lengchulijiushifenshouma,danglianggerenzhijiandeganqingzhujianzhileng,bicizhijianzhujianshengshu,jiujingchangbeichengzuo“lengchuli”。jinguanlengchulidequedaibiaozheguanxidebianqian,danzheibingbuyiweizhebidingfenshou。lengchulinenggoushiyizhongzanshixingdejianqingfangfa,jiyubicizhijianyiduanshijiansikaoheyouhua,yekenengshiyizhongzhujiandanhuaaiqingdeshujuxinhao。danshi,zuihoulengchulishibushizaochengfenshouzaiyubicizhijiandequedingyunuli,zhongdianzaiyushifounengranqiqinmiwujianguanxihejianligengyouxiaodegoutongfangfa。yinci,lengchulibingbuyiweizhejieshu,ershiruhejiejuezheiyiguochenghewanhuiaiqing,caishizhongdian。
问题的核心:冷处理的内涵
lengchulizheicihaoduorendouyousuoerwen,danjiujingdaibiaozheshenme?youxierenshuolengchulibianshifenshou,yourenzeyongyoufanguolaidejianjie。danshi,yaochongfenlijie“lengchulijiushifenshouma”zheizhongqingkuang,womenyinggaishenrufenxilengchulideshizhihanyi。
界定:关系的停滞期
lengchulizhideshizaiyiduanganqingguanxizhong,biciyinweimouzhongyuanyinerxinshengxianxi,zaochengtamenzhijiandeqinmiwujianshuipingkuaisubianruo。zaizheigeshiqiwangwangbeibiyuweiqingganshangdelengqueqihuotingzhiqi。zailengchulihuanjiezhong,fufu、lianrenhuopengyouzhijiandegoutongjiangdi,hudongjiaoliuyuelaiyueshengshu,jishaoyoujijizhudongdeqingganbiaoxianhuohuxiangdiaokan。
阶段一:理智思考
yidanchuxianlengchuli,shuangfangdoushijiyulizhisikaoguanxidewentisuozai。zheishiyigezhongyaodejieduan,youderenhuijiecijihuishizhangsikaotashifourenghaixiangjixuzheiyiduanguanxi。zaizheiyangyigejieduan,lengchulikeyichengweiyigejiyu,rangbicihuiwangzijideyaoqiuheqiwang,zhongxinshenshishibushitamenduiyuguanxihaibaochongmanxinxinhechengnuo。
阶段二:情感上的调节和重建
lengchulibingbuyidingyiweizhejiangyaofenshou,zaidaduoshuqingkuangxia,tazhishiyizhongqingganshangdediaojiehezhongjian。genjujiyubiciyidingdekongjianyushijian,lengchulikeyibangzhutamenzhongxinzhenglizijidexinqing,bingsikaozenyanggaishanheduifangdehudongxingshi。zheishihou,bicibixugoutongxieshang,chengxinbiaoshubicizhijiandeyaoqiuheqidai,xunzhaojiejuewentidecelve,bianyuzaicilajinguanxiheyouhaodu。
阶段三:挑选分手或是重归于好
lengchulizuihoudejieguozaiyubicizhijiandequedingyunuli。mouxieqingkuangxia,lengchulikenenghuiyinqibiciqiangliebumanheshuyuan,jinerdaozhifenshoudejuece。danshi,zaibiedeqiantixia,genjulengchulideyigeguocheng,biciyeyoukenengfajuebicizhijiandebiyaoxingyijitaxiangjixuzaiyiqideyixiang。zaizheigeguochengzhong,zhongdianzaiyubicishifounengyongxingoutongjiaoliu、zhenzhenzhengzhenglingtingduifangdexuqiu,bingbuduanchuliwenti,jinerzaihuxianggongtongnulixiaranqiaiqing,huodegenghaodeguanxiqingkuang。
结果:冷处理非分手必定
lengchulijiushifenshouma,zongdelaishuo,lengchulibingbudengtongyufenshou,tazhishiyizhongguanxichuxianwentidelinshijianduanqi。shibushijinerdaozhifenshou,zaiyubicizhijiandequedingyunuli。ruguolianggerenkeyiyongxingoutongjiaoliu,bingkeyiweilegaijinguanxifuzhunuli,lengchulifandaokenenghuichengweiguanxixiufuzhongjiandetupokou。yiner,bunengjiandandijuede“lengchulibianshifenshou”,ershiyaokeguankandailengchulideneihanheqianzaigongxiao,jiyuguanxitishengdejiyu。
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