情感咨询：如何判断男生的追求是短择还是长择？

　　nanrentichufenshouhouzenmeyangwanhuishihenduorenzaiganqingshihuimianlindeyihuo。zheishi，zhongdianzaiyucaiyongmingzhidexuanzexingwei，zhaodaoheshidefangshilaizhengdeduifangzaicirenkehehehaoruchu。keguanjiaoliushizhongyaodeyibu，yaozhenxinchengyibiaodaguandian，lingtingbierendeganshou。ciwai，shidudekongjianheshijianyekeyibangzhubicilengjingfenxi，zhongxinshenshiguanxidezhongyaoxing。yucitongshi，gaijinzishenxingxiangyushenghuoguannian，zhanshichugengweidulijianqiangdewaimao，yekeyiweiwanhuiqudechenggongtishengjiyu。jinyoulinghuoyunyongzheizhongduice，cainengjizhongguiyuhaodiandingjichu。

　　从心开始，挽回逝去的爱情

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　　1. 诚信思考，寻找存在的问题

　　zaichangshiwanhuiyiqian，xianmanxialaifansiyixia，zhaodaozaochengfenshoudezhuyaoyuanyin。tanrandifanshengzijideyantanjuzhi，tanxunbenshencunzaidebuzu，bingjichuyouhuadefangan。jinyouzhangwocunzaidewenti，caikeyizhenduixingdichuli。

　　2. 重建信任，沟通交流尤为重要

　　xiufuheqianrendegoutongdefangshishizhongjianxinrendezhongyaorenwu。danshi，yiweidijiuchanbuqingheqiqiubuhuiyoushijixiaoguo。fanguolai，yaocaiqulizhiwanshandexintai，zhengdeheqianrenkaizhanduiwaikaifangerzhenchengdehuihua。qingtingbierendeganshou，zunzhongduifangdejuece，zhanxianchunijiuyijingchengzhangyubianhuadeyimian。

　　3. 提高自己，变成更强的人

　　zaiwanhuideguochengdangzhong，buyaobasuoyouzhuanzhulidoufangzaibierenshenshang。fanguolai，yaozhuyaotigaoziji，bianchenggengqiangderen。zhuyaobaokuofazhanqushinidexingquaihao，tigaozhuanyejineng，gaijinxingxiangqizhihewaiguandeng。genjuchengweiyigegengjiachusedulideren，keyizengqiangzijideyouhuoli，tongshiyekeyiweirihouganqingguanlianjiyugengjiajiankangxiangduiwendingdejiben。

　　4. 适当触碰，给与空间和时间

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　　5. 忍受和坚持

　　wanhuiyiduanganqingshihuafeishijianhenaixindi。zaizheiguochengzhong，niyexuhuiqinshenjinglibodongyubumingque，shenzhiyoukenengzaoyucuozhe。danshi，weichijijizhudong、jianchibuxienaixinshihenzhongyaode。jilao，ganqingxuyaobicizhijiandeqinfen，niyaozhenxiangzhewanhuizheiyiduanganqing，jiuxuyaoqieerbushe。

　　和好如初，收获美好将来

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