ganqingzhuanjiazaixianzixunfuqiliangdoushihuizhengchao。dangtamenbianweieyizhongshanghemanmashi,jiubianchengledajiaguanliandemanxingduyao。zhengzhishibaochilizhihezhongshishifenguanjian。bubijingjiao、mazanghua、huoshibiaoshuduiniairendeyanfan。wanhuishishenmeyisi?zheizhongsuodaozhidesunhaishishifenwufatianbude。meiyouganqingdehunyinhainengwanhuime?
1、以“我”逐渐阐述,而不能用“你” 。
yi“ni”zhujiandezeguaishizaochengzhengzhidegengkuaifangshi。“nimeifuxinyongkazhangdan。”“nijuedetongdianhuakeshinimeida。”“niyoubashiernongdeyituanzao。”zheizhongyuyanbiaodarangrenchuzaifangyuqingkuang、chongchizhefumianqingxu,yibandajiadefanyinghuishishengjizhengzhihuoshitingzhigoutongjiaoliu——zheierzhongdoubingbushijijizhudongdejieguo。yinciniyaomingquetichuyijianshiqingdeqingkuangxia,yongtingshanglaibuneimazeguairendefangfabiaoshu。xiabianshixieshili:
"kanjianlexinyongkazhangdanhaimeifu。nizaiyijintianshangwuqufuyixiame?"
"yinweinixianzaiyouduomang,keshijiarunizheilibaitiannengkanyixiaxiaohaijiutaibangle。"
2、说“抱歉”时不必犹豫。
tashijuqitedehua,huishinideairendenaonuyixiazihuaweiwuyou。shijishang,yongyoutamen,zhengzhiyebutaifeichangrongyijianchixiaqule。nizuocuoshideqingkuangxiayingdangxiangyaorenrang。guzhijijianburongyigaijindajiadeguanlian。
3、试着反复另一方得话。
youshihoudajiaganjuewufachedilejieairenchangshibiaoshudeneirong。feichangrongyifashengwuhuilebierendehua,bingzhuyaobiaoxianchunaonuhuozhezaoshousunhai,ciwainideairenqueduiyucishijuedeyihuo。fanfulingyifangdehuanenggouchulizheigewenti。zainideairenbiaoshuletadeniantouyihou,fanfuyixianiduitadebiaoshu。nideairenyincijiunengquedingtadezhenzhengniantoushifouzheiban。meiyouganqingdehunyinhainengwanhuime?shinideairenyeneimezuo。neiyangnengxiezhudajianenggougenghaodixianghuzhijianzhangwolingyifangdegoutongfangshi。
jiaruyigerenshuo,“niyelichulai,liuwoyigerenzaijia,shiwoyizhongbeiyiqidejuede。”ninengneiyangfanfu,“tingnishuodeyisijiushiwoyelihepengyoumenchulai,nizaijialiganjuegudu。wokeyilejienidetihuile。”ganqingzhuanjiazaixianzixun
jiaruyigerenshuo,“womeiyicishizheyixiexindewupinshi,niyizhimeihaotingdehua。”ninengneiyangfanfu,“tingnishuodeyisishiwotaiaipengjile。womingbailewoneiyangzuohenyoukenengshinizaishizhexinwupindeshihouhuijuedechiyi。”
4、多应用具体性语言,多表述积极主动的內容
yanjiubiaoming,xianliaozhongjijizhudongneirongdaliangdefuqijiandehunyinshenghuogenglaogu、zhangjiu。nimeizhizeyici,jiuxuyaoshuowujianhaoshier。henyoukenengzuichuzheishibuyi,keshinizhixuxiguan,xiangnideairenshuohaotinghuabianhuibianchengtishidajiazhongjianganqingdefangshi。
zanyangtazuodeyouyideshier。
kuatadexingqing,liru“niyizhihenkailang,woainizheiyidian。”
yongxieroumeidehuadianpingtaderenti。
说“我喜欢你。”
5、争执的恰当方法
nilejiesunhailingyifangdeanjianzainaer;bubiquan。bikaitamendejiexian,wulunninyouduonaonuhuozaodongbuan。zongtimubiaobingbushi“sunhai”nideairen,zhishibiaoshuzishen。beibishizuobudaozheiyidiande。
youliangsanjushizhongbubiyunideairenshuo。wanhuishishenmeyisi?buyaoshuo“wobuxihuanni。”buyaoshuo“womenlihunba。”buyaoshuo“wocongbuaizheni。”buyaoshuoyiqieyiju,chufeishinijianzhineimexiangde,youyunishuolechuqujiucongcishoubuhuilai,gandadunideairencongciwufawangji。
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