情感咨询：婆婆不愿意带孩子，如何处理好婆媳关系？

　　nanrenxiangdafenshoupaodeyuanyingezhonggeyang，quewangwangweiraolianggeguanjianyaosujinxing：yiyiyuduobi。zaiyiduanganqingchuxianliehenshi，nanrencezhongyucaiyongfenshoudefangshiquchulimaodun，yinweitamenbuganmianduimaodunhehenbuxiaxinfuzhunuliquxiubu。yucitongshi，nanrenjiuhuixuanzefenshoulaituixiezerenhewufachengshouyali，bulunshiaiqingdeshiwanghaishishenghuozhongdejiongjing。zheizhongxintaizaochenglehenduonanrencezhongyuyingyongfenshoupao，yiqiuxunsubaituo，erbuyuanquyingduihechulishiqing。

　　nanrentiaoxuanfenshoudezhuyaoyuanyingezhonggeyang，zheidangzhongbaokuolebenrenxinlizhuangtai、aiqingyaoqiu、shenghuoyalidenggegefangmian。xiabianjiangcongbutongjiaodutaolunnanrenxiangdafenshoupaodeyuanyin。

　　（一）矛盾与异议

　　躲避矛盾

　　nanrenjingchangcezhongyuraokaimaodunhemaodun，tamenhuijuedefenshoushiyigejianyijiejuewentifangfa，nenggoubimianzhengzhiyutongku。dangmianduiheqingrenchanshengmaodunshi，tamenningyuantingzhiguanlian，erbushiyonggoutongyurangbuqusikaowenti。zheileijingshenshangdeduobishitamenjuededafenshoupaoshizuijiandanfangshi。

　　情绪发泄

　　youshihou，nanrenzaixingfenhuowufakongzhiqingxuxia，huibafenshouzuoweiyizhongfaxiefangfa。tamenxiwangyongbaituoguanlianbiaodazijidebumanyifennu，weiciyilaixingrengelidetongchu。fenshoubianchengletamenqingxuxuanxiechukou，jibianguohoukenenghouhuidangchudejuece。

　　（er）zerenyugongzuoyali

　　推卸责任

　　nanrenzaimianduicuozhehuoshiduilingyibanbutaimanyiganshi，wangwanghuixuanzefenshoulaituixiezeren。tamenbukendanfuqifuzhunulixiufuguanxidezhize，ergengpianzhongyujiangwentiguiyinyulingyifanghuoshiziranhuanjing。fenshoubianchengletamentuixiezerendexingshi，shitamenmianzaojinyibudeyalikunhuo。

　　生活压力

　　zaixiandaishehuizhong，nanrenchengshoulegezhonggeyangshenghuoyali，rujingjiyali、gongzuoshichangjingzhengdeng。suoyidanggongzuoyalijidiandaoyidingchengdushi，tamenyexumeifajiangugongzuoyuhunyinshenghuo。fenshoubianchengletamenhuanjieyalidelujing，zaitamenkanlaibaituoganqingkunraokeyigengjiazhiliyugongzuo，congergaibianxianshizhuangkuang。

　　（san）fangfanyishihechengzhang

　　保护自己

　　zaiyiduanguanxizhong，nanrenkenengyudaolingyibandepanbian、mengpianhuoshisunhai。yudaozheiyangdeqingkuang，yibufennanrentiaoxuandafenshoupao，yibaohuzijidezunyanqingxuanquanxing。zaitamenkanlaitingzhilianxishizulansunhaizaicikuosandejuejiafangshi，jibianzheijiuyiweizhesheqixiufugaijin。

　　个人提升

　　youshihou，nanrenhuiyiweizaihunlianguanxizhongjushulenidegerenchengzhangyufazhanqushi。tamenyexujuedekunzaiyizhongmeiyouziyouhechengzhangzhuangtaixia，qipanxunzhaogengweiguangkuogerenjinglihejihui。yiner，tajiangfenshouzuoweiwanchenggerentishenghexiangwangziyoudexingshi，likaixianjieduandeguanlian。

　　suirannanrenxiangdafenshoupaodeyuanyinbujinxiangtong，danjuedaduoshurendouxiwangyongfenshoulaiyangaimaodun、dandanghegongzuoyali，huoshibaohuzijideneixinyuzhuiqiugerentisheng。danshi，womenyeyinggaigaoqingchu，fenshoubingbushijiejuewentiweiyichulu，goutongjiaoliu、rangbuyuchengzhangtongshiguanjianzhijiandeguanxiweichifangfa。