongfuhedehaojihui。

　　重新思考爱情动因，保证长期平稳

　　fuhebingbujinjinzhishiguoqudehuiyihuoqinggandeyilaixing。zhendexiangyaofuhederenhuizhongxinshenshizijideaiqingdongyin，baozhengcicifuhechuyuzhenqinghezhangqixiangduiwendingdekaolvdao。tamenxuehuisikaocongqiandecuowujingyanjiaoxun，bingnuligaibianzijidejuexinyuxingwei。tamenhuibaochikaifangzhenchengdetaidu，zhuixungongtongmubiaohesixiang，yibaozhengfuhezhijiandeguanxinenggouzhangjiufazhan。

　　渐进性复合，给与时间和空间

　　fuhebingbushiyicuerjiudequanguocheng，ershiyaoshijianhekongjianpeiyangheqianghuade。zhenzhenzhengzhengjianxinfuhederenhuicaiyongjianjinshidefangfa，jiyubicizhijianzugoudeshijianlaizhongxinguihuaheshiying。tamenyebuhuijiqiequeding，erhuinaixindedengdai，guanchalingyifangxingdonghexingwei。tamenrenwei，zaijinglilegezihou，weiyoutongguoshijianhekongjiandechendian，cainengzuodaozhenzhengjuedingshifouzaiduzoudaoyiqi。

　　汇总：

　　fenshouhouhaihuifuhedeceshiti，bujinshiyizhongmolian，gengshiyicizhongxinsikaohechengzhangdejihui。genjugaibianziwo、xiubutongku，zhongxinjianliyouyihepingwenqingganjiben，jijizhudongchuliwentihetigaogoutongxiediaonengli，zhongxinsikaoaiqingdongjihejianjinxingfuhe，womennenggengqingxidilejiezijigenduifang，pandingshihebushihezaiduzouzaiyiqi。zhiyouxianjianxinyunuliquxingdong，caikeyirangfuhedehaojihuibianweimeihaodeshiji。chengshudeaiqingxuyaojingguofengyudexili，caikeyizaifuhedaolushangzhuozhuangshengzhang，zuihoumairushuyuzijidexingfu。