恋爱宝典：怎么判断男友是不是极端类型的人

 zenmepanduannanyoushibushijiduanleixingderen?jinqianshiliangxingguanxizhongyigehenmingandehuati，tongshiyezaiguanxizhongqizhefeichangzhongyaodezuoyong。jintianhuazhenqingganzaibenwenfenxiangyigeqinggananli。

一、情感咨询

 benrennv，99nian，beifangren，muqianzaibeifangyisuoputongdaxuedubenke。nanfang98nian，nanfangren，dazhuanbiye，gangzainanfangmouchengshicanjiagongzuo，yuexin4k+。muqianzaiyiqi5geduoyue，yidi。

woxiangxianglengdazixundewentishi：ruhepanduannanyoushibushijiduanleixingderen。

tagangkaishizhuiwodeshihouduiwotebiehao，wozuomengdoumeixiangdaohuiyourenduiwozheimehao。

 woyikaishibuxihuanta，duitashuohuayebuzenmekeqi，youdeshihouguyiwuliqunao，xiangrangtazhinanertui，buyaomeitianjiuchanwo。danshimeicitadoutebiewenroudianfuwodeqingxu。zheiyidianrangwofeichanggandong。dangshiganjuewozuizaogaodeyimiantadoukeyijieshou，jiuwuxingzhongchanshenglehaogan，manmanjiuzaiyiqile。

 zaiyiqizhihoutabingmeiyoubiandeduiwobuhaole，haishixiangdangchuyiyang。shenzhizaiwoshenshanghuafeile2w+deqian，baokuodaiwoqulvyouzhileide。

 yinweiwoshixuesheng，suiranouerhuiqudaijiajiaozhuandianjianzhiqian，danshiyefudanbuqiwomenyidimeicijianmiandehuaxiao，suoyijibenmeicijianmiandoushitahuaqian。

 houlaimanmandetajuedewolibukaita，chidingwole，suoyimeiciwomenyoumaodunchaojiatadouhuitebiexiong，buguantazaibuzaili，douxuyaowoquhongta。

 qianjitianyinweiyigekuaidideshiwoliangyounaomaodunle，woliangdadianhua，tahouwoshuo：“nilaoshishuonibamadoumeiyouhouguoni，danshiniyoumeiyouxiangguo，younagenanrenhuixiangwoyiyangainima？”neitianwanshangwozhendehenhanxin，jiuhetatilefenshou，bingbalianxifangshidoushandiaole。

 houlaitanabutongdeshoujihaojiwodadianhua，yikaishiyiweiwozaishengqi，tahaishideliburaorenjuedewoyoucuo。houlaiyoudadianhuaguolaibiwohaitaqian，woshuojinwanzhifubaohaini，tashuowomashangyao，woshuowojinliang。

 ranhoutadadianhuaguolaiyoushuobuyaowohaile。ranhoujiuyizhizaizhifubaodeliaotianjiemianshangqiuwoyuanliang，hehao。woxinruanlejiuhehaole。wojuedetajiduan，xiangtingyixianindekanfa。

二、情感解答

zheigegushitebiehao，shiyigeguanyu“huananrenqian”deanli。

jinqianshiliangxingguanxizhongyigehenmingandehuati，tongshiyezaiguanxizhongqizhefeichangzhongyaodezuoyong。

erhenduorenyouyuquefalianghaodecaifujiaoyu，meiyoushuliyigeqiadangdejinqianguan，daozhizaiguanxidangzhongchulibuhaozheileiwenti。

jiezhezheigegushi，womenlaifenxiangyixia：womenyinggaiyongyouzenyangdejinqianguan。

恩威并施，为任性买单

shouxian，gushilinanshengdezuofakendingshicuode。

nanshengdecuowu，shibayongzaishehuishangdeneiyitao，daidaolelianggerendeguanxidangzhong。

tongsudeshuo，jiushinazheduifuwaimianrendefangfa，yonglaiduifuzijiren。

zheizhongshoufashidianxingde「enweibingshi」：

suowei“en”，shiyikaishiduinitebietebiehao。

yongnvshengdehuashuojiushi：“lianzuomengdoumeixiangdaohuiyourenduiwozheimehao”。

zheijiushirangyigenvrengandongdeshoufa，rangnvrenjuedesihushoudaoleyigetiandadeenhui。

 erwei，shidangzheigenvshengyaofenshoudeshihou，tadadianhuaguolaibitahaiqian。biyigexueshenghaizheiliangwanduokuaiqian，yongjingjishouduanbitajiufan。

zheizhongenweibingshidefangshi，jiushiyizhongdianxingde「kongzhifa」，rangyigerenlibukaitadehao，dantongshiyouhaipata。

