花镇情感导师蓝朵：如何说话显得我们情商高？

　　nanpengyoutifenshoubuyuanyijianmian，mianduinanpengyoudequelifenshou，dangchuneigechongchizhenongnongdeaiyiren，meiyoushenmeyongqiheyongqiqumianduiyiqianzuimeihaodehuiyi，taxuanzeduobi。huijuejianmian，huoxushiyinweidanxinmianduimuguanglidewunaihetongchu，pashiquzuiquanmiandezishen。yexu，zaixinlingshenchu，tajiurengranxinhuaiqidai，qidaizheiyichangfenshouzhishiyichangxunimengjing，buyuanyichengrenzhongguibukewanhuikeguanshishi。fenshoubuguanzenyangdoushihuidaijirenmentongku，erbuyuanyijianmian，kenengzhishitaqiaoqiaodiduozangzaitongkudangzhongdeyizhongfangshi。

　　挣脱里的内心

　　lianggerendeganqingyiqianhaosiyiduoshengkaidehuaduo，zaikongjiandexunhuanzhong，zhujiandiaoxie。nanpengyoujichulefenshou，ketaquebuyuanyijianmian。zheiyangdeqingkuangxia，bikaimianduimiangoutongjiaoliu，xinlingshenchudedanxinhezhengtuozenyanghuajieni？

　　痛苦的回忆

　　fenshouhou，zhuiyihaoxiangxijuandejufeng，yingmianerlai。zheixiexingfudeshiguang、wujinhuanxiaosheng，dangxiabianchengzuicitengxinlingshenchudewushidao。nanpengyoubukenjianmian，yexushiyinweitaburenxinzaimianduineixiewomenzuimeihaodehuiyi，yexushiduishiqudedongxihaipa，yihuozheshineixinshenchuderouruohemeifamianduideshiji。

　　矛盾的挑选

　　mianduifenshoudejuece，renmenchangchangshenxianmaodundetiaoxuandangzhong。yifangmian，dajiaqipanhetamianduimianditanyitan，xianglaixiangqu，biaoshuneixinshenchudebiequyubushe；lingyifangmian，dajiayehaipamianduimianjiangchi，danyouwufakongzhiqingxu，haipazijihuigengtongku。nanpengyoudebuyuanyijianmian，gengjiashiqianghualemaodundexintai，shiwomenshenxiandanxinhewukenaihedenitanzhong。

　　躲避与担心

　　huijuejianmianyunzangzheyizhongduobihekongju，zheiyeshirenleideqingganzhongchangyongdeziwofangyujizhi。nanpengyouyexudanxinmianduizhemuguanglidebengkuiyubushe，pabeizhiyizhefenshoudeyuanyinjiziyideshushouwuce。huoxu，zaixinlingshenchu，youyisixincunjiaoxingyuxiwang，qidaizheiduanganqingzhishiyichangxugoumengjing，yiqiedouhuizaicihuidaoyiwangdemeimiao。

　　寻找摆脱和自我疗愈

　　mianduinanpengyoudetifenshoubuyuanyijianmian，womenyinggaijizijiyigebaituodeshijianyukongjian。genjuqingtu、xuanxieqingxu、xunzhaozixundengfangshiziwoliaoyu，shizhongsuxinlijunhengdezhongyao。bulunshiyuguimiliaotian、xuanxiezaibenzishang，haishiyongzhuanyexinlizixun，doukeyibangzhuwomenmanmanbaituoneixindejiongjing，zhaohuizixinyukuaile。

　　面对现实和往前看

　　zuihou，womenyinggaixuehuimianduizheiyicankudeshishi。nanpengyoutifenshoubuyuanyijianmian，huoxujiushitazaoyizuochulequeding，womenbixuyaomianduizheigexianshi。xuehuifangxiawangridezhizhehebaoyuan，wangqiankan，zhongshizishen，zhaodaoxinderichangshenghuofangweiyuxingfu。

　　心灵的成长与自我反思

　　zheiyiduanganqingwanbibujinjinshiyicitongkudejingli，gengshiyigeshiwomentuibiandejiyu。zaijinglifenshouhebukenjianmiandeshiqihou，womennengfanshengzijizailianaizhongdenanti，bingtanxunyouhuadefangshi。bixucongxinlingshenchudefazhancainengrangzijizaijiexialaideganqinglibiandeyuelaiyuewanqiang、gengchengshu。

　　分手的价值与希望

　　jinguannanpengyoutifenshoubuyuanyijianmianjidajiadailaihendadetongku，danyexuzheiyeshiyunshijidajiadeyicimolian，yicizhongxinrenshizijihetanxungengjiahaodeguanliandehaojihui。fenshoubingbudengyubuzaiyongyou，kenengzaiweilaidemouyitian，womenkeyizaidumianduimiandixiangfeng，congtoukaishiyiduanyuelaiyuemeihaozhijiandeguanxi。

　　揭露心里实情和释放爱情

　　nanpengyoutifenshoubuyuanyijianmian，jinguantongchu，danyejielulexinlibeihoudezhenxiang。fenshoudekuchuxuyaodajiarenqing，bujinglilezhenzhenzhengzhengdekuchu，dajiayenanyizhenzhenzhengzhengshifangchulaixinlideaiqing。aiguotongguoleishuixili，dajiacaikeyixuehuizhenxihechongfenshifangchulai。

　　太阳自始至终在不远的

　　buguanfenshouhouyuanbuyuanyijianmian，taiyangzishizhizhongzaibuyuandejingjingdedengdaidajia。manmandi，womenjiangyaobaituokunjing，neiyigemeifajianmiandenanpengyoujianghuichengweidajiazhuiyizhongdeyibufen。yushijiandetuiyi，dajiafaxianzijiyuelaiyuejianqiang，yulaiyukeyimianduitongku，zaicixiangqiantuijin，zhiqiuneiyigezhenzhenzhengzhengguishuyuzijideaiqing。