erzheiyitaodebenzhi，qishijiushishehuizhongrengenrenzhijianzhengduoquanlidedafa。

zheicaishiwojuedezheigenanrenzuodezuicuodedifang，yeshitabuyinggaiyaodegenbenyuanyin。

fanguolaijiang，zheigenvshengyeyouyixiezhidefansihejiantaodedifang。

 biru，nvshengshuo：yikaishiguyiwuliqunao，erzheigeshihouduifangtebiewenrou，taganjuezijizuizaogaodeyimianduifangdoukeyijieshou，jiuchanshenglehaogan。

zaici，woyaotanyitan“jieshou”zheigeci，yinweizheigenvshengdui“jieshou”youtaidadewujie。

yaozhidao，“jieshou”gen“zongrong”shiliangjianshi。

jieshou，shiyigerenyuanyijieshounizuizaogaodeyimian。

 shidangniyudaohendadekunnan，shenzhishenhuanzhongbingshi，tayiranbulibuqi，zainipangbianzhaoguni，genniyiqiduixian“bicihuannanyugongdechengnuo”；

shinapaniyudaokunnan，tayehuiyizhiguwuni、zhichini、peibanni；

shinapanizijiyouyixiezijidougandaonankandeshiqing，tayenenglijieni。

danshi，ruguoyigenanrenyizhiyunxuniguyidewuliqunao，zheibujiaojieshou，zheijiaozongrong。

dagebifang，jiuxiangyouxienvhaizihuizaiwangshangshai，shuo“wolaogongtiantianjiwomaihenduolingshi，youpangle。”

zheijiaoshenme？zheijiao“weizhu”a！

ruguozuihouzhenjiubaniweidehenpang，pangdaozuihoumeirenyaodezhuangkuang，zheijiushizongrong。

yigezhenzhengxiwangnihaoderen，shixiwangnichijiankangdedongxi，ranhouhuipeibanniyiqiqujianshenderen。

suoyi，zuoweiyigenvhaiziyaomingbai，renshengdelushiyaowangshangzou，erbushiweizijiderenxingzihao。

yishang，shizheilianggerengezixuyaofanshengdebufen。

少花冤枉钱，学会支付代价

jiexialai，woxiangcongyixiasandianxitongditanyitan，womenyinggaixuexishenmeyangdejinqianguan。

第一点，金钱，本质上是一种流动的能量，它蕴含着一种信息。

shenmeqiannenghua，shenmeqianbunenghua，womenyidingyaogaoqingchu。

birushuo，lianggerenjiaowangzhichu，buyingdangshouduifangguofenguizhongdeliwu。

ershenmeshi“guofenguizhong”，qujueyuduifangdejingjinengli。

gushilizheigenansheng，yigeyuecaizhengsiqiankuai，nirangtahualiangwan，zheixiangdangyutayinianyibandegongzi。

zheijiudengyuchulejibendechizhuyiwai，tabasuoyouqiandouhuanishenshangle。zheiyangdeqingkuangxia，taxintaihuipinghengma？

baokuoyoushihouwangluoshangyouxierendelundiao，wozhenjuedeyouwenti，

 youxierenhuishuo，“woningkezhaoyigezhiyouliangwankuaiqian，danyuanyibasuoyouqianjiwoderen，yebuyaozhaoyigeyouyibaiwanjiwoshiwanderen。”

wobushuozheizhongxiangfashiduihaishicuo，danwozhixianggaosudajia：

duiyuduifangdefuchu，buzhiyaokaolvduifangdenuli，haiyaokaolvtadedaijia。

ruguoduifangxianzaishiyigeyinianzhengyibaiwanderen，tahuilaizhuizheiliangwankuaiqianma？

很大可能是不会。

jiangzheiduanhuabushirangdajiayidingyaoquzhaoyigenianrubaiwanderen，ershixianggendajiashuomingyigedaoli：

pingjiayigerendefuchu，jiyaokaolvdaoduifangdenengli，yeyaozhidao，suoyoudeliwu，anzhongdoubiaozhetadejiage。

第二点，树立正确的消费观。

 nishiyigexuesheng，duifangyemeishenmeqian，nimenquepaochuqulvxing，xiaofeihualezheimeduoqian，zheixianranyijingchaochulenimendenengli。

xiaofeiyidingyaoliangruweichu，xuehuichuxu。

keyishuo，meiyouyigeyouqianrenbushicongchuxukaishi，suoyourendoushixiancongcunqiankaishide。

nimenxianzaishizhiyouxiaofei，meiyouchuxu。

 tuiyiwanbujiang，jiusuannimenliangxianzaijiehunle，nimenshiyigecaiwugongtongti，nikeyisuibianhuazheixieqianle，yebuyingdanghuazheiliangwankuaichuquwan。

 zheiliangwankuaiqian，niyinggaishengxialaimaifang，huozheshishengxialaizuochuxu，zuoshenmedoukeyi，danshibuyingdangzaizheigeshihouchuncuidequdaexiaofei。

nimenxianzaizheigezhengqianjieduandexiaofeijiao「lianglierxing」。

 kenengjiuxianjieduaneryan，jiuyinggaibalvxinggaichengkanchangdianying，huozheshiyiqichigexiaochi，zheixiedoushinimendexiaofeinenglikeyifugaidedifang。

henduoshihou，womendoushibeixiaofeizhuyidaizhezou。

wokandaoyourenxinniandeyuanwangqingdanlimianxiezhe：“wojinnianyaomaiyigexxmingpaibaobao。”

keshitazhishigeputongdezhiyuan，shenzhizhishiyigedaxuesheng。

ertazheiyangdeyuanwangshizenmelaide？zheihenzhidewomensikao。

womenmeigerendouyaojianshizijidejinqianguan，jianshizijishizenyangchuzhizijidejinqian。

wocengjinghualesi、wuniandeshijianxitongxingjizhang，jiluwozhichudemeiyifenqian。

zaididacaiwuziyouzhiqian，woconglaidoushijiluzhemeiyifenkaizhi。

zheiyangzuodeyuanyinhenjiandan，woxuyaozhidao：

zijideqiandouqunalile？

zheifenhuaxiaoduiwolaishuoshifouzhide，shifouyoubiyao？

zheifenhuaxiao，duiwodeshengmingjiujingyoumeiyouzhangyuandejiazhi？

womenhuachuqudemeiyifenqian，douyaoduideqita。

 ruguonibuzhenxishoushangdemeiyifenqian，suisuibianbianbatahuachuqu。jinqianzheigexiaopengyou，tapaolejiuyongyuanbuhuizaihuilaile，yinweitazhidaonigenbenbuaita，tazhidaonigenbenbuzhenxi。

第三点，成熟的过程是学会支付代价。

guanyunishifouyaohaizheigeqian。

womenkeyishuo，zuoweiyigenvhaizi，gentajiaowang，qishimeibiyaohaizheigeqian，yinweitazhuinibenlaijiuyinggaihuaqian。

danyaozhidao，zaiyikaishishiniyonglezheiyici，jiao“meixiangdaoyourenduiwozheimehao”。

zheishuoming，zheiyexuchaochulenixunchangdedaiyu。

zheishihouniyaozhidao，zheiliangwankuaiyexujiushinirenshengzhongzuizhongyaodexuefei。

 ruguozuihounizijinuliquxiangbanfazhuanqianbazheiliangwanhaile，nizheibeizidoubuhuisuibianxiahuaqian，yinweinihuitongguozheiyibixuefeizhidao：shenmeyangdeqiannenghua，shenmeyangdeqianbunenghua。

dangran，ruguonimendachengxieyi，nibuxuyaohaizheibiqian，zheiyeshinimenzhijiandeshi。

danruguowoshini，wohuiquhaizheigeqian。

 “kenengwoshigexuesheng，meiyouzheimedanengliyicihaiwan，neiwojiugenniqiangexieyi，napawojiuzaizhifubaoshangmeigeyuehainiwubaikuai，haigejinianjiuhaiqingle，zheiyangniyihoujiubuyaofanwole。”

napanicongouerdaijiajiao，bianchengjingchangzuojiajiao，yigeyuezhenggejibaikuaiqian，niyenengbazheiqianhaile。

zheiyangnimeiyiciquzhuanqiandeshihou，neixinlijiuhuiyouyigejiaoxun：

woxianzaizhengzaihaizhai，zhengzaifuchudaijia。

neiyihoujiubuhuisuibianhuaqian，suibianzaidiaoruxiayigekengli。

danruguozheicijiaoxinggentatanhaolebuyonghaiqian，lianggerenyehepingjieshule，neixiayicini？

nimeiyoujiaoxuefei，nibuhuizhangjixingde。

yigerentongle，caihuirangshangkoujieba。

nibuzhangjixing，xiacikenenghaihuidiaokengli。

suoyi，ruguowoshini，wojiuhuiquhaizheibiqian。

yinweiwozhidao，zheishiwoyaozhifudedaijia。

chengzhang，jiushixuehuiaidayaolizheng，xuehuizhifudaijia。

zongshangsuoshu，yishangsangefangmianzhishiguanyujinqiandeyixiexiaofenxiang。